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	<title>Open to Hope Foundation &#187; Marty Tousley</title>
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	<itunes:summary>Are you suffering from loss? Feeling alone? Looking for hope? Join Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley, bereaved parent/sibling on their weekly Open to Hope Internet radio show. The Horsleys are founders of Opentohope.com and international experts on finding hope after loss. Their personal journey and the stories of their guests will inspire you and motivate you to again embrace the life that you have been given.</itunes:summary>
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		<title>&#8216;I Can’t Tell Them I’m Dying&#8217;</title>
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		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=i-can%e2%80%99t-tell-them-i%e2%80%99m-dying#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 05 Jan 2012 09:54:04 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Children & Grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping kids talk]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[A reader writes: I am married and the mother of three children. I have been told by my doctors that I have a rare and terminal illness. My husband and children love me and need me, and they do not know that I am dying because I cannot tell them. How can I tell the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dealing with Special Days: Anniversaries, Birthdays and Holidays</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=dealing-with-special-days-anniversaries-birthdays-and-holidays</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=dealing-with-special-days-anniversaries-birthdays-and-holidays#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 06 Dec 2011 09:20:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Anniversaries, Birthdays, Holidays]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I am just 10 days away from the one year mark of my wife&#8217;s death, and the last few days have been horrible. I have that all-too-familiar feeling of dread in the pit in my stomach and I have a hard time concentrating on anything. I don’t know how to explain [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Transitions: How to Recapture the &#8216;Drive&#8217;</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=transitions-how-to-recapture-the-drive</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=transitions-how-to-recapture-the-drive#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 26 Oct 2011 08:35:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grieving Styles]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?post_type=post&#038;p=43483</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader:  How do you bring back the &#8220;drive&#8221;? The desire to improve one&#8217;s self? The desire to learn something new, or to go with your goal? Since my husband died nearly a year ago, I&#8217;ve lost this drive and it seems hard to get it back. I still want to achieve some [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Did My Cat Go to Heaven?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=did-my-cat-go-to-heaven</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=did-my-cat-go-to-heaven#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Oct 2011 08:27:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Pet Loss]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Questioning Faith]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader:  I have been grieving the loss of my cat for some time now, and the pain does not go away. I am still very sad and wondering what kind of help you can give me.  I keep thinking—did my Mittens go to heaven or not?  I had a very tight bond [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Coping with Anxiety in Grief</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-with-anxiety-in-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-with-anxiety-in-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 23 Jul 2011 08:25:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I was wondering if anyone else has experienced panic attacks following the death of a loved one? My mom passed away just over a year ago, and I&#8217;ve found that since then I have become prone to getting significant anxiety/panic attacks. I&#8217;ve always been a bit of an anxious person, but [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Starting a Support Group in a Small Town</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=starting-a-support-group-in-a-small-town</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=starting-a-support-group-in-a-small-town#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 07 Jul 2011 08:39:07 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping Others]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?post_type=post&#038;p=41310</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: Do you have any ideas/resources for starting a parent support group? I live in a very small town. We have recently had several of our young people pass away, including my own son who was killed in an auto accident on Mother&#8217;s Day of this year.  I have no idea how [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Is My Widowed Mother ‘Moving On’ Too Soon?</title>
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		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=is-my-widowed-mother-%e2%80%98moving-on%e2%80%99-too-soon#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 29 Jun 2011 18:30:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=40827</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader:  My dad died 11 months ago at the age of 55. My mom is 50 and looks a bit younger. I know she’s a young woman and has lots of life left in her but she’s got a boyfriend! I cannot understand how she can do this. I told her to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Widow Fears Sharing Thoughts of Suicide</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=widow-fears-sharing-thoughts-of-suicide</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=widow-fears-sharing-thoughts-of-suicide#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 17 May 2011 08:47:40 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Other Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Suicide]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=40210</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: I know I&#8217;ve heard plenty of times that it is normal for &#8216;grievers&#8217; to feel despondent and wish to be with their spouse who has passed on. But, it doesn&#8217;t feel like it&#8217;s normal to me because I don&#8217;t want to live any more, although I am not going to do [...]]]></description>
		<wfw:commentRss>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=widow-fears-sharing-thoughts-of-suicide/feed/</wfw:commentRss>
		<slash:comments>9</slash:comments>
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		<title>Grief Support Group Didn’t Help – Now What?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=grief-support-group-didn%e2%80%99t-help-%e2%80%93-now-what</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=grief-support-group-didn%e2%80%99t-help-%e2%80%93-now-what#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 16 Apr 2011 08:43:50 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=39987</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader:  I feel very comfortable on the online forum I’ve joined and have already received great support from the people there. They encourage and inspire me. I&#8217;m learning a lot from those who&#8217;ve inhabited this world of grief longer than I have. That&#8217;s why it would be good to hear your thoughts [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
