• Pregnancy Losses Challenge Mother’s Resolve

    November 19, 2015

    Since I was a young girl, the only thing that I was 100% certain of was that one day I would get married and become a mom. At the age of 30, I got the married part down and before I knew it, we were ready to get working on making me a mom. I […]

  • Darcy Harris: Reproductive Loss

    November 4, 2015

    The thanatology coordinator at Kings University College, Darcy Harris, joins the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) to discuss one of the most disenfranchised of losses: Reproductive loss. She’s also a therapist who specializes in loss, transition, and change. Also an editor on a recent book on loss, Harris is a revered expert in […]

  • Stillbirth: A Quiet Death

    October 22, 2015

      When a child you carry in your womb for nearly six months stops moving; when a small tiny life ceases to have breath; when all that you were looking forward to is extinguished; life changes in those moments. A quiet death has taken place. At first not even noticed. Without any warning, an umbilical […]

  • In the Forest: Unsettled by a Stillbirth

    October 8, 2015

    Serena asked me to help bury her child. This question occurred a couple of years after we met. I wonder now if Serena’s request, accompanied by her intense gaze, had been within her heart when she first worshiped at the rural church I then served. Her stillborn child, named Eve, was carried to near the […]

  • Silently Born

    October 7, 2015

    Our lives were forever changed on November 10, 2013. Our granddaughter, Sophia Grace, was silently born. No warning. No signs. No heartbeat. We questioned the midwives, who acted like it was another day “at the office,” and the doctor, who said our daughter could go home for a day or two to prepare herself to […]

  • Stillbirth: Coping With and Supporting Those Whose Babies Have Died

    September 30, 2015

    Last month I wrote a blog for the Huffington Post discussing what to do with personal items and pictures after a loss. In response to this a reader commented that she had a stillbirth and wished she had kept more of the items she had prepared for her baby. I was moved by her comments […]

  • Elizabeth Heineman: Mourning a Stillbirth

    August 10, 2015

    A stillborn birth is a loss and trauma that’s relatively rare, which can make getting support a little more challenging. In this episode of The Open to Hope show, Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley discuss still births with Elizabeth Heineman, who lost her son Thor in a still birth. This loss prompted journaling and eventually […]

  • Stephanie Rose: Response of Men After Miscarriage

    August 3, 2015

    Stephanie Rose talks with Dr. Heidi Horsley about how men handle a miscarriage, an often unspoken trauma. A doctoral student at Purdue University, Rose is studying how men respond following a miscarriage. Dr. Horsley has had two miscarriages, and recalls it seeming like her own experience—her husband’s lack of support due to society’s minimized importance […]

  • Tony Grace: The Doughy Center

    July 22, 2015

    Tony Grace of The Doughy Center in Portland, Ore. spoke to Dr. Gloria Horsley during the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference about the loss of children and miscarriages. Personally, Grace has experienced three miscarriages in his life, which has inspired his work with the Center. “One in four pregnancies end in miscarriage,” […]

  • ‘Würmchen is Dead’

    September 18, 2014

    There’s an old pear tree in our back yard. It’s too close to the house. One of these days, a windstorm will blow one of the high branches onto the roof, and we’ll wish we’d had it removed earlier. Already, windstorms have taken down the three ancient apple trees that were on the property when […]

  • Compassionate Friends National Conference

    June 27, 2013

    To all of your in this forum, I encourage you to seek support from family, friends and others who have similar losses. A support group is especially beneficial, when family and friends move on. The Compassionate Friends–the grand mother of bereavement support groups, is holding its National Conference in Boston on July 5-7. If you […]

  • Preg/Infant Loss Support

    January 13, 2013

    Good evening. My name is Beth and I am a mother to 3 Angels. I am looking for local women to join us at our yearly Ceremony in October for Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awarenss. Our ceremony this year is called “Whispers From Heaven”. We have a current FB page Chicago Angel Moms & Dads. […]

