Ending Your Life Is Not The Answer

You are at the end of your rope and you can’t take it any much longer. You are in pain and you are suffering and you feel there is no hope. The first thing that you need to do is to seek the services of a professional counselor. As a published author of a managing fear book and as a layman, here are five reasons why suicide is not an option to your problems.

 1. Things Change Over Time

Regardless of your situation, things do not stay the same. You may feel very bad today, but it won’t last forever. Remember this fact:  Regardless of your current situation, everything changes over time. This includes your current situation. Nothing remains the same forever.

 2. There Are Always Other Options…..Always

You may feel lost and confused but the answers to your specific problems are out there. The key is that you have to find the answers. The answers to your problem will not come to you. As mentioned before, the first step in finding the solution to your problem is to seek help from a qualified professional.

 3. You Can’t Predict The Future

You are fearful, confused and do not know where to turn. You think that there is no hope for you. When you are in this situation, remember the 99% rule. The 99% rule states that that no one can predict the future with one hundred percent certainty. Even if the thing that you are afraid of does happen, there are circumstances and factors that you can’t predict which can be used to your advantage. For instance, you miss the deadline for a project you have been working on for the last few months. Everything you feared is coming true. Suddenly, your boss comes to your office and tells you that the deadline is extended and that he forgot to tell you the day before. This unknown factor changes everything. We may be ninety-nine percent correct in predicting the future, but all it takes is for that one percent to make a world of difference. 

4. Focus On The Facts of Your Situation and Not Your Thoughts

When people are depressed they rely on their fearful, depressing, and negative thoughts.  That is a huge mistake. Your fearful thoughts are exaggerated and are not based on reality. When you are depressed, focus on the facts of your current situation and not on what you think. Do not assume anything regarding your current situation. Seek help from a professional immediately.

5. Go To The Hospital Immediately When It’s That Bad

If things are so bad that you are unable to function, drop everything and go to your local hospital or crisis center immediately. The people there will take care of your situation right away.

No situation is hopeless. Your loved ones, friends, relatives, God, mental health counselors, priests, ministers, etc. are all good sources of help. They are all willing to help you and they can make a difference, but you must be willing to take advantage of this help. Regardless of your situation, take advantage of the help that is around you. Remember: Every problem has a solution. You just have to find it.

Stan Popovich 2012

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Stan Popovich is the author of "A Layman's Guide to Managing Fear Using Psychology, Christianity and Non Resistant Methods" - an easy to read book that presents a general overview of techniques that are effective in managing persistent fears and anxieties. For additional information go to: www.managingfear.com Stan has struggled with fear and anxiety for over 20 years. Stanley has used his writing skills, analytical talents, interviews and diligent research in an attempt to educate readers on how to deal with fear. He was educated at Pennsylvania State University and has used these approaches in his own life. Stan has interviewed various professionals in the counseling fields and published a book based on his experiences. Stan has been on various TV and radio programs around the U.S. and his writings have been published in various magazines around the world. For A Sample of Stan's Book Read Stan's Free Articles at his website www.managingfear.com Stan has two blogs at http://managingfear.blogspot.com and http://managingfear.wordpress.com Stan's book has been reviewed by various professionals before publication. Stan's book is not a substitute for the guidance of a professional. Please do an internet search using Stan's name to see Stan's latest articles and internet/media exposure.

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  • mike says:

    i,m looking for help. Cant stop crying, loss my job, getting devorced and falling . Falling back into the life of drugs.. i went from 100,000$ a year to nothing. dont feel like working

  • Gabby says:

    You know you can do this bro! You got this! Go apply for a job at a petting zoo! Maybe you’ll fall in love with animals and you’ll feel okay. It’ll be okay, buddy.

  • John says:

