Dr. Leeat Granek: Get Familiar with Death

A psychologist at McMaster University in Canada, Dr. Leeat Granek talks with the Association for Death Education and Counseling (ADEC) about coping with grief. Like many in the bereavement field, Dr. Granek was drawn to the industry because of personal experience. Her mother died of breast cancer, and Dr. Granek immediately set her sights on the field of grief, death, and loss. She’s well-known in her field for her academic work, as well as working with family and patients who are struggling with their own losses. Dr. Granek organizes meetings across Canada to discuss loss.

Becoming more comfortable with death is the first and best thing you can do. Acknowledging your own mortality is part of the Buddhist tradition, but it can help anyone. Getting familiar with death and realizing it’s a natural part of life is key. However, getting cozy with death looks different for everyone. Some practice a Buddhist meditation technique, imagining leaving their bodies and disappearing from earth. Some monks say thank you each morning for the gift of another day.

A Unique Approach

Know that there’s not one right way to grieve. “There’s no such thing as typical grief,” says Dr. Granek. How you grieve is going to be completely different from everyone else’s grief, although many may benefit from sharing the same grieving tools. Grief and love are both highly subjective, and it’s all normal. Accepting death as part of your life and part of others is a great thing. Although grief and death are normal, they shouldn’t be medicated away.

Understand that death is a process and there aren’t any predictable phases/stages. When in grief, recognize that it can take years to feel okay again. There will be ups and downs. Creating rituals to commemorate losses is a useful way to heal.

 

Gloria Horsley

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Dr. Gloria Horsley is an internationally known grief expert, psychotherapist, and bereaved parent. She started "Open to Hope" to help the millions in the world with grief. She is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Clinical Nurse Specialist, and has worked in the field of family therapy for over 20 years. Dr. Horsley hosts the syndicated internet radio show, The Grief Blog which is one of the top ranked shows on Health Voice America. She serves the Compassionate Friends in a number of roles including as a Board of Directors, chapter leader, workshop facilitator, and frequently serves as media spokesperson. Dr. Horsley is often called on to present seminars throughout the country. She has made appearances on numerous television and radio programs including "The Today Show," "Montel Williams," and "Sallie Jessie Raphael." In addition, she has authored a number of articles and written several books including Teen Grief Relief with Dr. Heidi Horlsey, and The In-Law Survival Guide.

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