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		<title>Does Widower’s Behavior Indicate Unresolved Grief?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=does-widower%e2%80%99s-behavior-indicate-unresolved-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=does-widower%e2%80%99s-behavior-indicate-unresolved-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sun, 13 Mar 2011 09:11:51 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grieving Styles]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[anger]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[signs and connections]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=39758</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I am currently dating a widower who feels the need to publish a picture of his ex-wife in the local newspaper twice a year, on her birthday and date of death.  He has been doing this for five years.  We have been dating for four-and-a half-years.  My husband died suddenly of a [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>11</slash:comments>
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		<title>Supporting a Bereaved Parent, From a Distance</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=supporting-a-bereaved-parent-from-a-distance</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=supporting-a-bereaved-parent-from-a-distance#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Feb 2011 09:37:58 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping Others]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=39529</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: My husband and I are dealing with his mother&#8217;s grief over losing his father (her husband) this past January.  His father passed away in a wonderful hospice in New Mexico.  I have visited the online grief support Web site offered by Hospice of the Valley, and although it helps calm my [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
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		<title>A New Year and the Burden of Guilt</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=a-new-year-and-the-burden-of-guilt</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=a-new-year-and-the-burden-of-guilt#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 01 Jan 2011 09:07:27 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=36450</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Even if there is no basis in reality for it, we often feel guilty for what we did or didn’t do, said or failed to say, when our loved one was alive.  In fact, this feeling of guilt in the aftermath of significant loss is so common as to be universal. Now, the beginning of [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>1</slash:comments>
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		<title>Coping with ‘Shutdown Spells’ in Grief</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-with-%e2%80%98shutdown-spells%e2%80%99-in-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-with-%e2%80%98shutdown-spells%e2%80%99-in-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 08 Dec 2010 01:03:30 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://www.opentohope.com/?p=37056</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: Since my husband died, I&#8217;ve grown used to having mood swings and waking up feeling pretty good one day and deeply depressed the next. I know these are normal grief reactions, and when one of the &#8220;rotten&#8221; days comes along it helps to tell myself it will pass.  But then, even [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
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		<title>Daughter Feels Little Support for Mother Loss</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=daughter-feels-little-support-for-mother-loss</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=daughter-feels-little-support-for-mother-loss#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 22 Oct 2010 08:21:32 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
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		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>

		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://69.175.126.58/~opentoho/?p=29835</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I tearfully happened upon your website by chance this morning.  My dearest friend, my mom, died in my arms this past month.  I had brought her here to live with me after her colon cancer returned. From the moment of diagnosis, I watched her hurt and endure so much treatment, never [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>8</slash:comments>
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		<title>Explaining Grandmother&#8217;s Death to a Toddler</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=explaining-grandmother%e2%80%99s-death-to-a-toddler</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=explaining-grandmother%e2%80%99s-death-to-a-toddler#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 15 Sep 2010 09:59:21 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Children & Grief]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://opentohope.com/?p=9620</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: Basically, everything I&#8217;ve ever read recommends that a toddler not be shielded from the truth, and I believe that. However, there is a set of special circumstances here.  My daughter saw her grandmother every day since she was born, as my mother cared for her while I was at work.  The [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>3</slash:comments>
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		<title>Using Antidepressant Medication in Grief</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=using-antidepressant-medication-in-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=using-antidepressant-medication-in-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 09 Aug 2010 18:31:54 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://opentohope.com/?p=9464</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: About four weeks ago, I came off an antidepressant which allowed the unresolved grief issues over my brother&#8217;s death to surface. I believe that the antidepressant kept me from fully grieving his loss, which I am in the process of doing now.  A colleague, therapist, and good friend who has known [...]]]></description>
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		<slash:comments>2</slash:comments>
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		<title>When the Griever is a Health-Care Professional</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-the-griever-is-a-health-care-professional</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-the-griever-is-a-health-care-professional#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 14 Jul 2010 09:23:00 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a Reader: I don&#8217;t know where or how to start. I lost a beloved dog a month ago. My other dog is critically ill. I lost a very good friend earlier this year. I am also feeling enormous grief and guilt over the loss of another dog who was killed by a car. [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Bereaved Aunt Asks, &#8216;Where Do I Fit In?&#8217;</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=bereaved-aunt-asks-where-do-i-fit-in</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=bereaved-aunt-asks-where-do-i-fit-in#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 22 Jun 2010 09:13:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Depression]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: Two months ago, my 21-year-old nephew, my sister&#8217;s only child, was killed in a car accident.  I was 19 when he was born.  I have feelings of love for him almost as if he were my own son.  I can&#8217;t find others like me.  I have searched a few online forums [...]]]></description>