    Seek help? Go to a crisis center or ER? Why? So they can drug you up, and label you forever?
    I read a lot of people say “read the bible ” or “seek God in prayer”, But what if you are so low that those two things are thought of as ridiculous answers from someone who really has no answers to your problems. Isn’t doing this buying you the “time” line in the first paragraph? Nonsense!
    Seek counseling? Sure, talk and cry for 45 minutes, see you next week. Repeat…… Useless waste of time and money.
    My advice, if you are as depressed as I am writing this comment is to turn inward and isolate yourself from your surroundings. Remove yourself from the negativity that depresses you. Make the tough decision to leave your family and friends, after all they probably put you in the frame of mind you are right now. Forgive yourself of any sin that you may have done. Don’t go to some man behind a curtain and confess. He’s a sinner just like you and I! Tell me your sin, say 3 Hail Mary’s and pray the Rosary. See I can do it too. Feel better? BS!
    Do what is going to make you happy. Screw everything and everybody else. Don’t believe that people want you to get better because they care about you. That’s a load of BS. They probably need you more than love you. They need you to solve their problems because they are helpless or you’ve done it for them over and over again. Maybe that’s why you’re so depressed like me? Don’t believe me? Test them. Next time something comes along you normally took care of or should be easy for them too, let them do it. I bet you a dollar they either won’t or beg you to do it. That’s the only reason they want you around them.
    If you really want to kill yourself go ahead. No one knows what awaits on the other side. Really, all your past relatives will greet you? Give me a break. Don’t let people tell you it’s a sin or that you will take the grief with you if you commit suicide. How do they know? Some wacko card reader or priest says so? Only after you do it will you know the truth. What’s keeping me from doing it is that I believe there is nothing afterwards. I rather live in the agony I am having and work hard to make myself happy again, then die where there is nothing. Ask yourself this question. If it’s a sin to commit suicide, then is it a sin to give up when you’re terminally ill or have suffered a heart attack?

  • olivia says:

    no one listens to me. Everyone else just dumps their life problems on me when im left to listen to things that i would be grateful to have

  • tiggerson78 says:

    Hi everyone,
    I was just reading the comments and felt I should share my thoughts and experience.
    A little over a year ago, my son (only child) took his life at the age of 33. He was a wonderful, talented and brilliant man who was in a very bad place (state of mind).
    I also suffered clinical depression for much of my life and was at one time suicidal. I was fortunate to find the help & medication I needed 15 years ago and have been able to function normally since. I am now successful and my colleagues find me to be very humorous. (BTW – I still take medication regularly)
    Please, please, please do not take the fatal step. Though you may feel that there is no more hope and you can’t stand another second of the pain, there IS hope and there IS help out there. Find someone to talk to, call a helpline and they can direct you to the help you need or see your family physician. You are a valuable person and you were born for a purpose. You are loved, though you may not feel it right now.
    When you lose a loved one by suicide (as I did), it is the most painful, traumatic loss anyone can experience. I know that I will never be the same again. I have gone through therapy and take part of a support group for survivors of loss by suicide.
    Don’t listen to the comments written by “John”. He appears to have his own set of problems which has made him bitter.
    There is help… if one health professional doesn’t work, then try another. If one medication doesn’t work… then try another. You are worth the effort – You ARE valuable!
    My heart aches for you…
    Pauline

  • Nathan Toman says:

    My whole world is upside down. Everything that should happen won’t happen. I didn’t deserve the current situation I’m in now and it’s horrible. The one person who has the power to fix everything won’t fix it because she is greedy and I can’t handle it anymore. It’s been 3 weeks and not one happy thing has happened for me. I rarely smile about anything, I’m constantly depressed and I just want her to make it better but she won’t, so I have to take matters into my own hands

  • Colynda Folks says:

    So i have been in a phsychiatric ward atleast 6 times. I am 15 years old, i suffer from Bipolar, self-harm, Depresson, and suicidal thoughts.. lately i have been doing good..but over the past few days i feel like im falling back in a hole. I want to cry and sleep all the time. I want to stop eating. I blow up on people for no reason. I want to cut and today i thought about suicide. Two deaths have happened in my school, one was a suicide, and one was an accidentle death… and for some odd reason, i wish it was me who died… i dont know what to do anymore.. i am scared..

  • mike says:

    stopped Klonopn mid 2011 lost everything I’m done

  • jessie gillis says:

    i have made a huge step in life….. i left my house at the age of 18… on my 18th birthday to be exact… and although i am hapy with the freedom i have got from it i miss my home and my security of knowing everything will be all right every day and that they will love me every day… i have seriously thought about going home…. and even talked about it with my parents but i know that as soon as i do go home everything will be back to how it was before when i hated being there because i was miserable all the time… due toverbal abuse…. i feel as if i am in a visious cycle of being a hassle or being unhappy and i dont want to be wither so i have recently started thinking about suicide…. im scared and need help

  • Gallion says:

