Relocation grief. I feel it already, though I won’t move for at least four years. When I look out the kitchen window at the apple trees, birds flying back and forth, and visiting wildlife, including deer, turkeys, and pheasant, I feel a sense of loss. My husband and I have already reserved a unit at [...]
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Mass Murder in Norway Triggers Anticipatory Grief
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July 30, 2011
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The recent murders of innocent children and adults in Oslo, Norway, are a national tragedy. Like September 11th, this tragedy causes anticipatory grief. Usually we associate anticipatory grief with the failing health of a family member, friend, or pet. But anticipatory grief can affect an entire population. Anticipatory grief is a feeling of loss before [...]
Widow Fears Sharing Thoughts of Suicide
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May 17, 2011
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Question from a Reader: I know I’ve heard plenty of times that it is normal for ‘grievers’ to feel despondent and wish to be with their spouse who has passed on. But, it doesn’t feel like it’s normal to me because I don’t want to live any more, although I am not going to do [...]
Grieving With Help After My Son’s Suicide
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March 20, 2011
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We were not left alone after our son, Joshua, died by suicide. People from across the states took the time to listen and some cried with us. It would take pages to mention them by name, but because of who he was to Joshua, I’ll chose one. After Joshua’s memorial, when the hall emptied out [...]
Poem: These Golden Moments in Time
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June 21, 2010
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These Golden moments in Time Are caught between the stars and the sky You will have yours and I will have mine These Golden moments in Time Are like delicate flowers clinging on the vine Once the rain comes, they will be hard to find These Golden Moments in Time Are like the tender snowflakes [...]
OTH Writer Publishes Book, ‘Creating a New Normal’
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June 18, 2010
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Creating a New Normal…After the Death of a Child is the title of Sandy Fox’s new book to help the newly bereaved as well as the seasoned griever find their way through the darkness and into the light again to a life full of happiness and new meaning. “Learning to rebuild your life by creating [...]
OTH Author Writes Publications on What to Say to the Bereaved
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June 14, 2010
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VIENNA, Va., June 14, 2010 – When those around us face tough times, we’re often at a loss for words. We may fear we’ll say the wrong thing and stay away or, we may hurt someone unintentionally by saying or doing something inappropriate. Loss is very isolating and when we stay away, we may compound [...]
OTH’s Eric Hipple Featured on U.S Army Site
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June 7, 2010
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Open to Hope author Eric Hipple is featured on the U.S. Army’s official blog. Hipple is co-author, with OTH founders Heidi and Gloria Horsley, of Real Men Do Cry: A Quarterback’s Inspiring Story of Tackling Depression and Surviving Suicide Loss. The book is available at www.amazon.com Read the military blog item here: http://armylive.dodlive.mil/index.php/2010/02/nfl-u-s-army-team-up/
Poem: The Silver Tears
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May 19, 2010
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The Silver Tears And so it begins Silver tears falling like soft rain Cascading downward on its sad journey Arriving at my empty soul and shattered heart The silver tears come because we are apart I try to see the beauty in things I yearn to be near the warm sun I listen for laughter [...]
Helping Those in Pain Requires Acceptance, Compassion
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May 17, 2010
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A client who was dying once said to me, “Every day, I feel as if I’m on one of those exercise boards that rest on a ball. Just when I steady the damn thing, it starts moving and I’m struggling again to balance myself. Why don’t people realize that’s what my life has become?” I’ve [...]
Father Starts Web Project for Dads Who Have Lost a Child
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April 21, 2010
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After going through the loss of two of my children over an eighteen-month span, I came to the realization that there is a lack of support services and information available to fathers suffering the loss of a child. I made a promise to myself that once I was strong enough, I would find a way [...]
Poem: A Soul
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April 21, 2010
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Hiding amongst The shadows Of a broken heart Lives a soul Torn apart. Blistered and Burned by Death’s Blinding rays Fear of tomorrow Remain today. Peering through The crevasses of Hope and faith Reality slaps her Back into place. Rays of sunshine Happiness and Joy Once trusted And, vital Not anymore. Deborah Ann Tornillo Author, [...]
