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  • Episode 104: Honoring our Children

    May 16, 2017

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Gabrielle Doucet, author of Let Go & Let Love; Survivors of Suicide Loss Healing Handbook, and Judy Pedersen along with bereaved parent Daniel Abut from Hearts of Hope foundation regarding loss and how they have honored deceased family members.

  • Episode 101- Amy Cooper and Tom Tomasello: Will I Ever Sing Again?

    March 27, 2017

    Will I ever smile or sing again? On this show Drs’ Gloria and Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, explore with bereaved parents; Amy Cooper, singer, songwriter and musician Tom Tomasello the struggle to find their creative process after the deaths of their sons’, Jon and Rory.  Amy sings while […]

  • Episode 100: Life After Loss: 100th Anniversary Show with Henrietta J. Burroughs and Alan Pedersen

    March 27, 2017

    What if? Have you ever thought about what your life would have looked like without loss?  On this 100th Open To Hope anniversary show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley, explore with bereaved parents Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends and reporter and talk show host Henrietta J. Burroughs the impact of loss and […]

  • Episode 99: Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern on Grief: Do You Ever Get Over It?

    January 6, 2017

    Wondering how long it takes and will I over get it? On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends explore with bereaved parents Stacey and Steve Parker and Radha Stern their grief journey from despair to hope. Radha is the author of Grief Prints: A […]

  • Episode 98: Dr. Jason Stroller and Dr. Matthew McKay: Exploring The Invisible Universe

    January 5, 2017

    Where do we go what happens after death?  On this show Dr. Gloria and Alan Pedersen Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends explore the invisible universe with two bereaved dads Dr. Jason Stroller author of My Life After Life Matthew McKay Ph.D. author of Seeking Jordan regarding their books written in collaboration with their deceased […]

  • Episode 97:Nancy Mae and Melanie Warner: Defining Moments: Coping With Loss

    January 5, 2017

    Pregnancy loss and the death of a young child are defining moments in ones life.  On this show Dr. Heidi and Dr. Gloria Horsley interview Nancy Mae  author of  “The Energetic Fertility Method:  Tools for a Healthy Conception and beyond and Melanie Warner Author of Defining Moments: Coping With the Loss of a Child Regarding […]

  • Episode 96: Grief Healing: Twelve Steps with Richard Wood and Nisha Zenoff

    December 23, 2016

    Having a son killed in a fall is a traumatic experience. On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley and Alan Pedersen discuss with Richard Wood of The Compassionate Friends and Nisha Zenoff their journeys through grief to again finding hope. Nisha is the author of THE UNSPEAKABLE LOSS: How Do You Live After […]

  • Episode 95: Coping With Cancer with Sue Matthews and Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal

    December 12, 2016

    Cancer deaths are difficult and traumatic for families. On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley talk with Sue Matthews, parent of Taylor, and founder of Conquering Kidz Cancer, and Dr. Wendy Lichtenthal, clinical psychologist and director of the Bereavement Clinic at Memorial Sloan Kettering Cancer Center, about ways to cope and find meaning […]

  • Episode 94: Loss and Its Impact on Parenting with Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn and Rachel Stephenson

    December 12, 2016

    Have you ever thought about how loss can impact parenting?  On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley explore this important topic with bereaved sibling Elizabeth DeVita-Raeburn, author of The Empty Room, Understanding Sibling Loss,  and Rachel Stephenson, producer of the TED talk Against Grieving in Silence inspired by the early death of her […]

  • Episode 93: Grief: A Public and a Private Matter with Mary Rockefeller Morgan and Scarlett Lewis

    December 7, 2016

    How does a family grieve a high-profile loss? On this show Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley explore the issue with Mary Rockefeller Morgan whose twin brother, Michael, went missing in New Guinea and Scarlett Lewis whose son, Jessie, died in the Sandy Hook school shooting. Mary is the author of When Grief Calls Forth The […]

  • Episode 92: Sudden Death Regaining Balance with Dr. Neal Raisman, Rob Goor, and Steven Francesco

    December 7, 2016

    Feeling out of balance? Has sudden death disrupted your equilibrium? Join Dr. Gloria Horsley, Dr. Heidi Horsley, Dr. Neal Raisman, Rob Goor, and Steven Francesco for tips on stabilizing your life after loss. Neal is the author of Standing On One Foot, Rob authored Dear Andrew, and Steven is founder of Do No Harm Network, […]

  • Episode 91: Empower yourself after Loss with Steven Francesco and Rob Goor

    December 7, 2016

    Feeling powerless? Having regrets? Join Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley in an interview with two bereaved dads’ Steven Francesco and Rob Goor. Steven is founder of Do No Harm Network, author of Overmedicated and Undertreated, and Rob authored Dear Andrew.  Learn how you too can empower yourself through advocacy and writing.

