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  • Beth L. Hewett, Ph.D. : Father and Sibling Loss

    April 17, 2014

    Beth L. Hewett understands the pain and anguish of grief. A facilitator and trainer for the National Catholic Ministry to the Bereaved (NCMB).  She has in recent years lost her brother, sister and father. She is the author of the Good Words For Grieving series.

  • Galen Goben: Coping With the Death of a Parent

    March 27, 2014

    Galen, a Certified Thanatologist, is one of the Grief Support Coordinators for Forest Lawn in Southern California.  He is responsible for providing grief education and services to the community and to the grieving families served by Forest Lawn.  Galen is an ordained Disciple of Christ minister

  • Coping With the Death of a Parent: Galen Goben

    March 27, 2014

    Galen, a Certified Thanatologist, is one of the Grief Support Coordinators for Forest Lawn in Southern California. He is responsible for providing grief education and services to the community and to the grieving families served by Forest Lawn. Galen is an ordained Disciple of Christ minister.

  • Galen Goben: Coping With the Death of a Parent

    March 27, 2014

    Galen, a Certified Thanatologist, is one of the Grief Support Coordinators for Forest Lawn in Southern California.  He is responsible for providing grief education and services to the community and to the grieving families served by Forest Lawn.  Galen is an ordained Disciple of Christ minister

  • Beverly Smallwood: Parent Loss-Overcoming Adversity

    February 27, 2014

    Dr. Bev Smallwood is a psychologist, professional speaker, and executive coach who knows first-hand the experience of loss. At the age of 9, her 38-year-old father died of cancer. Since he was a pastor she and her mother were required to move from their home provided by the church. She is the author of “This […]

  • Lo Anne Mayer: How Personal Journaling Helped Heal My Grief

    January 23, 2014

    Raising six children and studying healing for twenty-five years did not help me soothe the difficult relationship with my mother. Mom’s death catapulted me into the healing possibilities beyond the veil. Using personal journaling to “talk” with Mom gave me the tools to deal with the tragic death of our daughter and to discover that […]

  • Andrew Morgan: Father Loss

    January 9, 2014

    Andrew Morgan began work on his documentary film “After the End” following the untimely loss of his father in a car accident. This grief pushed him to begin speaking out to people across the country about how they overcame personal loss and found a new direction in life.

  • George Herald Jennings: Spiritual Dimensions

    January 2, 2014

    George-Harold Jennings Ph.D. has experienced numerous spiritual events throughout his life. Most recently in reliving the physical death of his sister and through this experience connecting spiritually with his mother. As a psychologist, he believes the mainstream members of his discipline should be more readily open to exploring the spiritual dimensions of being human.  He […]

  • Laura Krawchuk MSW, LCSW: Finding Your Way Through Parent Loss

    December 19, 2013

    Laura is a social worker and owner of Healing Concepts, LLC: a counseling practice in West Chester, PA. She is a lecturer at the University of Pennsylvania School of Social Policy & Practice and lectures nationally about grief and loss. She lost her beloved dad 7 years ago and has been finding her way through […]

  • Lisa Snyder: Death of a Parent

    December 12, 2013

    Lisa Snyder lost both parents to cancer at 22 and 27.  She now works to inspire others through her blog, http://www.LosingYourParents.org; she shares the journey of healing her own grief using creativity and self-expression.

  • Alicia Coppola: Death of a Dad

    November 14, 2013

    Alicia Coppola, actress and writer, is the author of Gracefully Gone, which is based on her beloved father’s and her journals chronicling their journey through his brain cancer and her father’s death.  Alicia hopes that by reading and hearing her story people young and old will know that they are not alone with their losses.

  • Franklin Cook: Dealing with Parental Suicide

    August 22, 2013

    Franklin Cook, whose father died by suicide in 1978, is a consultant, speaker, and trainer in peer grief support. After volunteering as a support group facilitator, he became an advisor to the Suicide Prevention Action Network and National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, and he is now developing suicide survivor services based on life coaching principles.

