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  • Depression in the Workplace Can Be Fatal

    June 16, 2014

    with workplace commentary by Sandra Turner, Ph.D In the early morning hours on March 29, 1999, our son Keith died by suicide. Keith suffered from depression caused by the stress he experienced in his place of work—a company where he had worked for only a short seven months of his life. Growing up, Keith was […]

  • Healing Through Art: Interview with Sharon Strouse

    May 18, 2014

    At the annual ADEC Conference, I had the opportunity to speak with Sharon Strouse of The Kristin Rita Strouse Foundation and discuss with her ways to deal with grief after losing a child. Sharon is also the author of a book called Artful Grief: A Diary of Healing. Using her book, anyone can create their […]

  • Talking to Children about Suicide

    May 17, 2014

    Children and Suicide in Today’s World The topic of suicide and children is one that has been approached with great difficulty. All too often parents, educators, therapists, and other caring professionals are unwilling or unable to speak of the issues surrounding suicide with today’s youth. Yet in our nation and in our world the young […]

  • Grief After Suicide is Particularly Complicated

    May 7, 2014

    One person dies by suicide every 13.7 minutes in the United States, according to the American Suicide Prevention Foundation. You never think your family will become part of such a heartbreaking statistic. From the outside, my uncle’s life seemed perfect — lots of friends, a terrific job and a family who adored him. My mom’s […]

  • What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need?

    January 19, 2014

    What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need? Men have a chance to answer that question themselves in an anonymous, confidential survey that is available online until Jan. 31, 2014. If you are a man 19 or older who has lost a family member, friend, or colleague to suicide, please go directly to the survey at […]

  • Moving Forward After a Suicide

    January 10, 2014

    Today is January 10. It is a date that holds significance; it is the day my father died by suicide. It will be 25 years since his passing and yet, this year feels particularly difficult for me. Perhaps it is the realization that I lost him when I was a young woman or that I […]

  • What Does God Think About Suicide Victims?

    January 7, 2014

    Suicide victims battled life’s rawest contests. They often faced a mental illness or illnesses and felt the peril of mental fatigue. What you and I take for granted, they coveted. Optimism. Hope. Confidence that all will be well. Their clouds had no silver linings; their storms had no rainbows. Didn’t we wonder, Why couldn’t he […]

  • Sister Unloads Grief Years After Brother’s Suicide

    August 7, 2013

    I was a sweet, blue-eyed seven-year-old girl watching The Parent Trap while my big brother was babysitting. He got me a cup of water after asking if there was anything I needed. Little did I know my answer should have been, “I need my big brother.” Only minutes later I heard a heart-stopping, deafening boom. […]

  • What We Can Learn From Angelina Jolie — About Suicide

    July 18, 2013

    I was reading Angelina’s op-ed piece in the New York Times, on her decision to have a double mastectomy to reduce her risk of breast cancer. The fact that she shared her story was both courageous and inspiring. Why did she want to share her story and not keep it private, a move that’s been […]

  • A Haunting Disturbance: A Poem

    July 15, 2013

    Maybe I’ll always be tortured by loud noises The sudden silence after it echoes through the trees Maybe my skin will always develop goosebumps As I hear the little girl inside of me Soundlessly scream—no, no more—please. The emptiness that is momentarily formed in my heart Soon fills with dread From the conclusion of the […]

  • Poem: Eleven Years

    July 2, 2013

    Eleven Years My love for you is unconditional However, so is my anger And I have waited eleven years For this devastation to be over But it has only just begun: The torture that makes me want to scream— And I just want to run away From this awfully dreadful scheme. Oh, how badly I […]

  • Introduction: Innocence

    June 28, 2013

    Maybe it’s peculiar that I don’t feel ashamed. My beauties are noticeable, but I’m proud of them. Some have called me crazy and maybe always will, but I won’t hide from that label. If I’m crazy then is that pretty little girl, as innocent as it’s possible to be, crazy because she had “normal” ripped […]

  • Suicide of an abusive parent

    June 2, 2013

    5 months ago, I stopped all comunication with my abusive alcoholic parent. I am a new mother and wife, and have finally found out that love doesn’t have to hurt me. Its not ok to manipulate me. I am the only child to an alcoholic mother, I am all she has. When I became a […]

  • a very big problem

    April 23, 2013

    hello, im 18 years old and i have a problem my girlfriend is also 18 yers old and he has just noticed that shes pregnant. im thinking about suicicde i cant do it.. what could i say to my parents, they would kill me.. please help

  • Suicide Leaves Mark on Those Left Behind

    April 15, 2013

    To the casual observer, Mindy McCready’s recent suicide death reads like a bad country song. To those of us who have lived through some of what she experienced or are witness to in our work, it reads more like a roadmap to sure death. Last fall, in an interview, McCready seemed full of hope, gaining […]