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		<title>The Power of Remembering: Grandfather&#8217;s Pipe</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=the-power-of-remembering-grandfather%e2%80%99s-pipe</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=the-power-of-remembering-grandfather%e2%80%99s-pipe#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 18 May 2010 09:32:48 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Grandparent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belongings, funerals, money]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[A person who is gone can live on in memory as an active agent in one&#8217;s life, not just as someone you love and miss, not just as a nostalgic sadness. &#8212; Elizabeth Harper Neeld, in Seven Choices: Finding Daylight after Loss Shatters Your World The following piece was written by my younger son, Benjamin [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Persistent Dreams in Grief</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=persistent-dreams-in-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=persistent-dreams-in-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 10 Mar 2010 09:30:15 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Dreams]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: It&#8217;s now been six months since my mother died. In many ways it seems like worlds and eons since then, but in some ways not at all. I really miss her and talking to her every few days, as was our old routine.  The problem I’m having is that I dream [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Daughter Wants to Help Mom after Death of Beloved Dog</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=daughter-wants-to-help-mom-after-death-of-beloved-dog</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=daughter-wants-to-help-mom-after-death-of-beloved-dog#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 11 Feb 2010 09:03:41 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Other Losses]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pet Loss]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I am writing in hopes that you may be able to provide advice or support that I can give my parents who just had to euthanize their 12-year-old Golden Lab, Baxter.  He had to be put to sleep because he could not walk anymore.  It was a very sad event for the [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Is Divorce Worthy of Grief?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=is-divorce-worthy-of-grief</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=is-divorce-worthy-of-grief#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 09 Jan 2010 09:40:26 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I recently tried to join a grief group. When the leader found out that my wife had not died, she told me that the others in the group would not feel that my grief was as deep as theirs. She suggested that I look for a divorce-recovery group.  I wish I [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Healing Grief through the Gift of Volunteering</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=healing-grief-through-the-gift-of-volunteering</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=healing-grief-through-the-gift-of-volunteering#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 05 Dec 2009 09:26:42 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping Others]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://opentohope.com/?p=7797</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[You cannot do a kindness too soon, for you never know how soon it will be too late . . . the love of our neighbor in all its fullness simply means being able to say to him, &#8216;What are you going through?&#8217; ~ Ralph Waldo Emerson At some point in your grief journey, you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When Grieving an Abandonment</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-grieving-an-abandonment</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-grieving-an-abandonment#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Sat, 07 Nov 2009 09:36:02 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[hope]]></category>

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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I was informed that my mother died, and I am grieving.  My mother left me when I was a little girl.  It hurt.  I denied it for 40 years.  So far, I have attended two different bereavement groups.  Both are filled with people who are grieving a loved one.  I am [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Can We Ever &#8216;Accept&#8217; Death of Loved One?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=can-we-ever-accept-death-of-loved-one</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=can-we-ever-accept-death-of-loved-one#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 08 Oct 2009 09:39:55 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: This just isn&#8217;t something I can live with. I want to see my dad more than anything in the world. I can&#8217;t even go near the words &#8220;closure&#8221; or &#8220;accept.&#8221; My friend, who never lost anyone, even a pet, in her life, told me in a matter-of-fact, cheery voice, &#8220;You gotta [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Parental Grief in the Wake of Homicide</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=parental-grief-in-the-wake-of-homicide</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=parental-grief-in-the-wake-of-homicide#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Wed, 02 Sep 2009 19:23:47 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Child]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hospice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Special Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Traumatic Deaths]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[grief]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I&#8217;m writing this letter in hopes of finding some peace. It will be three years next month that my son was murdered. He was only 18. His mother and I were divorced when he was very young. At that time it was heart- breaking, knowing I would only see my son [...]]]></description>
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		<title>‘Distance Counseling’: What is It, How Does it Work?</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=%e2%80%98distance-counseling%e2%80%99-what-is-it-how-does-it-work</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=%e2%80%98distance-counseling%e2%80%99-what-is-it-how-does-it-work#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 21 Aug 2009 23:12:38 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[The electronic age is spawning a new way of delivering counseling services, one in which clients and their counselors connect with each other by telephone, e-mail or other electronic means.  Recognizing this trend, many counselors are seeking special training and certification in &#8220;counseling from a distance,&#8221; thereby expanding their repertoire of support. A Distance Credentialed [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Helping Grandchildren with Pet Loss</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=helping-grandchildren-with-pet-loss-2</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=helping-grandchildren-with-pet-loss-2#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 26 Jun 2009 22:52:16 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Children & Grief]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping kids talk]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pet Loss]]></category>