  • Jesse E. Roberts: Making Sense of Parent Loss

    June 27, 2013

    Jesse Roberts lost both of his parents before he graduated from high school. His church and a special school teacher mentored him. Jesse was determined that he would not let his grief destroy him, but instead would use it to help others. He is the author of Katie the Ladybug: Explaining Emotions of Grief to […]

  • AmyJo Mattheis; Loss of Identity

    May 23, 2013

    AmyJo Mattheis has walked with thousands through the grief of losing a loved one. With the recent death of her father, she has heard the numbing whisper insisting “he’ll come back.” A former pastor, AmyJo is university professor, writer, life coach, and author of Religion Made Me Fat.

Articles

  • Comic Steve Mittleman About Forgiving Hard Parents at End of Life

    April 8, 2014

    It’s easy to forgive the hardest parent when they thank you through tears with: “Nobody cared for me as much in my whole life!” Or when they write a letter that gets delivered to you on the day of their funeral. This and more, when memory artist, Nancy Gershman talks with comic, Steve Mittleman who travels […]

  • Beyond the Clouds: Reframing the Negative Emotions

    March 22, 2014

    When bad things happen, it is very natural to develop a negative outlook on your life and on yourself. After the loss of a loved one, you may think “I’ll never be ok again” or “I have no hope for my future.” However, hope and a vision for your future are possible when you “flip […]

  • Caregiving is an Unavoidable Link to Anticipatory Grief

    March 14, 2014

    More than a decade ago I became my mother’s caregiver. Though she lived in an assisted living community, I had many responsibilities and, as mini strokes robbed her of memory, my responsibilities increased. From taking her to medical and dental appointments, to running errands, to going out for lunch, I did something for my mother […]

  • The Other Side of Grief

    February 18, 2014

    Have you ever flipped over a colorful seashell that was wedged in the wet sand and examined its other side? You were probably first attracted by the reflection of the flashy hues of the exterior. But the smooth, concave inner surface of the vessel, which once protected life with a mirrored piece, also has a […]

  • Being-with My Dying Dad

    February 17, 2014

    For our last three years of father-and-daughter life on this planet, Daddy and I talked daily to be as close as we could be. Our time together was coming to an end. We didn’t know when that would happen; we just knew it was coming sooner than we wished. And then came the news: “There […]

  • Moving Forward After a Suicide

    January 10, 2014

    Today is January 10. It is a date that holds significance; it is the day my father died by suicide. It will be 25 years since his passing and yet, this year feels particularly difficult for me. Perhaps it is the realization that I lost him when I was a young woman or that I […]

  • The Christmas Tree

    December 16, 2013

    My mother was diagnosed with stage IV lung cancer over Labor Day week-end of 2007. It was a startling diagnosis. She already had Chronic Obstructive Pulmonary Disease (COPD) and frankly, I figured that would exempt her from any further serious lung disease. I was wrong. It was a long fall, with visits in and out […]

  • Good Grief: The Holiday Edition

    December 9, 2013

    Grief and the holidays are a tough combo. They go together about as well as peanut butter and pickles. Awful. Mourning a loss during this season of joyful celebration is an exercise in endurance and suffering. I know of what I speak: I lost my father, husband, aunt, and step-brother all in December—three in the […]

  • Comedy writer Joe Janes on Truthful Memorialization

    December 5, 2013

    Truthful memorialization means talking about Mom stoically eating Joe’s tofurkey. Or Mom openly guzzling “horrible things” like caffeine-free diet coke in front of her vegan son. How Joe honors these mischievous moments and more when memory artist Nancy Gershman talks with Joe Janes, a Chicago-based Emmy award-winning comedy writer. Joe teaches comedy writing at The Second City and Columbia […]

  • Bereavement: ‘A Terrible Beauty’

    November 24, 2013

    Last week, I was a guest on the Dr. D. Ivan Young radio show to talk about my book, Gracefully Gone. My co-guest Dianne Gray and I also discussed the concept of moving on, moving forward, hell, simply just moving after suffering the loss of a loved one. Dr. Young asked me a question that […]

