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  • A Letter to Grieving Mothers

    June 25, 2017

    Why did this have to happen?  It is the first question you ask.  It is the question you will ask yourself day after day as you grieve the loss of your child.  Welcome to the club.  It is a club that none of us join freely but once you enter, you are in and cannot […]

  • Fingerprints: Losing a Husband, Living with Grief

    June 15, 2017

    When he used to take off his socks next to our bed and throw them ceremoniously to the cork floor, he would spread the fingers of his chubby peasant hands on the wall of our bedroom to keep his balance before rocketing into bed beside me. It took at least three years to have a finished […]

  • Five Signs You May Be Carrying Hidden Grief

    June 13, 2017

      When my son Justin died in 1993 at the age of 16, I was emotionally crippled for at least a year, unable to return to my former life in advertising or relate to people in familiar ways. Over time, I reassembled the tattered scraps of my life into a new tapestry, and I took […]

  • Spring: Memories of Love, a Chance for New Growth

    June 5, 2017

    “You can cut all the flowers but you cannot keep Spring from coming.” ― Pablo Neruda   Spring rain brings May flowers This was my partner Kim’s favorite time of year. I watch her child-like actions as the flowers bloom and the trees bud. She knew the names of them all, closing her eyes while […]

  • What Makes Sudden Death So Different?

    May 22, 2017

    It’s not just that we “didn’t get to say goodbye.” That common phrase, often associated with sudden death, is far too simplistic when unpacking the reality of completely unexpected deaths: accidents, homicides, suicides, sudden natural causes (e.g. heart attack, brain hemorrhage) and serious illnesses where death is unforeseen (e.g. epilepsy). SHOCK The scientific community explains […]

  • Webinar: Survival Tips for Mother’s Day

    May 8, 2017

    There are many holidays which can be particularly tough for the bereaved, and Mother’s Day is a big one. Can you celebrate Mother’s Day if your child is no longer living? Of course you can, but you may benefit from some modifications. The Open to Hope show welcomes Dr. Darcie Sims, an internationally renowned speaker […]

  • An Absent Connection: Eight Years After a Child-Loss

    May 4, 2017

    This October it will be 8 years since my 10-year-old son David was tripped up during a football practice, and suffered an acute subdural hematoma which took him forever from our lives. He is always in my thoughts. Every day his smile and love runs through my day. Every benchmark of growing up his little […]

  • The Switch Stays On: Attachment After a Loss

    May 3, 2017

    How we start out in life has consequences for the rest of our lives. The connections we make, or don’t make, to whoever parents us, sets the stage for all our future relationships. The more our parents are dependable, nurturing and sensitive to our needs, the more we are set up to be part of […]

  • Webinar: What a Father Learned From the Death of his Son

    April 21, 2017

    Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Pastor Dennis Apple about “Where is God?” after a loss—and in many cases, especially on holidays like Easter. Apple lost his son, Denny, when Denny was only 18 years old. He died of a sudden illness in 1991. Today, Apple counsels others who are grieving the loss of a loved one. […]

  • Suffering a Loss Yet to Come

    April 19, 2017

    My father’s wife of 30 years passed away in November 2014. Prior to her passing, he was her caretaker in all senses of the word, even to the extent that he was neglecting himself.  We knew while he was taking care of her that something was happening with his cognition, but he was a wonderful, […]

  • Webinar: Healing After a Fatal Car Accident

    April 19, 2017

    The Compassionate Friends, the Open to Hope Foundation, and Carl McDonald, the National Law Enforcement Initiatives Manager for MADD, offer a special webinar on grieving after losing a child due to a driving under the influence (DUI) incident. Drs. Heidi and Gloria Horsley, the hosts, lost a loved one to a DUI crash—Gloria’s son and […]

  • Healing Tears: No Apologies for Crying

    March 1, 2017

    I remember the first year of our son’s passing.  How I vacillated between feeling numb, wooden, dry-eyed, to days when all I could do was cry.  So many times I never knew what I might do. I had never been someone who normally cried in front of people, and yet I found myself doing just […]

  • The Downstairs Thief

    February 19, 2017

    I had a vivid dream shortly after Mack, our son, died. I walked into our house through the front door and immediately realized that we had been robbed. I made my way tentatively through each familiar room surveying overturned furniture, shattered lamps. I noted the computers were taken, and the silver. But something inside assured […]

  • The Blessing

    February 14, 2017

    Not long before Joanne, my wife, died, she told me she expected me to love again. She said it would “not be right to waste all the lessons we’d learned,” and I was “too young” never to love again. When I replied that I couldn’t imagine any love ever being as good as ours, she […]

  • 10th Anniversary: Tears at Home Depot

    February 14, 2017

    The 10th anniversary of my daughter’s death is a few days away. I thought I was prepared for this anniversary, but I wasn’t. Instead, I have burst into tears several times. My daughter, mother of my twin grandchildren, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later he twins’ father died […]