  • Back to School

    September 4, 2012

    Back to school is in the air. In millions of homes across the country, families are busy preparing for the annual return to school. For many of us who have lost infants and young children, it is a very difficult time, as we are reminded that our child never made it to the first day […]

  • Mother’s Day

    May 13, 2012

    Mother’s Day. You or someone you know may have had a pregnancy loss, still birth or newborn death, and are experiencing acute grief feelings, especially today. In such a situation, when one’s hopes and dreams have been smashed, the upcoming Mother’s Day only brings sadness and dread. First let me say you have a right […]

  • Springtime in the Heart Can Happen After Pregnancy Loss

    March 29, 2012

    It’s been unseasonably warm in the Rocky Mountains lately. We have an early and warm spring and I am not complaining one bit! I live for the sun’s warmth on my pale skin and the joy I feel when flowers begin popping out of the ground. I feel reborn, which of course is what spring […]

  • Still birth Loss

    March 17, 2012

    Here is a link to an article entitled: Stillborn–still living, that contains some helpful information. Source: Grief Digest magazine. Take a look. … ll-living/

  • ‘Brotherhood’ of Fathers Who Have Lost Children

    March 17, 2012

    I had a unique experience last week while I was at work that took me a little off guard. To give you some background leading up to this experience, it started the Friday before New Year’s weekend and I was on the phone with someone (Mark) I had never spoken to before and we were […]

  • My Baby Died, and Taught Me Faith

    March 11, 2012

    That little voice within me is always right but, it’s taken me a long time to learn that.  I tend to drown her out with the noise of my mind. She knew, when I first found out I was pregnant, on my daughter’s birthday, May of 2009, that it was the beginning of an end. […]

  • Deceased Grandchild Sends Dragonflies to Grandma

    August 28, 2011

    Synchronicity is far more than a rock album. It is the term coined by Carl Jung, a Swiss psychotherapist, to describe the phenomenon in which events are connected in such a meaningful way that their occurrence seems to defy the calculations of probability. Part of my new normal since my granddaughter was born still is […]

  • Hope Eternal: Miscarriage Doesn’t End Mother-Daughter Bond

    March 5, 2011

    We call her Hope. Our baby, lost to us in late January 2003, was with us only briefly. Eight weeks to be exact. Not long enough to take her first breath, but long enough to be a reality in my heart. Long enough for me to imagine holding her in my arms. Long enough to […]

  • Poem: My Anna, My Angel

    March 3, 2011

    Across the room, I feel your touch. So perfect, only Heaven can hold you. Above the silence, I hear your laugh. So perfect, only Heaven can hold you. Through the night, I see your face. So perfect, only Heaven can hold you. Stretching into the morning, your heart beats with mine. So perfect, only Heaven […]

  • Meditations on the Word ‘Still’

    August 15, 2010

    “But after tempest . . . /There came a day as still as heaven” (Tennyson) Still. An ordinary word, brief, easy to pronounce. When my sons were toddlers, I often told them to hold still while I was brushing their hair, changing their clothes, bundling them into snow suits. I would ask them to please […]

  • Father Takes on Mission After Surviving Death of Two Children

    May 11, 2010

    I grew up in a typical blue collar Midwest City where working hard and playing hard was a way of life.  Men were expected to toughen up when times got rough and plow through them.  There wasn’t room for weakness.  When things became too much, you headed to the bar for a few hours.  Nobody […]

  • Death of Grandchild is a Double Loss

    April 16, 2010

    April 11 was my second-born grandson, Conner’s, birthday.  He would have been 16 this year.  Oh, the fun age.  The 16th birthday, to me, is when you no longer feel like you are a child but not quite an adult.   You aren’t quite sure where to go with those feelings you have inside you.  Also, […]

  • Grandmother Shares Story of Double Loss

    January 18, 2010

    January 25th will be my third grandchild’s birthday.  There won’t be any cake or ice cream or a party. She isn’t here with us.   Instead we will put  balloons on her gravesite.   She would have been 14.  Her name was Jacy Kay. She had my middle name.  We would have had another teenager in the family.  When […]