  • Hanging On Through the Holidays

    October 21, 2013

    The music, smell of gingerbread, and shimmering lights usually stir up warm holiday memories, but this year something is missing. Actually someone is missing, and the holiday cheer seems to be making things worse. My most intense journey of grief came suddenly, beginning weeks before the holidays with the death of my mom. “Beazy” was […]

  • Coming Full Circle: A Letter from Daughter to a Mother Who Died Young

    September 30, 2013

    Ina, my mother, died 13 months after I was born.  For most of my life, I felt like a “motherless child.”  She became a ghost-like fantasy to me, which is probably why I liked fairytales so much as a kid. Maybe I was wishing for a happy ending. My father remarried when I was four […]

  • Multiple Losses: ‘Plowing Through the Pain’

    September 8, 2013

    Easter Sunday 2005 was expected to be like all other traditional Easters…church in the morning followed by the family gathering at my parents. We had anticipated this holiday to be extra special because our mother had recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and not knowing the severity, we treasured each moment. Unfortunately the day did […]

  • Man Who Lost Parents As a Child Speaks Through Art

    September 6, 2013

    If you have spent any time in La Jolla, California over the last decades, you might have seen Chris Canole in one of his many incarnations. This year, for the entire month of August, a series of drawn portraits and illustrations by this local polymath was on display as a one-man show at the Pannikin […]

  • A Bike Ride With My Father: His Father’s Day Gift to Me

    June 16, 2013

    Bicycle bicycle bicycle I want to ride my bicycle bicycle bicycle  I want to ride my bicycle I want to ride my bike I want to ride my bicycle I want to ride it where I like From the Song: Bicycle Race, by Queen    “I Have A Thought” At 9:00 am today (6/15/13), I […]

  • Father’s Day Eve…

    June 15, 2013

    Ok, so obviously this isn’t a real holiday, but it is to me.   This made up holiday, is the day before my toughest day of the year, Father’s Day.   It is the one day of the year where I feel really different from everybody else, and only a few people in my life […]

  • The Shadow of My Father

    June 15, 2013

    The following article was originally published by The Grief Toolbox (www.thegrieftoolbox.com) on November 21,2012. I received a strong nudge to repost this article about my father on this site on Father’s Day weekend. My dad was only a part of my life for five years, but  he has taught me more in death than he […]

  • My Father’s Legacy: Respect, Hard Work, Love of Country

    June 13, 2013

    My father was an immigrant who came to the United States when he was 15 years old. As he did not speak a word of English, he joined the kindergarteners in learning the language. Each month, as his skills improved, he was bumped up a grade until he finally arrived at the appropriate level and […]

  • Remembering Our Legacy this Mother’s and Father’s Days

    June 12, 2013

    She was an attractive woman with thick dark hair that started turning white in the middle of her life. She was the oldest of 3 children. Her mother was from Scotland and her father was from England. She loved to cook and tend to her flowers in the garden. She had many friends. One of […]

  • When a Father Dies on Father’s Day

    June 11, 2013

    My father died on Father’s Day 2007. He had been in apparent good health until the night he was admitted to the hospital. That day, he went through his usual routines-swam a mile at the Y, did some errands, sat on the patio with my mother in the late afternoon. By 11 p.m. he was […]

  • Father’s Day: Not a Day, but a Legacy

    June 10, 2013

    My children have passed over the dividing line. They have been alive more years now without their father than they were with him. My daughter Samantha was 12 years old when her father died and Rick was just 10. They were merely children when they had to say goodbye to him after a car accident […]

  • A Different (But Good) Father’s Day

    June 9, 2013

    Father’s Day is the day that I least look forward to on the calendar.   I know what you’re saying, “Come on Eric, Father’s Day is 4 months away.”   Absolutely right, but bear with me.   As all of you know you have lost a loved one close to your heart, it could be […]

  • My mom, my whole life, going to die

    June 8, 2013

    I am sitting in the hospital with my mom right now. I was supposed to have my wedding today. And the main reason to have the wedding party was my mom because she aaaalways wanted to see me in a bride’s dress. I just wanted her to see this day. Just 4 days ago she […]

