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After Loss of a child

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  • Wendy Lichtenthal: Helping Parents After the Loss of a Child

    October 13, 2017

    Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal is a researcher at the Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center in New York City, and many of her interests focus on grieving. She spoke with Dr. Gloria Horsley during the Association for Death Education and Counseling 2015 conference about how parents can heal after losing a child. “We are doing an intervention […]

  • Jill Harrington: Loss of a Young Adult

    September 28, 2017

    Dr. Jill Harrington is a social worker, clinician and researcher at the Center for the Study of Traumatic Stress who specializes in grief after losing a young adult. “Some in the military and some in the civilian world,” explains Dr. Harrington, who chatted with Dr. Heidi Horsley during the Association for Death Education and Counseling […]

  • Fay Green: The Compassionate Friends

    September 18, 2017

    Fay Green is a leader at The Compassionate Friends organization in San Antonio, Texas, and recently talked with Open to Hope’s Dr. Gloria Horsley at the Association of Death Education and Counseling conference. Green’s latest project focuses on “group processing,” saying that it helps those who have lost someone “recognize that they’re not alone in […]

  • An Evolution of Feeling: How Grief Changes Over Time

    July 26, 2017

      I’ve noticed that, as a rule, we don’t particularly care to talk about how old we are, so I was amused when a friend did some arithmetic based on some of my recollections and determined that I am 70. We had been discussing worry and he wondered if I worry less now that I […]

  • After Loss: Pecking at the Shadows of Our Past

    July 25, 2017

    To Be Mindful During my twenty-seven years of employment as an addiction counselor, I routinely addressed the importance of mindfulness with my clients. From my  experience, mindfulness is a tool that, among other things, serves to slow rapid and intrusive thoughts, reduce anxiety and facilitate better lifestyle choices. Mindfulness is essential in helping us focus […]

  • Gardening Through Grief

    July 24, 2017

      I think back to the summer of 2011, when our oldest son died suddenly in August.  From that moment on, my life forever changed.  All the plans I had made were now in the background as I searched for normalcy. Even daily routines were put on hold, as I grappled with just doing the […]

  • ‘His Life Was Brief’: Grieving the Death of an Infant

    July 23, 2017

    The first time I saw my son, he was lying in a NICU incubator with a small, clear tube protruding from his mouth to help him breathe.  The adhesive that kept the ventilator tube in place covered most of his tiny face.  His eyes were closed, taped shut to keep out the bright light.  He […]

  • Son’s Death Like the Loss of a Limb

    June 26, 2017

    Grief? I can only explain it one way to those who ask how I am. To anyone who dares ask if I am getting over it. My son’s death was like having a leg cut off, the edge where it was hacked off remaining raw and exposed, scabbing over at times, just waiting for someone to […]

  • Welcomed Tears

    June 26, 2017

    I have met many people since my son David died 8 years ago who have struggled with the death of a loved one. We have all have had different challenges in moving forward with our lives afterward. It is especially difficult when the person who has died was taken early in their life, when they […]

  • My Summer of Grief Led to New Normal

    June 26, 2017

    Our daughter died on July 19, 2005.  The shock of her suicide and my own gut-wrenching grief that day is painful to remember.  No one in our family knew what to do or how to react.  It was like falling out of a boat in the dark at high tide.  We couldn’t “swim”.  We couldn’t […]

  • A Letter to Grieving Mothers

    June 25, 2017

    Why did this have to happen?  It is the first question you ask.  It is the question you will ask yourself day after day as you grieve the loss of your child.  Welcome to the club.  It is a club that none of us join freely but once you enter, you are in and cannot […]

  • Five Signs You May Be Carrying Hidden Grief

    June 13, 2017

      When my son Justin died in 1993 at the age of 16, I was emotionally crippled for at least a year, unable to return to my former life in advertising or relate to people in familiar ways. Over time, I reassembled the tattered scraps of my life into a new tapestry, and I took […]

  • An Absent Connection: Eight Years After a Child-Loss

    May 4, 2017

    This October it will be 8 years since my 10-year-old son David was tripped up during a football practice, and suffered an acute subdural hematoma which took him forever from our lives. He is always in my thoughts. Every day his smile and love runs through my day. Every benchmark of growing up his little […]

