Hospice chaplain and minister Reverend Gregory Person talks to Dr. Gloria Horsley about where God is after a loss. The two connected at the 2015 Association for Death Education and Counseling conference, and the Reverend says that it’s tempting to think God is gone or has forgotten you when facing such a major loss—however, reminding yourself that God is always there can be a great source of comfort and healing. As a Christian and firm believer in Jesus Christ, the Reverend says one of his favorite stories to share with grievers is that of Jesus hanging on the cross.
“My God, why hast thou forsaken me?” is something that even Jesus asked during that time, and it’s something that grievers can relate to. “There are times, even as a Christian, where we will feel like we are alone,” he says. This feeling is, of course, nothing new and something that has been experienced by many for centuries, including within the son of God. “It’s okay to feel that way,” he says.
When Dr. Horsley asks the Reverend if a person can be angry with God, he says absolutely and you can certainly question why. It doesn’t matter if it’s been years since a person has been to church—or if they’ve never been to one at all. “My belief system is He still loves us.” He encourages everyone to be there for each other, but also bear in mind that God is always there for you no matter what.
Showing love and compassion at home and in any group you’re part of is key. Hopefully you can find that in a congregation if that’s something you’re part of, but if not then know that there are many other avenues to explore.