  • The Birth of Purpose: Foundation Emerges from Stillbirth

    October 20, 2009

    A mother’s viewpoint of grief: deep and profound Nicole Alston recalls: April 29, 2005, was our due date, and like any typical first-time parents responding to the initial signs of labor, my husband Paul and I dashed to the hospital full of hope and promise. After years of unexplained infertility and a miscarriage in 2003, we […]

  • October: Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month

    October 4, 2009

    In 1988, when President Ronald Reagan declared October to be Pregnancy and Infant Loss Awareness Month, I was still in college, not yet married, and motherhood was a distant point in my future.  The proclamation, even if I had heard about it, would have sailed right past my consciousness. Five years later, when I became […]

  • Keeping and Sharing Memories of Our Babies

    September 17, 2009

    When my friend Dawn was pregnant with triplets, due the following June, her husband Andy wanted to surprise her with a special piece of jewelry for Christmas.  He had no idea what to get, so the sales lady helped him pick a stone.  “Get her an amethyst because it’s purple, for royalty, and your wife […]

  • When a Miscarriage Occurs After Fertility Treatments

    April 15, 2009

    By Kira Copperman, LMSW – Being a patient at a fertility clinic brings moments of anxiety, hope, excitement, fear, and stress.  The time and effort to become pregnant can feel like an emotional roller coaster and certainly a different route to conception than one may have imagined.  A Harvard Medical School study showed that patients […]

  • Horror of Pregnancy Loss Inspires Mother to Grow

    March 30, 2009

    By Suzanne Schafer – My husband and I lost a baby during the middle of my pregnancy. From the first moment the doctor told me, with a deep, pained look on his face, that our baby had passed away, I felt grave sorrow in my heart which surged down to my core. Shortly after this […]

  • What Makes Pregnancy Losses Unique

    March 20, 2009

    by Irv Leon, Ph.D. – People who suffer miscarriages and stillbirths grieve over a baby they do not know.  Understanding how these losses are different from other losses helps to appreciate the distinct way they are mourned. Here are several ways that pregnancy loss is unique. 1.  It can feel less real. When you grieve, you typically recall […]

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  • 53 Episode: First Candle: Supporting Stillbirth and SIDS Families

    October 27, 2015

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Chris Blake, the chief operating officer of First Candle, regarding the foundation’s work in saving babies’ lives, spearheading research, educating new moms and dads and bringing hope to grieving families. Debbie Haine Vijayvergiya, bereaved mom of Autumn Joy and advocate for stillbirth awareness and […]

  • Episode 52: Pregnancy Loss and Still Birth

    October 5, 2015

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley and Dr. Gloria Horsley talk with Chris Blake the chief operating officer of  “First Candle”.  They discuss the work of the foundation in saving babies’ lives, spearheading research, educating new moms and dads, and bringing hope to grieving families. Brooke Smith of Knot My Baby also appears on the […]

  • Episode 3: Coping With Pregnancy Loss and Infertility-Grief Relief TV

    March 9, 2013

    Co-hosts, mother, daughter team, Gloria Horsley Ph.D. and Heidi Horsley Psy.D interview guests: Chandrama Anderson, MFT, and author of No U-Turn at Mercy Street: A Memoir and Resource Guide for Grieving Parents, G. David Adamson MD, Director of Fertility Physicians of Northern California, Clinical Professor Stanford University School of Medicine and Beth Jaeger-Skigen, LCSW. This […]

  • Prenatal Loss: Dr Heidi Horsley

    February 25, 2013

    Dr Heidi Horsley discusses prenatal loss and the fact that it can be an unacknowledged loss.  

  • Nicole Alston-Life After the Death of a Daughter

    November 5, 2012

    After Nicole Alston’s infant daughter died she looked for ways to help other grieving parents. She founded the Skye Foundation. Association of Death Education and Counseling

  • Darcy Harris-Reproductive Loss

    March 26, 2012

    Dr Darcy Harris shares her insight on reproductive loss at the annual Association of Death Education and Counseling.

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