Chuck Overton: Spiritual Journey

The Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) conference brings together Chuck Overton and Neil Chethik from Open to Hope. Overton is one of the spiritual directors at a care center in Tennessee. As a chaplain, he finds that the biggest concern for those on a spiritual journey going through a loss is feeling abandoned by God. Sometimes they feel abandoned by their spiritual community. They feel isolated from the pastor, members of their church, and even their friends and family.

The long-term continued support can fade away after a short amount of time. That’s when difficulty really occurs. This is interpreted as abandonment by God via the people who should be there for them. When talking with the bereaved for the first time, Overton approaches them by getting to know them. Knowing their life history and who they are as well as their spiritual connection is critical. That gives him a good idea of where they are.

Spiritual Journeys

Through conversation, many will talk about their spiritual connections rather than their personal connections. They might say, “I have family, but they’re not around.” This tells Overton a lot about their abandonment and isolation feelings. The bereaved might get clichéd support. He lets everyone know that he’s available, which is a surprise to them. Some don’t know that there are specialists who deal with grief.

There are certainly clergymen who don’t specialize in grief, and this can feel like a dead end. It might be important to identify a member of a church who has special training with the bereaved. Overton dealt with death once per month, at the most, as a regular chaplain. As a hospice chaplain and bereavement worker, he deals with end of life issues and death every single day, which lets him listen on a different level.

 

 

Neil Chethik

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Neil Chethik is an author, speaker and expert specializing in men's lives and family issues. He is the author of two acclaimed books: VoiceMale: What Husbands Really Think About Their Marriages, Their Wives, Sex, Housework and Commitment (Simon & Schuster 2006), and FatherLoss: How Sons of All Ages Come To Terms With the Deaths of Their Dads (Hyperion 2001). Previously, Neil was a staff reporter for the Tallahassee Democrat and San Jose Mercury News, and writer of VoiceMale, the first syndicated column on men's personal lives. His writings have appeared in hundreds of print and web publications. He is currently Writer-in-Residence at the Carnegie Center for Literacy and Learning in Lexington, Ky., where he lives with his wife, Kelly Flood, and son, Evan. Reach Neil at: Neil@NeilChethik.com 121 Arcadia Park Lexington Ky. 40503 859-361-1659 Neil appeared on the radio show “Healing the Grieving Heart” with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley to discuss “Men and Loss.” To hear Neil being interviewed on this show, click on the following link: www.voiceamericapd.com/health/010157/horsley121307.mp3

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