Animal-Human Connection Lives on After Death
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March 21, 2010
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I am a cat-lover, I will admit it. Growing up, I had cats here and there, but my dad was really intolerant of the normal pet things like fleas and “accidents” on the carpets, so I never had a cat for very long. I had one kitten for four days; then he discovered it had [...]
Poem: Holly Jolly – My Chihuahua
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March 4, 2010
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You were a tiny little angel Sent to me from the heavens above. You were a soft and cuddly ball of fur Filling my life with unconditional love. My Precious – Holly Jolly. Peanut and Gunner are not the same Missing you more with each passing day. They look around and go to the back [...]
‘Up’ With Grief: Film Review
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February 12, 2010
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It’s hard to find movies for adults that adequately deal with the death of a spouse and putting one’s life back together. Fortunately, one of the movies nominated for the Best Picture Oscar does a great job of dealing with the subjects of death, grief, and moving on better than any other film in recent [...]
Poem: All Over Again
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January 29, 2010
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Traveling backward in my mind High on top of a mountain Kissing with tears in our eyes Life together had just begun. Traveling backward in my mind The many roads we’ve traveled Two hearts beating as one Never, ever to be undone. Traveling forward in my mind Always brings me full circle Knowing one day [...]
Poem: For Sale
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December 11, 2009
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Sad eyes Without a smile. Years of tears Stained with fear. A broken heart That’s torn apart. A body and mind Tested by time. A tired soul Made of solid gold. Lifetime of pain Comes with a cane. Yesterday and tomorrow Feelings of sorrow. Memories of death There’s more left. Grief Without relief. All offers [...]
Film Review: “Ghosted”
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September 2, 2009
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All I needed to hear about the movie, “Ghosted,” was that it explored the aftermath of grief and loss and, of course, I was interested. Having lost my brother when I was 14, I have had a life-long interest in these topics. “Ghosted” is the story of Sophie Schmitt, a Hamburg-based video artist, and her lover, Aing-Lee, [...]
Husband’s Cancer Reminds Wife of Previous Losses
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September 1, 2009
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Today, I find myself crying at the drop of a hat. The tears are back, and they remind me of the tears I cried in my parents’ backyard when I realized my mom and dad were no longer there for me. They were no longer the mom and dad I knew. They were no longer [...]
Film Review: Departures
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August 28, 2009
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“Departures” is the story of Daigo Kobayashi, a passionate cellist with a dream job in an orchestra, who finds himself abruptly out of job — and in huge debt for a very pricey cello — when the orchestra dissolves. What do you do when your dream has fizzled and you’ve got to re-group? You go [...]
Poem: A Mother’s Pain
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July 9, 2009
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By Liz Hayward – I am numb. I feel so empty Like a hollow walking form. Then at times I feel As though my chest will Burst wide open and all The hurt and pain Come spewing forth. Will it ever end? He was my first born. Two bullets took his life And shattered mine. [...]
Poem: In The Still of the Morning
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July 7, 2009
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By Kim Hodne – In the still of the morning I feel you come up behind me To dump your dirty laundry And then bound up the stairs I think how can it be That five years later I can still feel your presence Like it was yesterday I look around this house And can [...]
Grief Book Review: Sea Changes
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July 4, 2009
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By Abel Keogh – Ever since my late wife died, I’ve had a hard time reading fiction where the main character is a widow or widower. Though the authors try hard, most of them don’t do a good job of capturing what it’s like to lose a spouse. Oh sure, most of them do a [...]
Poem: As If
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July 2, 2009
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By Kristen Spexarth – Somewhere along a lifetime most are broken but we pretend we are not taking up armor and masks as if so doing we could fool the rest as if a state of brokenness was something to be ashamed of. Contorted behind a smiling and daily polished patina we bend ourselves into [...]
Poem: Perhaps
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June 20, 2009
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By kristen spexarth – Perhaps it’s not an easy thing standing outside looking in to fathom how it feels to have lost a love to suicide, perhaps the gnawing grieving does not clamor at your being nor can you look and see the battle raging as raw feelings vie for my attention asserting reasons for [...]
