Death of a Parent, Special Topics

Connecting With Mother After Her Death

Thursday, April 30, 2009

By Jane Greer — As difficult as Mother’s Day can be when you are facing the loss of your mom, it also can become an opportunity abounding for afterlife connection if you are open to it or are ready to open up to it. Receiving a sign from your loved one is an incredibly powerful experience that brings with it tremendous healing and comfort. Most importantly, it is something that you can initiate through “transcommunication.” In my book, The Afterlife Connection – A Therapist Reveals How To Communicate With Departed Loved Ones, I teach readers how to specifically ask for […]

Special Topics

Finding Joy in a World of Losses

Wednesday, April 29, 2009

Everything in this world that lives, will one day die. That is a fact of life. From the moment we are born we begin a journey that ends the same for every human being. And along the way, we will lose many, many things: Time, loved ones, beloved pets, material things… So in the midst of so much loss, how can we persist and thrive? Some people are bubbly and upbeat, and some are sullen and negative. And most of us exist somewhere in between. So how is it some people cope so much better with life’s ups and downs than others? And why does […]

Children & Teens, Death of a Grandparent, Special Topics

“Honey, Grandma Died”: Talking to Your Children About Tough Issues

It’s so, so hard to have to tell your son or daughter that their grandfather, grandmother, or parent has died. We dread it so much that we avoid it, but this is a time when our children need us to most. They need us to be clear. They need us to answer their questions. How Do You Tell a Child That a Loved One Has Died? Keep it simple. Use “died”, not “He is sleeping.” Allow your child to express raw feelings freely or ask questions. Answer questions honestly and simply. Do not go into detail, unless asked. If the death […]

Death of a Child, Special Topics, Your Grief

How Can We Help You?

by Sandy Fox “How can we help?” Parents, relatives and especially close friends have asked that question of bereaved parents… perhaps even to you. Were you reluctant to answer? Here are 10 suggestions of what you may want to say to others to keep communication lines open and promote understanding of your situation. 1. Encourage me to talk about my child and truly listen to what I have to say. You may learn something you never knew that could be of help in how you react to me. 2. Call and ask me to go out with you to lunch, […]

Death of a Parent

Does anybody want to play catch?

When I was growing up one of my favorites things to do was to play catch.   It didn’t matter what the ball was.   It could have been a football, baseball, or basketball, I didn’t care.   I could play catch or shoot baskets for hours on end and not get the least bit bored.   I always had this vision growing up that my Dad, when I was a little kid, would want to play catch with me for hours and feel like it was the greatest thing in the world he was doing at the time.   […]

Children & Teens, Death of a Child, Death of a Sibling, Special Topics, Your Grief

Little People with Big Hurts

Tuesday, April 28, 2009

By Cathi Lammert, RN – Most children who have a sibling that dies due to a pregnancy loss, stillbirth or in the first few months of life will experience a grief reaction.  However, often times, their grief is overlooked or discounted. Parents may be so overwhelmed by their own grief that they are unable to assist their children with their issues. Parents often ask me “Will my child be negatively affected by the death of their baby sibling?”  I have to say the answer to this question is, “Usually not, if the child’s grief is acknowledged.” In this article, I […]

Death of a Parent

Daughter Resents Mother’s Happiness After Death of Father

Sasha writes in: My father passed away three years ago following a stroke. I loved him very much but I have never gotten on with my mother. My sister told me yesterday that our mother has started dating again. Apparently it’s been going on for six months – maybe more. I realise it’s childish but I’m very angry with her. I feel like it’s a betrayal of my father and of course us (the children). I should be happy with her, I know, that she’s able to get on with her life. My sister tells me that Mom keeps a […]

Death of a Parent, Special Topics, Your Grief

Mother’s Cheerful Dying Days

By Karla Wheeler If you did a double-take when you saw the word “cheerful” in the headline above, you’re not alone. I did the same thing when I began to proofread the first draft of this Mother’s Day article. I realize “cheerful” doesn’t seem like an appropriate adjective for describing someone’s dying days, not unless that person was a positive thinker who always saw the glass as half full – to overflowing – rather than half empty. That was my mother. There she lay during her last weeks of life, bedridden from the rapid advance of lung cancer, dependent on […]

Special Topics, Your Grief

What You Can Do to Help a Grieving Person

By Jane Galbraith — When we are with a grieving person, it’s common to feel helpless, or to not know what to say. We think we might make the situation worse.  Well there ARE things that we can do or say to help those who are grieving. We can help, and not just in little ways. Here are a few points to consider when you are trying to help someone who is grieving: 1. First and very important, talk about the person who has died. It seems that we never want to mention their name. I know it comes from […]

Death of a Child, Military, Special Topics, Your Grief

Vet Centers Offer Grief Counseling for Military Survivors

Monday, April 27, 2009

Bereavement counseling is assistance and support for people with emotional stress following the death of a loved one. It can include a broad range of transition services, including outreach, counseling, and referral services. The Department of Veterans Affairs offers bereavement counseling to parents, siblings, spouses, and children of Armed Forces personnel who died in service to our country, including family members of Reservists and National Guard service members who died while serving on federally activated duty. The VA’s bereavement counseling is provided by the VA Vet Center program, which operates a system of 232 community-based counseling centers. These Vet Centers […]