Kirsty, thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry about your husband’s suicide and the death of your only son. Although it may be a dilemma when thinking about where to start sharing your story, I have found that … Continue reading
About Barbara Rubel
Barbara Rubel is a nationally recognized keynote speaker and trainer in the field of compassion fatigue and being resilient when tragedy strikes. While pregnant with triplets, her father, a retired NYC police officer died by suicide.
She is the author of the book, But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping children and families after a suicide. She wrote the 30-hour continuing education course book for nurses: Death, Dying, and Bereavement: Providing compassion during a time of need, sold through Western Schools. She co-authored the Dept. of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime Training Curriculum, Compassion Fatigue with Angie McCown. Barbara wrote a chapter in A Doctor’s Note, In H. Stone. (Ed.), Remembering our Angels. She was featured in the Emmy-winning documentary, Fatal Mistakes, narrated by Marriot Hartley. She was a hospice bereavement counselor, support group facilitator, taught undergraduate and graduate courses at Brooklyn College, City University of NY, and was a consultant with the NJ Attorney General and University of Medicine and Dentistry of NJ to support those impacted by the events of September 11th.
She is a consultant with the Department of Justice, Office for Victims of Crime and a bereavement specialist with sharegrief.com, an Internet site. Barbara created the Palette of Grief® Program for coping with traumatic loss and life changing events. She is a Board Certified Expert in Traumatic Stress, Diplomate, American Academy of Experts in Traumatic Stress, Certified Bereavement Specialist and Certified Pastoral Bereavement Counselor with a Certificate of Advanced Study in the Skilled Helper in Bereavement Care Giving.
Barbara has keynoted conferences across the United States and is a professional member of the National Speakers Association. To contact Barbara, visit her website at www.griefworkcenter.com.
Barbara appeared on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart” with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley
Books by Barbara Rubel
Posts by Barbara Rubel
Is it difficult to get out of bed in the morning and go to work? Perhaps you can’t pinpoint why you feel the way you do, but something just does not feel right. You are not yourself and can’t understand … Continue reading →
I am sorry to learn of your boyfriend’s death. His struggle with addiction must have been such a heavy burden for him. You shared that you are blaming yourself for not confronting him sooner. However you did say to him … Continue reading →
Marywith4, I am sorry to learn of your son’s death. As you struggle with what happened, continue to surround yourself with people who are caring and compassionate. You and I both know that there are no answers, but at least … Continue reading →
Are there more suicides around Thanksgiving and Christmas? If you are like most people, you believe this myth to be true. The fact is that most suicides occur in the spring. The University of Pennsylvania’s Annenberg Public Policy Center recently … Continue reading →
My father killed himself and on November 20th, survivors like myself will come together for National Suicide Survivor’s Day. This day was created by U.S. Senate resolution in 1999 through the efforts of Sen. Harry Reid of Nevada, who lost … Continue reading →
A storm has ravaged the East Coast and lives have been lost. For those of you who have lost loved ones, my heart goes out to you.
Do you remember where you were when you heard the news that America was attacked by terrorists? Earlier generations knew where they were when FDR gave his D-Day speech and President Kennedy was assassinated. Millions of people were intimately affected … Continue reading →
Vickie, I just returned from a program where I was presenting on coping with sudden loss. At the conclusion of my speech, someone came up to the podium and shared with me that her child died of an overdose. Vickie, … Continue reading →
I am sorry about your daughter, father-in-law, brother, and former son-in-law. Such sadness! I agree with what you said, “The problem with multiple losses is that there is so much grieving to do.” All that grieving can make a lot … Continue reading →
Michele, I appreciate your leaving your email address. I sent you an email and look forward to getting to know you. I think that there are many valuable ways to reach out to those who are bereaved by suicide. Whether … Continue reading →
Rose, I am sorry to learn about your son’s death. It must be so difficult for you and his two children. At 5 and 6, they are now just understanding what death really means. You shared that you do not … Continue reading →
Queenie22, welcome to the Open to Hope blog. It sounds like your brother’s suicide three years ago has touched your heart deeply. You mentioned that you feel like you are constantly swimming in an ocean. Boy, that can be so … Continue reading →
Elaine, I am sorry to learn of your daughter’s death and appreciate your visiting the Open to Hope blog for those bereaved by suicide. You mentioned that her death has caused so many illnesses in you that you had to … Continue reading →
Shirley, it must feel incredible to be able to reach out to other bereaved families in the criminal justice system and become an extended family. You have touched other lives and justice was served. I am sorry for your loss … Continue reading →
Donna, I am sorry to learn of the deaths of both of your brothers from suicide and murder and appreciate how thankful you are for the new forums at Open to Hope. I like your phrase “thriver” as it has … Continue reading →
I wish you could have been there . . . It was quite a sight. Three infant car seats with tiny faces and six wiggling hands and feet. We were going home, but my father would not be there to … Continue reading →
Shirley, your personal belief resonates in me as homicide can happen to anyone! I want to share with you how sorry I am about Sandra’s death. As a school teacher, her death must have touched hundreds of people. Learning from … Continue reading →
Your brother’s death was tragic and it is sad to think that people have told you that you should “be ok with it by now.” We live in a death denying society that would like you back to the way … Continue reading →
What is Palliative Care and Hospice? If you have been told that your loved one is terminally ill, this article will help you identify palliative care, hospice, advanced care planning, Five Wishes, and questions to ask during this difficult time. … Continue reading →
What would the world be like without holidays? Each year, families and friends look forward to sharing these special times together. This is often not the case for the bereaved, especially during the first holiday after a loss. If I … Continue reading →
Barbara Rubel’s book, But I Didn’t Say Goodbye: Helping Children and Families After a Suicide, is available at Amazon.com.
But I didn’t say goodbye! That’s all I could think about when I learned that my dad killed himself. Friends said that he “was no longer in pain,” and that he loved me. But I didn’t say goodbye and those … Continue reading →