  • The Switch Stays On: Attachment After a Loss

    May 3, 2017

    How we start out in life has consequences for the rest of our lives. The connections we make, or don’t make, to whoever parents us, sets the stage for all our future relationships. The more our parents are dependable, nurturing and sensitive to our needs, the more we are set up to be part of […]

  • Webinar: What a Father Learned From the Death of his Son

    April 21, 2017

    Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Pastor Dennis Apple about “Where is God?” after a loss—and in many cases, especially on holidays like Easter. Apple lost his son, Denny, when Denny was only 18 years old. He died of a sudden illness in 1991. Today, Apple counsels others who are grieving the loss of a loved one. […]

  • Webinar: Healing After a Fatal Car Accident

    April 19, 2017

    The Compassionate Friends, the Open to Hope Foundation, and Carl McDonald, the National Law Enforcement Initiatives Manager for MADD, offer a special webinar on grieving after losing a child due to a driving under the influence (DUI) incident. Drs. Heidi and Gloria Horsley, the hosts, lost a loved one to a DUI crash—Gloria’s son and […]

  • Healing Tears: No Apologies for Crying

    March 1, 2017

    I remember the first year of our son’s passing.  How I vacillated between feeling numb, wooden, dry-eyed, to days when all I could do was cry.  So many times I never knew what I might do. I had never been someone who normally cried in front of people, and yet I found myself doing just […]

  • The Downstairs Thief

    February 19, 2017

    I had a vivid dream shortly after Mack, our son, died. I walked into our house through the front door and immediately realized that we had been robbed. I made my way tentatively through each familiar room surveying overturned furniture, shattered lamps. I noted the computers were taken, and the silver. But something inside assured […]

  • 10th Anniversary: Tears at Home Depot

    February 14, 2017

    The 10th anniversary of my daughter’s death is a few days away. I thought I was prepared for this anniversary, but I wasn’t. Instead, I have burst into tears several times. My daughter, mother of my twin grandchildren, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later he twins’ father died […]

  • Valentines Day After the Loss of a Child

    February 1, 2017

    How can you heal after the loss of a child? This is the hot topic on a special webinar of the Open to Hope Foundation, featuring Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interviewing Dr. Bob Baugher. He teaches grief and loss at Highline Community College, is an author at Open to Hope, and has also authored […]

  • A Candy Heart: When ‘Celebrating’ Doesn’t Seem Right

    January 29, 2017

    Valentine’s Day. Another day to feel my loss more deeply? Why do these celebrations continue to come up to remind me of my loss? To have others enjoy when I don’t seem to rise to the occasion. To send a Valentine’s Day card when I have lost my son? Can I celebrate the day and not […]

  • One Mother’s Grief: Embracing ‘Fierce Growth’

    January 6, 2017

    A lightning bolt ripped through me and froze my being as I listened to the piercing words of my friend. “Your daughter has been in a bike accident. She died.” I felt everything and I felt nothing. The grieving started with a pattern of feeling split wide open, raw, bleeding; then followed moments of nothing […]

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  • Episode 110: Finding the Gifts in Grief with Bar Scott and Julie Lange Growth

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview singer-songwriter Bar Scott author of The Present Giver an account of Scott’s search for meaning and hope after her son Forest is diagnosed with terminal cancer and Julie Lange Groth bereaved mother of Justin and author of Healing What Grieves You and Life Between the […]

  • Episode 109: Dealing With the Death of a Difficult Child

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley speak with Marcia Alig, past president of The Compassionate Friends board, and long time volunteer, about the challenges of dealing with the death of a difficult child.  The second guests, Bobbie Comforto LCSW and Anne Kane Ph.D., founders of the Grief Channel, share insights and […]

  • Episode 108 :Supporting Suicide Survivors with Marilyn Koenig and Dr. Patrick Arbore

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Marilyn Koenig bereaved parent, co-founder and Executive Director of Friends for Survival and Dr. Patrick Arbore founder of The Friendship Line regarding their work in prevention and support of suicide survivors. A video is shown of The Friendship Line. Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The […]

