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  • December is the Longest Month of Grief

    December 6, 2016

    December is the most difficult time of year for those of us who have children who are physically no longer with us. For me it begins in late September, with the anniversary of the day my son Richard died. Followed by Halloween. Richard loved Halloween…he took a lot of pleasure in introducing his youngest daughter to […]

  • What Do the First Five Years Look Like?

    November 29, 2016

    Exactly five years ago today, our daughter, Becca, left this earth. I have been doing a lot of thinking and reflecting, trying to put so many abstract thoughts and feelings into something concrete, like words on a page. How is my life different now, besides the obvious? What is good, what is bad, and what […]

  • Christmas Grief

    November 1, 2016

    Even though our daughter, Cyndi, died over 11 years ago, the season of Christmas is still the hardest time for me.  Remembering our little girl opening presents and playing with her five siblings as a child still sears my mind, and constricts my heart.  My husband and I were blessed with six children in 12 […]

  • Día de Muertos: Eat, Speak, and Remember

    October 28, 2016

    The Oxford English dictionary defines “remember” as to “have in or be able to bring one’s mind an awareness of someone or something from the past.” I have thought a lot about remembering or memory since our son Mack died on New Year’s Eve 2012, two weeks shy of his 9th birthday. Often a memory […]

  • Families For Safe Streets: Preventing the Death of a Child

    October 20, 2016

    The Families for Safe Streets was founded by a group of bereaved parents committed to increasing their children’s safety. Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Amy Cohen—Sammy’s mother—who works closely with this organization. She’s a founding member, along with Dana Lerner (mother of Cooper) who’s a psychotherapist. Sammy was killed while crossing the street in […]

  • How Child-Loss Changes Your Relationships

    October 5, 2016

    There is a great divide between the relationships I have with those in my life six years ago and those just getting to know me. The more time that passes since watching my son take his last breath, the greater this divide grows.  I was reminded of this today when confronted with some difficult situations […]

  • When Sorrow and Joy Collide: Coping with Opposite Emotions

    September 23, 2016

    In 2007, my husband and I became guardians of our twin grandchildren. Our elder daughter, their mother, died from the injuries she received in a car crash. Six months later the twin’s father died from the injuries he received in a car crash. Two more family members died as well, and we were stunned by […]

  • My Ten-Year Journey After Losing My Daughter

    September 18, 2016

    I experienced the saddest moments of my life, as the unthinkable happened to my family, when Samar, my 18-year-old daughter died ten years ago. I never thought that what happened to some parents would ever happen to us. But it did. The death of my youngest daughter was the biggest blow I had in my […]

  • Coping With Grief: Approaching the Second Anniversary of My Son’s Death

    September 17, 2016

    Life is moving along well, considering the magnitude of losing of my only child almost two years ago. Since December of last year, I have started to feel like myself again. My nature, which is generally optimistic and hopeful, has returned. Recognizing that part of myself return was like meeting with an old friend. Since […]

  • Ground Hog Days: How it Really Feels to Lose a Child

    August 17, 2016

    The   first   weeks   and   months   were   like   the   movie Groundhog Day. I began each day the same way. Waking. Feeling a free floating anger. Seeing his body on the floor and shuddering in the reality of his death. Struggling to push myself out of bed. Not wanting to get up. The bed and sleep being […]

  • Getting Through Those Triggers!

    July 15, 2016

    When we lose a loved one, the time we spend dealing with sadness surrounding that loss can vary daily, hourly or even minute-by-minute. As time goes by, the expectation we have and what generally occurs, is that the sad thoughts spread themselves out further and further apart. We learn to adjust to life moving on […]

  • Henya Shanun-Klein: Parental Bereavement

    June 10, 2016

    In 1989, Henya Shanun-Klein lost her daughter, Gili, who was killed by a reckless driver. Her daughter was only eleven years old at the time. Shanun-Klein shares her story with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) to help others who are grieving the loss of a child. Now the director of thanatology at […]

  • Trusting Our Intuition After Loss

    May 31, 2016

    I discovered the value of service to others after the death of my 18-year-old daughter Jeannine’s death in 2003. Through my participation in national conferences and gatherings of The Compassionate Friends and The Bereaved Parents of the USA, I met many supportive individuals. They positively influenced my path after loss. About a year ago, I was faced with […]

  • Is Visiting a Gravesite a Help?

    May 26, 2016

      We don’t visit our daughter’s grave. While this is a shocking statement for some, others understand our feelings. Whether or not to visit a gravesite is a personal decision, based on religious and spiritual beliefs, relationship with the deceased, the grief work that has been done, current feelings, and plans for the future. The […]

  • Learning to Allow in the Face of Tragic Loss

    May 14, 2016

    Paralytic Loss. That was me at ground zero after losing my adult son Drew in the spring of 2011 to suicide. I was so unprepared for what followed, that my mind just sort of stopped, and everything I knew with certainty was simply washed right out of my brain. The reality is that suicide is […]

  • How I Survived my First Mother’s Day as a Grieving Parent

    May 5, 2016

    Our 19-year-old son Ben was buried May 2, 2008 – eight days before Mother’s Day. Even though I was still in shock, I knew enough to stay away from church that Sunday. Our minister had always made a big deal out of the holiday, and every mother left the service with a rose. My husband […]