  • Episode 85: Transforming Grief After The Death of A Mother and Daughter with Lo Anne Mayer

    October 2, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed Lo Anne Mayer on the death of her mother and how she found comfort and understanding by conversing with her mother through meditation and writing. After the tragic suicide of her daughter, Cyndi, Lo Anne again found comfort in writing as a conduit between […]

  • Episode 84: Military Loss with Jeanne Harris Weaver and Donn Weaver

    September 25, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed artist Jeanne Harris Weaver and her husband, Donn Weaver, a retired Foreign Service Diplomat.  Their son, Todd, an Army Ranger, was killed while on deployment in Afghanistan.  In his memory, Jeanne created twenty-one pictures in the year following Todd’s death.  A tribute clip is […]

  • Episode 81: Child Loss, Multiple Times with Jacquie Edwards-Mitchell, and John Mitchell

    August 19, 2016

    Child loss is huge especially when compounded by the loss of two children. On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley discuss multiple loss with, Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, and Jacquie Edwards-Mitchell, and her husband John Mitchell.  Jacquie & John, lost two sons in a drowning accident.   Jacquie is on […]

  • Episode 80: Organ Donation with Kayla Smith, Judy Armijo and Kevin Robinson

    July 27, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Kayla Smith, family services coordinator for Live On New York, regarding her work with organ donor families. Judy Armijo, bereaved mother of Alexandra, and organ recipient Kevin Robinson join the group to discuss the impact of Alexandra’s decision to become a registered organ donor.  Alexandra died […]

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Articles

  • An Absent Connection: Eight Years After a Child-Loss

    May 4, 2017

    This October it will be 8 years since my 10-year-old son David was tripped up during a football practice, and suffered an acute subdural hematoma which took him forever from our lives. He is always in my thoughts. Every day his smile and love runs through my day. Every benchmark of growing up his little […]

  • The Switch Stays On: Attachment After a Loss

    May 3, 2017

    How we start out in life has consequences for the rest of our lives. The connections we make, or don’t make, to whoever parents us, sets the stage for all our future relationships. The more our parents are dependable, nurturing and sensitive to our needs, the more we are set up to be part of […]

  • Webinar: What a Father Learned From the Death of his Son

    April 21, 2017

    Dr. Gloria Horsley interviews Pastor Dennis Apple about “Where is God?” after a loss—and in many cases, especially on holidays like Easter. Apple lost his son, Denny, when Denny was only 18 years old. He died of a sudden illness in 1991. Today, Apple counsels others who are grieving the loss of a loved one. […]

  • Webinar: Healing After a Fatal Car Accident

    April 19, 2017

    The Compassionate Friends, the Open to Hope Foundation, and Carl McDonald, the National Law Enforcement Initiatives Manager for MADD, offer a special webinar on grieving after losing a child due to a driving under the influence (DUI) incident. Drs. Heidi and Gloria Horsley, the hosts, lost a loved one to a DUI crash—Gloria’s son and […]

  • Healing Tears: No Apologies for Crying

    March 1, 2017

    I remember the first year of our son’s passing.  How I vacillated between feeling numb, wooden, dry-eyed, to days when all I could do was cry.  So many times I never knew what I might do. I had never been someone who normally cried in front of people, and yet I found myself doing just […]

  • The Downstairs Thief

    February 19, 2017

    I had a vivid dream shortly after Mack, our son, died. I walked into our house through the front door and immediately realized that we had been robbed. I made my way tentatively through each familiar room surveying overturned furniture, shattered lamps. I noted the computers were taken, and the silver. But something inside assured […]

  • 10th Anniversary: Tears at Home Depot

    February 14, 2017

    The 10th anniversary of my daughter’s death is a few days away. I thought I was prepared for this anniversary, but I wasn’t. Instead, I have burst into tears several times. My daughter, mother of my twin grandchildren, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later he twins’ father died […]

  • Valentines Day After the Loss of a Child

    February 1, 2017

    How can you heal after the loss of a child? This is the hot topic on a special webinar of the Open to Hope Foundation, featuring Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interviewing Dr. Bob Baugher. He teaches grief and loss at Highline Community College, is an author at Open to Hope, and has also authored […]