  • Recovered Email Provides Comfort to Grieving Mom

    March 20, 2013

    Throughout the years, my mother has written me many inspiring letters. I use the internet and write my children emails. Time may change the way we communicate – but it hasn’t replaced our need to connect with one another. I cherish the notes received from my son and daughter, and have managed to tuck a […]

  • Survivors Left by Suicide Have Special Grief

    February 12, 2013

    By Father Charles Ruby As we begin a new year, the holidays are over and survivors of a completed suicide breathe a collective sigh of relief. The holidays very often are a very painful time. There are no more holiday gatherings where there is an aura of gaiety. Survivors no longer have to put on […]

  • Profile of Drug-Death Bereaved Parents

    February 7, 2013

    This article is adapted from a longer selection first appearing in The Compassionate Friends We Need Not Walk Alone Magazine, (Winter2011/Spring 2012 issue). Parents losing children to a drug overdose or a drug-related death face an especially daunting post-loss adaptation challenge, when compared to other bereaved parents whose children died from suicides, automobile accidents and […]

  • The Stigma of Suicide and How It Affects Survivors’ Healing

    January 31, 2013

    In this short paper, I condense an article that first appeared in the International Association of Suicide Prevention Postvention Taskforce Newsletter (Vol. 3. No. 5, Oct. 2008). Today analysts claim suicide stigma is subtle with blame being cast upon survivors and survivors being subjected to informal isolation and shunning. It is often noted that stigmatization […]

  • After Suicide, Transforming Grief into Peace

    January 29, 2013

    I was consumed by guilt for a long time over my father’s suicide, in 1978, mainly because I thought I was helping him. I did not understand the nature of his illness, so some of the things I did were actually harmful to him (for example, trying to talk him out of his delusions). Most […]

  • Does a Child’s Death Adversely Affect Marital Stability?

    January 17, 2013

    Bereavement is a topic rife with stereotypical thinking among the general public. One often hears the view expressed that a child’s death may have damaging effects upon a couple’s marriage. Actually, the limited research on this topic does show evidence of increased conflict and marital discord among couples experiencing a still birth or a neo-natal […]

  • Does the Stigma of Mental Illness Still Exist?

    November 11, 2012

    A few months ago, my cousin came to our house to review and discuss the family history my husband had been writing. After reviewing the material, he made one request – leave out the part about his father’s bipolar disorder. In fact he didn’t want to see any discussion of any of the mental illness […]

  • No Situation is Hopeless

    November 1, 2012

    Hurricane Sandy has caused great destruction across the United States. If you were hit hard by this east coast storm, you are not alone. Remember, no situation is hopeless. Please reach out to your mental health professional, faith community family and close friends. Contact 1-800-273-TALK (8255) if you are thinking about harming yourself.

  • Still With Us: Son Visits Through Signs

    October 27, 2012

    The plans were set for a 9-day adventure with my sister. The excitement and anticipation were building. I had to pack carefully as our travels would cover different elevations and therefore different temperatures. The plans were to cover many miles and to experience as much as we could. After hours of traveling by plane and […]

  • Faith is Like Insurance When a Loved One Dies

    October 25, 2012

    “Faith is not the absence of fear, but the willingness to go on when fear is present.” The summer of 2011 will be remembered as a season of violent storms and will be marked by many lives that were turned upside down by the havoc of mother nature. Tornados ravished Alabama.  Hurricane Irene washed the […]

  • Ending Your Life Is Not The Answer

    October 22, 2012

    You are at the end of your rope and you can’t take it any much longer. You are in pain and you are suffering and you feel there is no hope. The first thing that you need to do is to seek the services of a professional counselor. As a published author of a managing […]

  • Missing a Son During his Birthday Season

    September 30, 2012

    As I planted my veggie seeds last spring, I sensed a joy to bring in new life. As I now tear down my garden, I am relieved the work is almost done. I sense a sadness. Why? you may ask. So close to the birthday of my deceased son, Joshua. It’s a very hard season indeed. […]

  • Grieving Mother gets BIG Message from her Loving Son

    September 9, 2012

    My son, Ryan, committed suicide in June of 2002; but from day one, I was keenly aware that his spirit never left me. Fortunately, I have been blessed with many signs and dream visits since he crossed over. With time, my awareness grew, and I learned to understand and recognize the different signs he would […]

  • How Working Outside My Hope Helped Me Survive

    September 7, 2012

    When my older son Paul died by suicide in 1999 after a seven-year battle with bipolar disorder, I had to find ways to keep myself busy and productive or else I would wallow away in my grief. At the time of his death I wrote grant proposals for a homeless shelter, but with too many […]

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  • Cendra Lynn: Web Based Grief Support

    May 1, 2014

    Cendra Lynn Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist, certified traumatologist, and a pioneer in the field of grief and loss. She is the founder of the web sites GriefNet and KIDSAID, where over 50 email support groups enable grieving people to safely write others with a similar loss.

