The Light Switch | Post
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I was thinking today about grief and child-loss, and it occurred to me that losing a child can happen as fast as turning off a light switch. Here we are going on with our daily lives living day by day. … Continue reading
Author Archives: Louise Lagerman
Posts by Louise Lagerman
Running From Pain Doesn’t Work | Post
I tried to run away from you. I did. I thought that if I ran fast, I would be able to escape the pain I feel over losing you. It worked for a little while. Maybe a month or two. … Continue reading
The Day I Contemplated Suicide | Post
Many bereaved parents think of ending their life after their beloved child dies. The pain cuts so deep, and the longing to be with the child so intense. I am going to share a story with you of what happened … Continue reading
Parents Who Lose Children Become Survivors | Post
I have had a lot of parents, new on this grief journey, ask me if the feelings of intense anger they feel over their child’s death is normal. My answer is yes, a resounding yes. It is perfectly normal and … Continue reading
Poem: These Golden Moments in Time | Post
These Golden moments in Time Are caught between the stars and the sky You will have yours and I will have mine These Golden moments in Time Are like delicate flowers clinging on the vine Once the rain comes, they … Continue reading
Cypress Tree is Evergreen Memorial to Daughter | Post
I was in the garden yesterday planting flowers around your tree like I do every year. I plant marigolds, your father’s favorite flower. He loves the strong yellow color and how they feel light and bright like you. When he … Continue reading
Poem: The Silver Tears | Post
The Silver Tears And so it begins Silver tears falling like soft rain Cascading downward on its sad journey Arriving at my empty soul and shattered heart The silver tears come because we are apart I try to see the … Continue reading
After a Child-Loss, Be Gentle With Yourself | Post
Child-loss is so very devastating. In the beginning, you can find little or no joy. But after several months, I was able to feel some comfort. So I tried to zero in on that and do things that would relive my stress … Continue reading
Loss of a Child: A Pain Like No Other | Post
All loss is hard. All loss is lonely. But there is something about child-loss that puts it in a unique category. I have experienced other types of loss. When my very much loved father died in 2001, I was devastated. … Continue reading
Signs and Dreams from our Children | Post
Dreams and signs of our children. Do they really exist? Are dreams and signs a technique our deceased children use to contact us to let us know they are fine and indeed do live on? I believe with my whole … Continue reading
Great Joys Among Great Sorrows | Post
I have just been sitting here thinking about life. It is so strange. Everyone who has lost a child has been through such great sorrows, but we have also been through great joys in our lives. There was a time after … Continue reading
Celebrate the Time We Had With Loved One | Post
Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened. – Dr. Seuss I love this quote and I will try my best everyday to live this although some days it is challenging. Some days it takes great effort. Every day … Continue reading
Keep Child’s Memory Alive Through Words and Celebrations | Post
Four years ago, I lost my beautiful 23-year-old daughter, Keren, on March 18, 2006. Therefore, I know firsthand how painful it is to lose a child. At first, I really didn’t think I would survive, and almost didn’t. I knew … Continue reading