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Fingerprints: Losing a Husband, Living with Grief

June 15, 2017

When he used to take off his socks next to our bed and throw them ceremoniously to the cork floor, he would spread the fingers of his chubby peasant hands on the wall of our bedroom to keep his balance before rocketing into bed beside me. It took at least three years to have a finished […]

Spring: Memories of Love, a Chance for New Growth

June 5, 2017

“You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.” ― Pablo Neruda   Spring rain brings May flowers This was my partner Kim’s favorite time of year. I watch her child-like actions as the flowers bloom and the trees bud. She knew the names of them all, closing her eyes while […]

Cheryl Lankford: Empowering The Bereaved

April 6, 2017

Cheryl Lankford’s husband, Command Sgt. Major Jonathan Miles Lankford, served 23 years in the Army. At the time of his death, CSM Lankford was deployed to Baghdad, Iraq, with the Army’s Explosive Ordinance Disposal Unit. Cheryl is actively involved with TAPS (Tragedy Assistance Program for Survivors), helping other bereaved military families. http://opentohope.s3.amazonaws.com/wp-content/uploads/2017/04/04083937/Cheryl-Lankford.mp3Podcast: Play in new […]

The Blessing

February 14, 2017

Not long before Joanne, my wife, died, she told me she expected me to love again. She said it would “not be right to waste all the lessons we’d learned,” and I was “too young” never to love again. When I replied that I couldn’t imagine any love ever being as good as ours, she […]

‘Do You Cook for Yourself?’: How to Remember a Loving Husband

January 7, 2017

“Do you cook for yourself?”  a new acquaintance asks me. I smile to myself. She has no idea. She has opened the door wide. I begin: “No, I do not cook. My husband did everything with joy and skill for the entire time of our marriage.” I have one subject that fills my soul: the […]

My Second Chapter: Life, Marriage, Family

January 4, 2017

Many people ask me, What’s it really like being re-married? My widow(er) friends want to know if I’m as happy as I was in my first marriage, if I compare my two husbands, why I’d risk being a widow again, and most importantly, if my new husband is understanding. Can you talk about James with him? […]

Joanne Moore: Spouse Loss, Living in a New Way

December 15, 2016

When Dr. Moore was widowed, she sought mentors for living in a new way. She was inspired by the stories of more experienced widows and widowers. This prompted her to found the magazine, Pathfinder: A Companion Guide for the Widow/er’s Journey, and Right After the Loss of a Spouse: What’s Next?

Thanksgiving Darkness

November 24, 2016

Coming home after work in late November, I hear the sounds of children laughing and look down from the BART station at the playground of St. Leander’s School. Children are running around, playing kickball, and delighting in life. My wife Evelyn tutored at the school after hours for several years as her health slowly improved […]

Peter Lichtenberg: Spouse Loss

October 27, 2016

Dr. Peter Lichtenberg is a clinical psychologist and professor at Detroit’s Wayne State University. Peter specializes in patients with geriatric issues. When he was finishing his degree in clinical psychology at age 25 his wife Becky died while jogging. Thirty years later his wife Susan died of breast cancer. Grieving and healing from these two […]