  • A Candy Heart: When ‘Celebrating’ Doesn’t Seem Right

    January 29, 2017

    Valentine’s Day. Another day to feel my loss more deeply? Why do these celebrations continue to come up to remind me of my loss? To have others enjoy when I don’t seem to rise to the occasion. To send a Valentine’s Day card when I have lost my son? Can I celebrate the day and not […]

  • One Mother’s Grief: Embracing ‘Fierce Growth’

    January 6, 2017

    A lightning bolt ripped through me and froze my being as I listened to the piercing words of my friend. “Your daughter has been in a bike accident. She died.” I felt everything and I felt nothing. The grieving started with a pattern of feeling split wide open, raw, bleeding; then followed moments of nothing […]

  • December is the Longest Month of Grief

    December 6, 2016

    December is the most difficult time of year for those of us who have children who are physically no longer with us. For me it begins in late September, with the anniversary of the day my son Richard died. Followed by Halloween. Richard loved Halloween…he took a lot of pleasure in introducing his youngest daughter to […]

  • What Do the First Five Years Look Like?

    November 29, 2016

    Exactly five years ago today, our daughter, Becca, left this earth. I have been doing a lot of thinking and reflecting, trying to put so many abstract thoughts and feelings into something concrete, like words on a page. How is my life different now, besides the obvious? What is good, what is bad, and what […]

  • Christmas Grief

    November 1, 2016

    Even though our daughter, Cyndi, died over 11 years ago, the season of Christmas is still the hardest time for me.  Remembering our little girl opening presents and playing with her five siblings as a child still sears my mind, and constricts my heart.  My husband and I were blessed with six children in 12 […]

  • Día de Muertos: Eat, Speak, and Remember

    October 28, 2016

    The Oxford English dictionary defines “remember” as to “have in or be able to bring one’s mind an awareness of someone or something from the past.” I have thought a lot about remembering or memory since our son Mack died on New Year’s Eve 2012, two weeks shy of his 9th birthday. Often a memory […]

  • Families For Safe Streets: Preventing the Death of a Child

    October 20, 2016

    The Families for Safe Streets was founded by a group of bereaved parents committed to increasing their children’s safety. Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Amy Cohen—Sammy’s mother—who works closely with this organization. She’s a founding member, along with Dana Lerner (mother of Cooper) who’s a psychotherapist. Sammy was killed while crossing the street in […]

  • How Child-Loss Changes Your Relationships

    October 5, 2016

    There is a great divide between the relationships I have with those in my life six years ago and those just getting to know me. The more time that passes since watching my son take his last breath, the greater this divide grows.  I was reminded of this today when confronted with some difficult situations […]

  • When Sorrow and Joy Collide: Coping with Opposite Emotions

    September 23, 2016

    In 2007, my husband and I became guardians of our twin grandchildren. Our elder daughter, their mother, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later the twin’s father died from the injuries he received in a car crash. Two more family members died as well, and we were stunned by […]

  • My Ten-Year Journey After Losing My Daughter

    September 18, 2016

    I experienced the saddest moments of my life, as the unthinkable happened to my family, when Samar, my 18-year-old daughter died ten years ago. I never thought that what happened to some parents would ever happen to us. But it did. The death of my youngest daughter was the biggest blow I had in my […]

  • Coping With Grief: Approaching the Second Anniversary of My Son’s Death

    September 17, 2016

    Life is moving along well, considering the magnitude of losing of my only child almost two years ago. Since December of last year, I have started to feel like myself again. My nature, which is generally optimistic and hopeful, has returned. Recognizing that part of myself return was like meeting with an old friend. Since […]

  • Ground Hog Days: How it Really Feels to Lose a Child

    August 17, 2016

    The   first   weeks   and   months   were   like   the   movie Groundhog Day. I began each day the same way. Waking. Feeling a free floating anger. Seeing his body on the floor and shuddering in the reality of his death. Struggling to push myself out of bed. Not wanting to get up. The bed and sleep being […]

  • Getting Through Those Triggers!

    July 15, 2016

    When we lose a loved one, the time we spend dealing with sadness surrounding that loss can vary daily, hourly or even minute-by-minute. As time goes by, the expectation we have and what generally occurs, is that the sad thoughts spread themselves out further and further apart. We learn to adjust to life moving on […]

  • When Tragedy Strikes By Laura Diehl

    November 28, 2016

    After the death of a child, there is no closure. It is like learning how to live with an amputation—you are forever changed and need to learn how to live a new “normal.” There can be a feeling of desperation to find someone farther ahead on the path who can understand the crushing pain that […]