  • Diane Martin Ph.D. CT: Forgiveness

    March 13, 2014

    Diane Martin is a writer, therapist and educator who experienced the loss of her son Sandy to suicide. In her pathway to healing she sought to understand the profound experience of child loss through completing her PhD and recent work The Mother’s Journey.

  • Christa Scalies: Healing Grief Through Laughter

    November 28, 2013

    Christa Scalies has experienced the messy, fearful, ugly and soul-wrenching side of grief after losing two friends to suicide. In her e-book, “Suicide Sucks: Move thought the Pain of Suicide Loss and Learn to Laugh Again,”Christa provides 10 actionable steps to help people recover mentally, physically, and spiritually from loss.

  • Sharon Greenlee: Unresolved Grief

    October 3, 2013

    Sharon Greenlee is a professional counselor and author. She facilitates grief and suicide survivor support groups. Sharon has extensive experience working with children who have experienced traumatic loss. Her current book is “Grief Entanglements: Understanding Unresolved Grief and What You Can Do About It”.

  • Abel Keogh: Getting it Together After Loss

    September 26, 2013

    Abel Keogh is author of the memoir Room for Two, the story of the year of his life following his late wife’s suicide and the corresponding death of their unborn child. He is also the writer of the relationship guides Dating a Widower, Marrying a Widower, and Life with a Widower. Now remarried, he and […]

  • Kerie Boshka; Loving Your Life After Tragedy

    July 4, 2013

    After the suicide of her husband, author Kerie Boshka felt a devastation that she thought would destroy her. Desperate and needing to care for her two children, she turned to God. Today she has again found hope and happiness. Kerie dedicates her life to sharing her journey with others. She is the author of If […]

  • Rebecca Guevara: Hero’s Journey Through Grief Transformation

    April 11, 2013

    Rebecca had a business career and was tentatively starting to enjoy writing when her brother, her only sibling, took his life. In grief’s tailwind she left writing, losing the ability to be her true self. Years passed before she believed it was okay to enjoy life. Finally she returned to writing and began teaching and […]

  • Erika R. Barber: Navigating Life Stages Post Sibling Death

    March 28, 2013

    Erika R. Barber lived the first fifteen years of her life as a sibling and has since lived as a sibling survivor. Following her sister’s suicide, Erika embarked on a life-long endeavor to merge these familial roles and discover her own unique identity. Her workbook, Letters from a Friend: A Sibling’s Guide for Coping and […]

  • John Duffy; Being Present in Relationships

    January 3, 2013

    John Duffy is a clinical psychologist, certified life coach, relationship expert, and the author of  “The Available Parent”.  He is no stranger to loss as ten years ago his younger brother committed suicide.  He uses his experiences to help others.  His focus is on optimizing satisfaction and joy in relationships, while minimizing fear, judgment and […]

  • Carl David; Suicide Support

    December 13, 2012

    Carl David is the third descendant of a four-generation art dealer family specializing in American and European nineteenth- and twentieth-century art.  He is the author of  “Bader Field; How My Family Survived Suicide” the story of how his family lived through his brother’s shocking death by suicide when Carl was just sixteen years old.

  • Terry Jones-Brady; Finding Love and Happiness After Profound Loss

    November 22, 2012

    Terry Jones-Brady is a strong and deeply spiritual person. Both of Terry’s daughters were born with cystic fibrosis. Terry began an unfathomable journey and survived not two but three deaths. After the deaths of her daughters, her husband died by suicide. She grieved, searched for understanding, and finally, found love and happiness again. She is the author […]

  • Michael Nunley: Healing Family Losses With Music

    August 16, 2012

    Michael Nunley’s father’s diagnosis of terminal cancer was like losing an anchor for the Nunley family.  A second blow came when Michael broke the news, that his sister Cyndy had taken her life. Michael shares how the loss of his sister enabled him to craft the song for a Compassionate Friends Candle Lighting bringing him […]

  • Figuring Out Life and Death: Musings, Stories and Questions About Suicide

    March 24, 2014

    There are a myriad of reasons why people decide to take their own lives, although there is a preponderance of suicides due to mental illness, maybe even as high as 90%. What about the other 10%? These are people who may have found themselves depressed due to a certain event or set of circumstances; perhaps […]

  • Devastating Losses: How Parents Cope With the Death of A Child to Suicide or Drugs

    February 10, 2013

    William Feigelman’s book, Devastating Losses: How Parents Cope With the Death of A Child to Suicide or Drugs, is available at Amazon.com. The book was published in June 2012 by the Springer Publishing Company. With its 575 respondents, the study explores many important aspects of suicide and drug-related death losses: how stigma impedes survivor’s healing, […]

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