  • A Father’s Love is Eternal

    June 3, 2013

    When I was a child, I loved to spend time with my father. Being the youngest girl in a large family, I learned early in life that if I wanted his undivided attention, it was up to me to be with him when he was alone. One misty morning as I tagged beside him on […]

  • mom acting out

    May 25, 2013

    its been 6 yrs since dad died he was 81 mom decided to move from CA to Idaho to live with 2 sisters. progressively over the last 3 years mom has been reverting to some child like behaviors..some even nasty. 2 yrs ago she had a small heart episode with her heart beat being off […]

  • How to Keep a Parent’s Memory Alive

    May 17, 2013

    Losing a parent is never easy, no matter the circumstance or what segment of time in your life the loss occurred. The grief softens, but never leaves us. When holidays roll around, it is always a painful reminder of the hole in our hearts. The days without our mother or father are emphasized during their […]

  • A Guide To Caregiving of Aging Parents with Alzheimer’s: Words of Assistance, Comfort and Inspiration

    March 24, 2014

    Caregiving for an aging parent, especially one with Alzheimer’s, may be seen as both a burden and a blessing. Read about how you can manage this difficult and heart-wrenching task with grace. “Words of Assistance, Comfort and Inspiration for Caregivers” is a follow-up book to Ellen Gerst’s popular introductory effort on this subject: “Understanding Caregiving […]

  • Understanding Dementia and Caregiving For Your Aging Parents From A to Z

    March 24, 2014

    Per the 2012 Alzheimer’s Disease Facts and Figures report published by the Alzheimer’s Association, one in eight older Americans (over 65 years old) has Alzheimer’s and nearly half of the people 85 and older are afflicted with this insidious disease. So just as the Baby Boomer generation is getting ready to enjoy retirement, their increasingly […]

  • Let’s Get A Grasp on Grief

    March 24, 2014

    Grief is a very puzzling process and not easily understood. Even most adults don’t understand it, so how can we expect children to understand their feelings if their Mom or Dad dies. “Let’s Get A Grasp on Grief” begins to help older children (9 years +) to understand some of the confusing emotions they will […]

  • Let’s Get A Grip on Grief

    March 24, 2014

    Grief is a very puzzling process and not easily understood. Even most adults don’t understand it, so how can we expect children to understand their feelings if their Mom, Dad or another loved one dies. “Let’s Get A Grip on Grief” does NOT attempt to explain death or why a loved one had to die. […]

  • Daddy, This is it. Being-with my Dying Dad

    February 26, 2014

    Julie Saeger Nierenberg’s book, Daddy, This is it. Being-with my Dying Dad, is available here.

  • Gracefully Gone

    February 26, 2014

    Alicia Coppola’s book, Gracefully Gone, is available at Amazon.com.

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  • Episode 31: Forgiveness

    February 12, 2014

    On This show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with Fred Luskin Ph.D. the rationale for forgiveness and why forgiveness is necessary. Radha Stern author and victims advocate will join Dr. Luskin to discuss how she deals with forgiveness when the man who murdered her son shows no remorse. The show closes with […]

  • Episode 29: Holiday Candle Lighting and Cooking

    February 12, 2014

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with the executive director of The Compassionate Friends, Alan Pedersen, bereavement advice for getting through the holidays. Included is a segment from The Compassionate Friends, Midpensula Chapter, National Candlelighting. Katie Morford registered dietician and author of Mom’s Kitchen Handbook closes the show with ideas […]

  • Episode 28: Grief Styles: The Enneagram

    February 12, 2014

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss grieving styles given Enneagram personality types with the author of the Enneagram Made Easy, Elizabeth Wagele, and Jan Conlon, grief support expert. Katie Morford registered dietician and author of Mom’s Kitchen Handbook gives tips for healthy eating during stressful times.

  • Episode 27: Grieving Styles: Myers Briggs

    February 12, 2014

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley interview Lisa Prosser-Dodds, PhD, Therapist and Author regarding individualized grief responses based upon Jungian personality types, measured by the Myers-Briggs Personality Type Indicator (GRIEFtype). Musician discusses how his grief type is expressed through his music.