We are alone. And we worry about that. We worry we will die alone. We buried our life partner. And now we worry about who will bury us? Who will walk our dogs, who will feed our cats when we’re gone?

You?re home now. A short while ago you stood over a hole in the earth. You blew a kiss, tossed a rose, sprinkled a shovelful of dirt over a casket, and said goodbye to your husband, your soul mate, the best friend you ever had. As you move about greeting hungry strangers, someone whispers that [...]

You?re home now — From the cemetery — Just closed the door on an endless line of well-wishing-filled-with-advice strangers who didn?t know what to say but talked endlessly anyway, and now that they?re gone you know you will never see or hear from most of them ever again. Your hair smells of roses and gladioli [...]

After my husband died, I trashed my writing — Journals — An accumulation of spiral bound notebooks, one for each month of each year for four years. And a YA novel manuscript I was working on. I blamed my husband’s dying on my writing. I told myself, Self, if you hadn?t spent so much time [...]

We want our husbands back. We don’t want your husband, your son, your father, your grandfather, or your cousin’s next door neighbor’s husband, her son, her father, or her grandfather. If we ask the simple question, “how is he doing” That’s all we mean. We may not want to be alone, but we never want [...]

We are women left. We experienced the best of times; The worst of times. And survived. We discovered the meaning of life — Nothing like the loss of a spouse to wake us up to that.

Your husband is dead. It is your first thought in the morning as you get out of bed and your last thought at the end of the day. You sleep alone. You sit at the breakfast table sipping coffee alone, and stare at an empty chair. Change is difficult and you wonder can you accept [...]

With the Holiday season fast approaching, and everyone you know, and wish you didn’t, is making merry… While you, the newly widowed, are thinking, Bah, Humbug… Is it any wonder you want to scream, “Stuff a sock in it!” to that man on the corner dressed in a red suit, with a white beard, ringing [...]

Then you suddenly find yourself without your life partner, you don’t know what to expect. Your world’s been turned upside down. Like the mighty oak caught in a fierce wind, you feel uprooted. Your feet don’t touch the ground. You think you’re crazy. But you’re not. You’re just a new widow. Your husband is dead [...]