It seems that everyone is excited to start the new year ahead with gusto, and plans for the future. To someone who is grieving the loss of a loved one, this can bring about even stronger feelings of sadness and despair. The one we spent our time with is no longer here to make plans with, while the world moves on without us.

Some grievers may feel that there is nothing left to live for at this very delicate time in their life. This thought couldn’t be more wrong. Each and every one of us has a purpose in this life. Just as the ones we are missing had purpose. As hard as it may be, we need to find it within ourselves to live out the purpose that was given to us upon our birth. You have a significant reason for being here.

Consider sharing your story of your loved one by going to a support group or volunteering somewhere that has meaning to you. One can never tell how much sharing a part of themselves can help change the life of another. You may never realize how much your story has affected a person, but by putting yourself out there, you will not only ease the pain of others, but you will begin to heal your own heart as well.

If you are uncomfortable with face to face meetings, then find an online community that you like and start posting in the forums. In no time, you will find that you have created friendships with people in similar situations, who also need a shoulder to cry on. It goes both ways, which is the most wonderful part of online bereavement groups. Everyone there knows the pain of loss and understands the grief that you are going through.

If you find that your sadness is unbearable, please talk to a family member and seek the advice of a medical professional.