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Still, but Not Stagnant

June 26, 2017

Grief often makes us slow down.  We simply don’t have energy, and we must allow our bodies and souls to rest more.  Yet, this does not have to mean that our being still signifies an absence of growth.  As we practice self-compassion and give ourselves permission to have periods of rest and stillness, we can […]

The Three Points

June 26, 2017

  My experience with grief tells me that while grief is different for everyone, there are commonalities in the questions grievers ask.  How do I move forward?  Why does grief take so long to get over?  What does normal look like now?  These are just some of the questions that linger after the death of anyone […]

Son’s Death Like the Loss of a Limb

June 26, 2017

Grief? I can only explain it one way to those who ask how I am. To anyone who dares ask if I am getting over it. My son’s death was like having a leg cut off, the edge where it was hacked off remaining raw and exposed, scabbing over at times, just waiting for someone to […]

Welcomed Tears

June 26, 2017

I have met many people since my son David died 8 years ago who have struggled with the death of a loved one. We have all have had different challenges in moving forward with our lives afterward. It is especially difficult when the person who has died was taken early in their life, when they […]

My Summer of Grief Led to New Normal

June 26, 2017

Our daughter died on July 19, 2005.  The shock of her suicide and my own gut-wrenching grief that day is painful to remember.  No one in our family knew what to do or how to react.  It was like falling out of a boat in the dark at high tide.  We couldn’t “swim”.  We couldn’t […]

A Letter to Grieving Mothers

June 25, 2017

Why did this have to happen?  It is the first question you ask.  It is the question you will ask yourself day after day as you grieve the loss of your child.  Welcome to the club.  It is a club that none of us join freely but once you enter, you are in and cannot […]

Land of the Ill

June 24, 2017

Recently, my friend’s mom was dying.  I had no idea what to say or do. Because I’ve been through it all — the hospital waiting rooms, diagnosis, ICU, oxygen machine, the relapses — I’d like to think I’d know exact right quip or quote.  My friend would call and explain the situation: fluid behind his […]

The Myth of the 5 Stages of Grief

June 24, 2017

As a mental-health counselor and a sixty-something-year-old human being, I have found that you cannot fit grief into a neat list of stages on some linear continuum.  The so-called five stages of grief actually are a myth. Grief doesn’t come in stages, but in cycles. These cycles may come in waves like a gently rolling […]

possible from new writer, Mike Russell

June 22, 2017

The Three Points   When life is framed within the confines of grief, it can be limiting in choices for the survivor.  I think that the rest of the world thinks that choices are easy, or they want that for you as the survivor.  My experience tells me otherwise.  While grief is different for everyone, […]