  • Seasons of Remembering: Spring Brings Needed Change

    April 28, 2016

    It is amazing how tangible things can evoke some memory tucked away in the secret chambers of our thoughts. Like the changing of the seasons, like Spring. Trees that just yesterday were leafless and barren, now burst with leaf and  bud. And within the intricate xylem tissue, water and minerals are transported from the roots […]

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  • When Tragedy Strikes By Laura Diehl

    November 28, 2016

    After the death of a child, there is no closure. It is like learning how to live with an amputation—you are forever changed and need to learn how to live a new “normal.” There can be a feeling of desperation to find someone farther ahead on the path who can understand the crushing pain that […]

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  • Episode 85: Transforming Grief After The Death of A Mother and Daughter

    October 2, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed Lo Anne Mayer on the death of her mother and how she found comfort and understanding by conversing with her mother through meditation and writing. After the tragic suicide of her daughter, Cyndi, Lo Anne again found comfort in writing as a conduit between […]

  • Episode 84: Military Loss

    September 25, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interviewed artist Jeanne Harris Weaver and her husband, Donn Weaver, a retired Foreign Service Diplomat.  Their son, Todd, an Army Ranger, was killed while on deployment in Afghanistan.  In his memory, Jeanne created twenty-one pictures in the year following Todd’s death.  A tribute clip is […]

  • Episode 81: Child Loss, Multiple Times

    August 19, 2016

    Child loss is huge especially when compounded by the loss of two children. On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley discuss multiple loss with, Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, and Jacquie Edwards-Mitchell, and her husband John Mitchell.  Jacquie & John, lost two sons in a drowning accident.   Jacquie is on […]

  • Episode 80: Organ Donation

    July 27, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Kayla Smith, family services coordinator for Live On New York, regarding her work with organ donor families. Judy Armijo, bereaved mother of Alexandra, and organ recipient Kevin Robinson join the group to discuss the impact of Alexandra’s decision to become a registered organ donor.  Alexandra died […]

  • Episode 78: Sudden Death Versus Anticipated Grief

    June 3, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, discuss the challenges of sudden versus anticipated loss with bereaved mother’s Ann Kahdalia and Denise Pedersen whose children died in vehicle related accidents. Joining the group is Mitch Carmody whose son died of cancer. Alan Pedersen closes the show singing […]

  • Episode 76: Loss after the Battle of Substance Abuse

    June 3, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of the Compassionate Friends, interview Dianna Lynn bereaved mother of both Josh and Logan and Nancy Juracka bereaved mother of Lance regarding how they found hope after their children’s death by substance abuse. The show closes with Alan singing A Little Farther Down the […]

  • Episode 75: Returning to Work After Loss

    June 3, 2016

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Alan Pedersen, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, talk with bereaved parents Terri O’Rourke and Tim Meadows about the challenges of returning to work after the deaths of their son’s, both name Christopher. A video clip is played regarding grief in the workplace produced by psychologist and bereaved […]

  • Episode 74: Grief Diaries

    May 10, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Lynda Cheldelin Fell, Linda Bateman Gomez , Carol Scibelli and Christine Duminiak. These four women have found hope after loss and have contributed to the Grief Diaries brand of books created by Lynda Fell. Lynda is also the executive president of the newly formed National Grief […]

  • Episode 73: Replacement Children

    May 9, 2016

    On this show Dr.’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Judy Mandel and Rita Battat Silverman regarding their books on children who become the replacement child for their deceased sibling. Rita is the co-author of Replacement Children: The Unconscious Script with a foreward by Katie Couric and Judy Mandel is the author of Replacement Child: a […]

  • Episode 72: Coping After Child Loss

    May 9, 2016

    On this show Dr’s. Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview bereaved parent and creator of the Grief Diaries brand of books, webinars, and film. The second guest is Barbara Hopkinson, bereaved parent and author of A Butterfly’s Journey To A New Normal. She is a certified Grief Recovery Specialist and a Compassionate Friends Chapter Leader. We […]

  • Episode 71: Coping With Cancer Loss

    May 4, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley interview Bill Goeren LCSW director of clinical services at CancerCare in Manhattan regarding services for those who are grieving the loss of a family member. The second guest is Nancy Cincotta psychosocial director of Camp Sunshine located in Maine providing support for children and their families who […]

  • Episode 69: Friends Helping Friends

    May 3, 2016

    On this show Dr’s Gloria and Heidi Horsley are joined by Dana Lerner bereaved mother of Cooper Stock. Jackie Kern and Matt Vidmar a teacher & coach at the Calhoun school discuss honoring and remembering Cooper. A video is shown of friends and teachers honoring Cooper. The show closes with Sam Horn and Jackson Lundy, […]

  • Episode 67: Finding Hope After A Terrorist Attack

    April 26, 2016

    Joining Dr’s. Gloria and Heidi Horsley on this show are Melissa Pettignano, singer and songwriter and her mother Evelyn whose aunt/sister Arlene was killed in the World Trade Center and Mary Fetchet who Co-founded Voices of September 11th in 2001 following the death of her son Brad on 9/11. A clinical social worker, Mary created […]