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		<description><![CDATA[By - Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT Question: I very sadly had to euthanize my wonderful dog of 8 years last night.  She has been with me with so many other losses and helped me through.  Now here I am and at a loss without her. I am having a terrible time but am contacting you to [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Coping as You Anticipate a Loss</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-as-you-anticipate-a-loss</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=coping-as-you-anticipate-a-loss#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 02 Jun 2009 09:35:20 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3743</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC Grief does not wait for death to happen; it occurs both in anticipation of and following a loss. Extended illness, disability, severe accidental injury, a terminal diagnosis or the aging and decline of an elderly family member can produce what is known as anticipatory grief and mourning. We find [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Can&#8217;t Think of Mom Without Crying</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=cant-think-of-mom-without-crying</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=cant-think-of-mom-without-crying#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 22 May 2009 16:54:08 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3746</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I just wish for the day when I can think of my mom without crying. Why does it seem to last for so long? It&#8217;s been five months since my mom passed and I still can&#8217;t think of her without bawling. I&#8217;ve been very depressed lately and some days are better [...]]]></description>
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		<title>When Your Companion Animal is Missing</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-your-companion-animal-is-missing</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=when-your-companion-animal-is-missing#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 04 May 2009 21:45:28 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Other Topics]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Pet Loss]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://thepetlossblog.com/?p=52</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By &#8211; © 2009 Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT As a hospice bereavement counselor who also specializes in pet loss, I’ve encountered in my support groups and through my Web sites many distraught animal lovers whose beloved dogs or cats have gone missing. These animals may have escaped from their home or yard, run off while [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Dealing With the Death of an Abusive Mother</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=death-of-an-abusive-mother-needs-to-be-edited</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=death-of-an-abusive-mother-needs-to-be-edited#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Mon, 04 May 2009 09:41:01 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Parent]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=2971</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question: Two weeks ago, my mother died of metastatic cancer. We had a strained relationship our entire life together. Growing up she could be very cruel to me, and that is what ensued as I tried to care for her. Before her illness, we hadn&#8217;t spoken in almost 3 years, but I wanted to be [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Finding Grief Support Online</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=finding-grief-support-online</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=finding-grief-support-online#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Tue, 14 Apr 2009 09:43:18 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Grief & Healing]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Helping Others]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3398</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT &#8211; If you have access to a computer with an Internet connection, you have at your fingertips a wealth of grief information, comfort and support. The Open to Hope Web site offers an extensive array of resources. Other Web sites offer online chat rooms, discussion forums and message boards, where you [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Woman Nervous About Dating Widower</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=woman-nervous-about-dating-widower</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=woman-nervous-about-dating-widower#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Fri, 27 Feb 2009 16:22:09 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=3030</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[Question from a reader: I&#8217;m at the very beginning of a potential relationship with a guy who I&#8217;ve reconnected with after many years (we knew each other in high school). His spouse of 27+ years passed away four months ago, after a very long (21 years) battle with Multiple Sclerosis.  He still grieves for her [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Widow-to-Be Thinking Beyond Husband&#8217;s Death</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=marty-tousley-husband-dying</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=marty-tousley-husband-dying#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 26 Feb 2009 09:31:31 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
				<category><![CDATA[Death of a Spouse]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[Hospice]]></category>
		<category><![CDATA[belongings, funerals, money]]></category>
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		<guid isPermaLink="false">http://test.opentohope.com/?p=2951</guid>
		<description><![CDATA[By Marty Tousley, CNS-BC, FT, DCC &#8211; Question: My husband has advanced-stage lung cancer, and I have to face the inevitable that he will die soon. It&#8217;s been 8 months; we&#8217;ve been married for 20 years. I&#8217;m sure that it&#8217;s normal, but the thoughts that are running through my head are driving me insane. I keep [...]]]></description>
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		<title>Grief Rituals Can Help on Valentine&#8217;s Day</title>
		<link>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=waiting-for-biophoto-of-marty-remembering-our-loved-ones-on-valentines-day</link>
		<comments>http://www.opentohope.com/?post=waiting-for-biophoto-of-marty-remembering-our-loved-ones-on-valentines-day#comments</comments>
		<pubDate>Thu, 12 Feb 2009 09:16:57 +0000</pubDate>
		<dc:creator>Marty Tousley</dc:creator>
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		<category><![CDATA[Grief Tips]]></category>
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