  • Episode 107: Carol Kearns and Deborah Kennedy-Putting Death Into Perspective

    August 3, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi interview Dr. Carol Kearns, bereaved mother of Kristen and author of Sugar Cookies and a Nightmare and expert in grief in the workplace and Deborah Kennedy bereaved daughter and author of Nature Speaks:  Art and Poetry For The Earth regarding death and renewal as part of […]

  • Episode 104: Honoring our Children

    May 16, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Gabrielle Doucet, author of Let Go & Let Love; Survivors of Suicide Loss Healing Handbook, and Judy Pedersen along with bereaved parent Daniel Abut from Hearts of Hope foundation regarding loss and how they have honored deceased family members.

  • Episode 101- Amy Cooper and Tom Tomasello: Will I Ever Sing Again?

    March 27, 2017

    Will I ever smile or sing again? On this show Drs’ Gloria and Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, explore with bereaved parents; Amy Cooper, singer, songwriter and musician Tom Tomasello the struggle to find their creative process after the deaths of their sons’, Jon and Rory.  Amy sings while […]

  • Episode 100: Life After Loss: 100th Anniversary Show with Henrietta J. Burroughs and Alan Pedersen

    March 27, 2017

    What if? Have you ever thought about what your life would have looked like without loss?  On this 100th Open To Hope anniversary show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley, explore with bereaved parents Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends and reporter and talk show host Henrietta J. Burroughs the impact of loss and […]

  • Episode 99: Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern on Grief: Do You Ever Get Over It?

    January 6, 2017

    Wondering how long it takes and will I over get it? On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends explore with bereaved parents Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern their grief journey from despair to hope. Radha is the author of Grief Prints: A […]

  • Episode 98: Dr. Jason Stroller and Dr. Matthew McKay: Exploring The Invisible Universe

    January 5, 2017

    Where do we go what happens after death?  On this show Dr. Gloria and Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends explore the invisible universe with two bereaved dads Dr. Jason Stroller author of My Life After Life Matthew McKay Ph.D. author of Seeking Jordan regarding their books written in collaboration with their deceased […]

  • Episode 97:Nancy Mae and Melanie Warner: Defining Moments: Coping With Loss

    January 5, 2017

    Pregnancy loss and the death of a young child are defining moments in ones life.  On this show Dr. Heidi and Dr. Gloria Horsley interview Nancy Mae  author of  “The Energetic Fertility Method:  Tools for a Healthy Conception and beyond and Melanie Warner Author of Defining Moments: Coping With the Loss of a Child Regarding […]

  • Episode 96: Grief Healing: Twelve Steps with Richard Wood and Nisha Zenoff

    December 23, 2016

    Having a son killed in a fall is a traumatic experience. On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen discuss with Richard Wood of The Compassionate Friends and Nisha Zenoff their journeys through grief to again finding hope. Nisha is the author of THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS: How Do You Live After […]

  • Episode 95: Coping With Cancer with Sue Matthews and Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal

    December 12, 2016

    Cancer deaths are difficult and traumatic for families. On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley talk with Sue Matthews, parent of Taylor, and founder of Conquering Kidz Cancer, and Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal, clinical psychologist and director of the Bereavement Clinic at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, about ways to cope and find meaning […]

  • Episode 94: Loss and Its Impact on Parenting with Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn and Rachel Stephenson

    December 12, 2016

    Have you ever thought about how loss can impact parenting?  On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley explore this important topic with bereaved sibling Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn, author of The Empty Room, Understanding Sibling Loss,  and Rachel Stephenson, producer of the TED talk Against Grieving in Silence inspired by the early death of her […]

  • Episode 93: Grief: A Public and a Private Matter with Mary Rockefeller Morgan and Scarlett Lewis

    December 7, 2016

    How does a family grieve a high-profile loss? On this show Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley explore the issue with Mary Rockefeller Morgan whose twin brother, Michael, went missing in New Guinea and Scarlett Lewis whose son, Jessie, died in the Sandy Hook school shooting. Mary is the author of When Grief Calls Forth The […]