Vicky Bates

After 18 years of marriage and career, we decided to adopt two babies. My oldest had many health issues which after 10 years led to a fatal anaphylactic shock. I believe that my spiritual beliefs helped me understand that the tragedies we face challenge us to confront our pain and slowly work through it. That is what I did through helping with hospice and watching the process of transition for the dying and seeing that even in the hardest times the gentle kindness of humor is a necessary tool.

http://www.Losingachildfindingyourself.tumblr.com

Articles:

Connecting to the First Christmas, 09 Dec 2014

After Son’s Death, Rising Above, 13 Mar 2012

Accepting What We Cannot Control, 01 Feb 2012

A Higher Self, 10 Dec 2011

‘It’s Our Responsibility to Find Hope Again’, 11 Oct 2011

Hospice Volunteer Never Felt ‘So Close to God’ Before, 19 Aug 2011

Volunteering for Hospice Brings Us Close to God, 09 Jul 2011

Grief Styles: Women Verbalize, Men Internalize, 01 Jul 2011

‘Heartbreaking Events Followed by Extreme Growth’, 02 Jun 2011

Active Grieving Can Return Hope After Child-Loss, 25 May 2011

Mother’s Day Flowers Keep Showing Up, 06 May 2011

We Can’t Get Through Grief with Logic, 13 Apr 2011

Son is Present in the Birds, 05 Apr 2011

From the Fires Come Unexpected Gifts, 14 Mar 2011

Winter on the Wane, Spring Hope is Coming, 08 Feb 2011

Loss of Child Makes Mom Appreciate Life Even More, 19 Dec 2010

What It’s Like to Lose a Child, 28 Nov 2010