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  • Episode # 14 Grief Relief TV: Coping With Death of a Twin

    November 10, 2013

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi discuss with Mary Rockefeller Morgan, Licensed Clinical Social Worker, and author, the devastating death of her twin brother, Michael, when her father, Neilson Rockefeller, was governor of New York. Carolyn Shane executive director of Temple Emanu-El, Westfield, NJ also discusses the death of her twin and how […]

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  • Dorothy Foltz-Gray: Loss of a Twin

    August 1, 2013

    Dorothy Foltz-Gray is the author of five books including With and Without Her: A Memoir of Being and Losing a Twin. A winner of the Tennessee Arts Commission Poetry Fellowship and other awards, she has written for magazines such as O — The Oprah Magazine; Bon Appetit; More; and Real Simple.

  • Mary Rockefeller Morgan: Grieving the Loss of a Twin

    January 24, 2013

    Mary R. Morgan, L.M.S.W. is a licensed psychotherapist and bereaved sibling specializing in working with twinless twins.  She lectures on the subject of twin loss and has led a bereavement group for twins whose twin died in the 9/11 World Trade Center disaster.

Articles

  • Dressing a Sister for the Afterlife

    February 20, 2013

    Below is an excerpt from With and Without Her: A Memoir of Being and Losing a Twin. My identical twin sister, a psychologist, has died in Lowell, Massachusetts, from a head wound inflicted by a former patient. We have brought her home to Philadelphia, where my mother and I go to the funeral home to […]

  • Losing My Sister: A Boston Vigil

    January 27, 2013

    Below is an excerpt from With and Without Her: A Memoir of Being and Losing a Twin.  The piece begins the day my sister, a psychologist, was fatally shot by one of her patients.  My husband, Dan, and I have traveled from Knoxville, Tennessee, to the Lowell, Massachusetts, hospital where my sister lies dying. It […]

  • Twin-Loss: Healing Memory of Early Twinship

    September 29, 2012

    Mother announces, “School’s out. It’s time you two had your own gardens. No more family victory garden like we had in Washington. You are old enough to grow your own vegetables. We can eat them at home or maybe if they are really nice, you can try to sell them to your Grandmother and Grandfather.” […]

  • Healing from Twin-Loss Requires New Connections

    September 22, 2012

    So many people are shattered by deep personal grief, by the unique and often unacknowledged experiences of their loss, and by the misunderstood depth and length of their bereavements. The death of my twin brother, Michael, and the different ways I experienced the absence of him in my life, created a deep sense of inner […]

  • The Bereavement Process for Twinless Twins

    June 29, 2012

    When we lose a twin, it feels for many of us like the literal end of our lives. That is true, in that it is the end of life as we have known it since the moment of our conception. As one twin explained to me: “The day my twin died, the lights went out.” […]

  • Grief Can Surface Any Time

    June 24, 2012

    Denial of grief is common and misunderstood. Grief can wait in the wings for a time to surface, when you are better prepared to absorb its lessons. It can be triggered by other losses. Left undone, grief can wreak havoc with your ability to enjoy life and feel positive emotions. Grief has no time frame. […]

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    September 25, 2011

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  • Loss of a Twin has Huge Impact

    July 13, 2011

      Susan Heim, a writer for Chicken Soup For The Soul, asked me to write an article for a twin publication on bereavement geared to the parents of twins. At first it seemed unsuitable for twins to hear about the possibility of an untimely death of their twin. This column appeared in Triplets, Moms and […]

  • Sharing the Experience of being a ‘Twinless Twin’

    February 7, 2010

    The emotions I felt were mirrored in other twinless twins I met.  Just listening, for the first time, to other twins tell their story of loss and what it meant for them to lose their twin had an impact I will never forget. It was a huge gift in my life. It has been my […]

  • How Does Twin Honor the Sister Who Died?

    June 11, 2009

    Gladys writes in: I just lost my twin sister three months ago to something we now know as Long QT syndrome. She was perfectly healthy and woke to check on her crying baby one morning and fell unconscious and never gained consciousness again. Our 30th birthday is this Sunday and I am wanting to do […]

  • Film Review: The Secret Life of Bees

    March 10, 2009

    By Linda Pountney – Multiple loss themes run concurrently throughout the movie The Secret Life Of Bees, based on Sue Monk Kidd’s novel, directed by Gina Prince-Bythewood. Dakota Fanning plays Lily, a guarded fourteen-year old, grief-stricken over the death of a mother she hardly remembers. A tortured soul, Lily’s father (Paul Bettany) takes his pain […]

  • What It’s Like to Lose a Twin

    February 24, 2009

    By Linda Pountney — I was taken captive by life and death at the age of twenty-one. My identical twin sister Paula and I faced life together for twenty-one years. We never imagined life without the other. As twins, we had an unspoken pact to care for one another. When she died suddenly in a […]

  • Twins: Connected in Life and Death

    January 18, 2009

    By Linda Pountney As a twin myself, the death of actor and identical twin Jon Hager this month was especially fascinating. Jon and Jim Hager co-starred in the old TV show, “Hee-Haw,” back in the 1970s. Jim died of a heart attack last year at just 66 years of age; Jon died at 67 on […]