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Shades of Grief: How Personal Traits Influence Our Grief

August 7, 2017

  The popular press is full of articles about how your personality type affects your happiness and success. Please ignore them–also the official diagnostic manual of the American Psychiatric Association. A technical diagnosis may help a professional help you, but to look it up may be confusing and do more harm than good. Everyone is […]

Sharon Strouse: Collage Therapy to Process Grief

August 5, 2017

The author of the book Artful Grief, Sharon Strouse, spoke with Dr. Gloria Horsley during the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference about collage therapy. “This book came out of the experience of losing my daughter to suicide in 2001. She was an artist herself.” It took a year, even in therapy, before […]

Mary Jane Gandour: Sibling Loss

August 3, 2017

Recently retired clinical psychologist Mary Jane Gandour spoke with Dr. Heidi Horsley at the 2015 Association of Death Education and Counseling conference. Currently, Dr. Gandour is writing a memoir about the grief process. “My daughter Amy died at the age of 14” of leukemia, and that’s just one of many family deaths in the past […]

Doneley Meris: Diversity and Grief

July 30, 2017

A psychotherapist in New York City, Doneley Meris’ mother was a nurse and he was exposed to death and dying from a very young age. “I love what I do,” he tells Dr. Heidi Horsley during the Association for Death Education and Counseling 2015 conference. Working in the field of death and grieving for 34 […]

Shades of Grief: Culture Shapes Our Mourning

July 30, 2017

  Apple recently developed a screen with a billion different colors and advertised it as an improvement. It may be on iPad, or iMac, or both. But who cares? We already own screens with plenty of colors. We didn’t buy them for the colors. We bought them for data processing, mainly words, and news. News […]

An Evolution of Feeling: How Grief Changes Over Time

July 26, 2017

  I’ve noticed that, as a rule, we don’t particularly care to talk about how old we are, so I was amused when a friend did some arithmetic based on some of my recollections and determined that I am 70. We had been discussing worry and he wondered if I worry less now that I […]

How Can I Connect With My Child-In-Spirit?

July 25, 2017

If you are reading this article, let me first say that I am so sorry for your loss. No one understands the wounds of loss better than another bereaved parent. Nothing is more devastating than attending your own child’s funeral and I’m sorry to be welcoming you to this club. That said, let me share […]

After Loss: Pecking at the Shadows of Our Past

July 25, 2017

To Be Mindful During my twenty-seven years of employment as an addiction counselor, I routinely addressed the importance of mindfulness with my clients. From my  experience, mindfulness is a tool that, among other things, serves to slow rapid and intrusive thoughts, reduce anxiety and facilitate better lifestyle choices. Mindfulness is essential in helping us focus […]

Gardening Through Grief

July 24, 2017

  I think back to the summer of 2011, when our oldest son died suddenly in August.  From that moment on, my life forever changed.  All the plans I had made were now in the background as I searched for normalcy. Even daily routines were put on hold, as I grappled with just doing the […]