  • Coping With Pregnancy Loss

    February 5, 2017

    Dr. Heidi Horsley has experienced miscarriages in her life, making this episode of The Grief Relief Show particularly close to her heart. Along with her mother and co-host, Dr. Gloria Horsley, they talk with Chandrama Anderson, MFT, and author of No U-Turn at Mercy Street: A Memoir and Resource Guide for Grieving Parents. Dr. David […]

  • Valentines Day After the Loss of a Child

    February 1, 2017

    How can you heal after the loss of a child? This is the hot topic on a special webinar of the Open to Hope Foundation, featuring Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interviewing Dr. Bob Baugher. He teaches grief and loss at Highline Community College, is an author at Open to Hope, and has also authored […]

  • A Candy Heart: When ‘Celebrating’ Doesn’t Seem Right

    January 29, 2017

    Valentine’s Day. Another day to feel my loss more deeply? Why do these celebrations continue to come up to remind me of my loss? To have others enjoy when I don’t seem to rise to the occasion. To send a Valentine’s Day card when I have lost my son? Can I celebrate the day and not […]

  • Healing After Miscarriage and Infertility

    January 29, 2017

    From Healing the Grieving Heart radio, November 20, 2008 Listen to radio show archive: MP3 Link Kira Copperman is a social worker and the President of  KBC Consulting, a healthcare consulting firm that specializes in helping medical professionals improve their frontline customer service.  Prior to KBC Consulting, she was the practice manager for a large […]

  • The Rose Bush: A Sign From Dad

    January 25, 2017

    As we approach February, I look out my kitchen window and see something that has caught my eye. It is a rose bush in bloom. This bush has been blooming throughout the winter. I first noticed it around Christmas time. Hmmm, peculiar. It’s never bloomed in the past. Yes, I live in Las Vegas but […]

  • Traumatic Grief May Interfere with Memory

    January 25, 2017

    Dr. Gloria Horsley with the Open to Hope Foundation talks with Robert Zucker about traumatic grief, healing, and his own bereavement process. As a grief counselor and the author of The Journey Through Grief and Loss: Helping Yourself and Your Child When Grief is Shared, Zucker knows all too well how difficult bereavement can be. […]

  • Grief of Pregnancy Loss Often Dismissed

    January 18, 2017

    Pregnancy loss and infertility are the topics on this episode of The Grief Relief Show. It’s a loss that can be disenfranchising—especially when a miscarriage happens early in a pregnancy. Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Chandrama Anderson, MFT, author of No U-Turn at Mercy Street: A Memoir and Resource Guide for Grieving Parents. Dr. […]

  • Birthdays … Beautiful and Bittersweet

    January 11, 2017

    I turned 60 in October, the day filled with a range of emotions. Etched in my brain and soul was the last time I saw my sister Jane, to celebrate my 25th birthday. For 35 years, my birthday held a cloud, never the joy of celebrating me on my birthday, always the pain of the […]

  • ‘Do You Cook for Yourself?’: How to Remember a Loving Husband

    January 7, 2017

    “Do you cook for yourself?”  a new acquaintance asks me. I smile to myself. She has no idea. She has opened the door wide. I begin: “No, I do not cook. My husband did everything with joy and skill for the entire time of our marriage.” I have one subject that fills my soul: the […]

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  • Episode 105: Remembering Them

    May 18, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview psychologist Dr. Mary Jane Gandour, author of Heart Work regarding her family coming together after the death of her daughter, Aimee to remember her through the creative arts.  Allison Gilbert author of Passed and Present: Keeping Memories of Loved Ones Alive joins them to […]

  • Episode 104: Honoring our Children

    May 16, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Gabrielle Doucet, author of Let Go & Let Love; Survivors of Suicide Loss Healing Handbook, and Judy Pedersen along with bereaved parent Daniel Abut from Hearts of Hope foundation regarding loss and how they have honored deceased family members.

  • Episode 102: Fay Zenoff and Julia Sachs-Finding Oneself After Sibling Loss

    March 27, 2017

    How’s your mother? Take care of your parents! But what about me? On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, discuss with bereaved siblings Fay Zenoff MBA executive director of Center For Open Recovery (COR) and Julia Sachs MSW the challenges of coping with the deaths […]

  • Episode 101- Amy Cooper and Tom Tomasello: Will I Ever Sing Again?

    March 27, 2017

    Will I ever smile or sing again? On this show Drs’ Gloria and Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, explore with bereaved parents; Amy Cooper, singer, songwriter and musician Tom Tomasello the struggle to find their creative process after the deaths of their sons’, Jon and Rory.  Amy sings while […]

  • Episode 100: Life After Loss: 100th Anniversary Show with Henrietta J. Burroughs and Alan Pedersen

    March 27, 2017

    What if? Have you ever thought about what your life would have looked like without loss?  On this 100th Open To Hope anniversary show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley, explore with bereaved parents Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends and reporter and talk show host Henrietta J. Burroughs the impact of loss and […]

  • Episode 99: Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern on Grief: Do You Ever Get Over It?

    January 6, 2017

    Wondering how long it takes and will I over get it? On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends explore with bereaved parents Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern their grief journey from despair to hope. Radha is the author of Grief Prints: A […]