    I am seriously depressed and have wanted to take my life for a long time now. i did not have a child hood, i had everything a kid could want except a friend. i was beaten down and cast out by everyone except my mom. i started the adult life at age 6. i never had people come over to my house and i rarely got close. i did make 3 friends eventually. 2 of them killed themselves. i have one friend. he is moving away to another state for college.. i am supposed to graduate, ok, fine, i plan to graduate. and i plan to have a hell of a day when i do. sure i have enrolled in college, but i will never make my first class. go to a doc.? why should i? i cannot trust my parents, i am going behind there back and seeking help at the MHMR here in our town.. i WALK there.. they want to tell me i am severely depressed. that i have it bad and re occurrence depression.. i self harm, and they say that it is getting a little dangerous.. but you know what? right now, i don’t feel all that depressed.. i don’t feel angry. i gave most of my general effects away to family and accentuates and sold/donated some..there are 17 days of school left… 22 days left that i have to suffer through.. 22 days, then i am fine. every night i go to my room and tally up where all my stuff will go, make another cut, and lye awake because i cannot face my dreams. 22 days… i only hope my mom will learn to forgive me..

  • Luc says:

    I’ve been having fleeting thoughts regarding harming myself and others for a while now, but I had them under control until my grandfather died. At that point I tried to soldier through the grieving process and I fell apart after 4 weeks. These thoughts are returning in greater frequency and intensity.

    I recently had my birthday, but I didn’t receive so much as a phone call, email, or a card. When I called home my mom asked, “what do you want?”. I then asked my friends if they could cover me for a beer, but not a single one said yes, and I found out later that they all went out to celebrate other peoples’ birthdays. All of them.

    I don’t know who I can trust anymore, and I am desperate for someone to at least show me that they care for me and about me. I have never even been on a date, as each time I ask a girl out, they completely stop talking to me, ask to stay my friend and slowly drift out of my life, or stand me up to never talk to me again.

    What should I do?

  • Tarah Hipple says:

    Hi everyone,
    My name is Tarah. When I was seven years old, my older brother took his life. Thirteen years later and I’m twenty years old. Even though my parents reassured my sisters and me countless that my brother’s decision to take his life wasn’t our fault, I grew up thinking somehow I wasn’t good enough. I missed him, loved him, and hated him all at the same time. Last year, I went through very intense therapy to overcome my post-traumatic-stress disorder. And yes, my brother had been dead for twelve years but I was suffering, not just from him death but also from my sister’s boyfriend’s death, both very unexpected and both extremely traumatic: I would wake up screaming and crying because I was reliving the event, I trained myself to not sleep because I was terrified of my nightmares, I was basically a walking zombie. At that point and that point exactly, I understood why my brother took his life. But let me tell you something…there IS help. You WILL get better. After the intense therapy, I didn’t hate my brother anymore. My nightmares went away and guess what, John? The John who said “go ahead and kill yourself.” I am NOT pumped full of drugs…I just kept going and I thank God that I did. My name is Tarah and I’m twenty years old. My brother’s decision to end his life affected my family and me in more ways than anyone could understand. It’s been thirteen years and I miss him beyond words. If I opened my mouth and said something to my brother the last time I saw him, moments before he locked the door and pulled the trigger, I would simply tell him to stop. Stop. I love you. Our parents love you and our sisters love you. His decision to end his life really screwed me up for awhile. For years. But I’m not screwed up anymore because of the help I got from my family, friends, and therapist. The best advice I could possibly give to those who want to end their lives is just to stop and think about their family. If my brother thought for one second the damage his decision would have on our family, he would have put that gun down right away. My brother would be proud of me. Make yourself proud and do not give up.
    I sincerely wish you the best and hope you find your way,
    Tarah

  • Myra says:

    Hello.. Im Myra.. I Constantly Have Suicidal Thoughts… I Have Been To The Hospital For Self Harm Before, And I Have Been Seeing A Therapist… But Its Not Working.. I’m Still Depressed. I’ve Been Diagnosed With MDD. (Major Depression Disorder) I Suffer From Bi-polar Disorder And I Also Have Anger ISsues… I Need Some Serious Help… Please Help Me. Contact Me On Facebook- Myra Antoinette Cauthan. Please… Help

  • hector says:

    i was diagnosed with cancer and have no insurance… i had an operation now i am going through chemo … i cant stop crying lost my job, lost my girlfriend and friends, i feel hopeless im about to loose my house i owe the bank the state of Ca the hospital….. i just want to die.

  • ed says:

    I AM TRYING SO HARD TO GET THE HELP I NEED I WAKE UP WANTING TO DIE AND CANT TELL ANYONE WHEN I HAVE IN THE PAST NOTHINGS DONE TIRED OF HIDING MY FEELINGS KEEP EXTRA PILLS WITH ME TRIED OD ONCE BEFORE