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  • Grieving Especially Tough During Easter Season

    April 12, 2014

    While most of us prepare for the Easter season, some people are struggling to survive the death of a loved one. I dedicate the entire month to everyone suffering with grief and sorrow. I too am grief-stricken and I too find April to be a difficult month, especially this year. This month marks the 10th […]

  • Can the Cycle of Domestic Violence be Broken?

    April 10, 2014

    If you or someone you know suffered domestic violence, ask yourself: Have I imitated violence in my home? And will my children do the same when they have their own homes? Have we mimicked violence or victimization from others and will our children do the same? It is up us to analyze our own situations […]

  • After Losing a Child to Violence

    April 2, 2014

    There is hope despite injustice for victims of crime. If you or someone you know experienced the loss of a child, then you can relate to this article. I never imagined that I would experience the devastation of losing a child at the hands of a cold-blooded killer. We sacrificed and worked hard to keep […]

  • What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need?

    January 19, 2014

    What Do Men Bereaved by Suicide Need? Men have a chance to answer that question themselves in an anonymous, confidential survey that is available online until Jan. 31, 2014. If you are a man 19 or older who has lost a family member, friend, or colleague to suicide, please go directly to the survey at […]

  • Moving Forward After a Suicide

    January 10, 2014

    Today is January 10. It is a date that holds significance; it is the day my father died by suicide. It will be 25 years since his passing and yet, this year feels particularly difficult for me. Perhaps it is the realization that I lost him when I was a young woman or that I […]

  • What Does God Think About Suicide Victims?

    January 7, 2014

    Suicide victims battled life’s rawest contests. They often faced a mental illness or illnesses and felt the peril of mental fatigue. What you and I take for granted, they coveted. Optimism. Hope. Confidence that all will be well. Their clouds had no silver linings; their storms had no rainbows. Didn’t we wonder, Why couldn’t he […]

  • Mindfulness and Bereavement

    November 25, 2013

    If you’re interested in self-development, you’ve probably heard the term “mindfulness.” Over the last decade, mindfulness meditation, sometimes called mindfulness-based therapy, has been researched as an aid to anxiety, stress, depression, chronic pain, and other human conditions. Once largely confined to the realm of therapists’ offices or yoga studios, mindfulness has begun to show up […]

  • Multiple Losses: ‘Plowing Through the Pain’

    September 8, 2013

    Easter Sunday 2005 was expected to be like all other traditional Easters…church in the morning followed by the family gathering at my parents. We had anticipated this holiday to be extra special because our mother had recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and not knowing the severity, we treasured each moment. Unfortunately the day did […]

  • Sister Unloads Grief Years After Brother’s Suicide

    August 7, 2013

    I was a sweet, blue-eyed seven-year-old girl watching The Parent Trap while my big brother was babysitting. He got me a cup of water after asking if there was anything I needed. Little did I know my answer should have been, “I need my big brother.” Only minutes later I heard a heart-stopping, deafening boom. […]

  • What We Can Learn From Angelina Jolie — About Suicide

    July 18, 2013

    I was reading Angelina’s op-ed piece in the New York Times, on her decision to have a double mastectomy to reduce her risk of breast cancer. The fact that she shared her story was both courageous and inspiring. Why did she want to share her story and not keep it private, a move that’s been […]

  • A Haunting Disturbance: A Poem

    July 15, 2013

    Maybe I’ll always be tortured by loud noises The sudden silence after it echoes through the trees Maybe my skin will always develop goosebumps As I hear the little girl inside of me Soundlessly scream—no, no more—please. The emptiness that is momentarily formed in my heart Soon fills with dread From the conclusion of the […]

  • Poem: The Thief

    July 8, 2013

    The night was cold, the fire burning old And the shepherd couldn’t take his eyes off his flock His stare was dry, life the air of the night And his head he was able to move, could not. He was aware of the dangers Of the night’s freezing strangers So he had extra help, his […]

  • Poem: Whisper Goodnight

    July 3, 2013

    Whisper Goodnight Now I’m strapped to the bark of Innocent trees While evil angels commit to do their Evil deeds They mock the obscenities of Torturing screams— And they sing me to silence with their Sweet lullabies As fire is already burning At my side And all I can do is Whisper goodnight As they […]

  • Poem: Eleven Years

    July 2, 2013

    Eleven Years My love for you is unconditional However, so is my anger And I have waited eleven years For this devastation to be over But it has only just begun: The torture that makes me want to scream— And I just want to run away From this awfully dreadful scheme. Oh, how badly I […]

  • Introduction: Innocence

    June 28, 2013

    Maybe it’s peculiar that I don’t feel ashamed. My beauties are noticeable, but I’m proud of them. Some have called me crazy and maybe always will, but I won’t hide from that label. If I’m crazy then is that pretty little girl, as innocent as it’s possible to be, crazy because she had “normal” ripped […]

  • Suicide of an abusive parent

    June 2, 2013

    5 months ago, I stopped all comunication with my abusive alcoholic parent. I am a new mother and wife, and have finally found out that love doesn’t have to hurt me. Its not ok to manipulate me. I am the only child to an alcoholic mother, I am all she has. When I became a […]

  • Oklahoma Deaths Trigger Memories, a Sense of Blessing

    May 28, 2013

    As used to my own grief as I am, every time I am aware of another life lost to less than a full life, my heart sinks and breaks again. I know loss and its hurts. I have been that puddle in the middle of the floor. The person whose tears seem like rivers and […]

  • Against The Winds of Grief: My Thoughts on The Oklahoma Tragedy

    May 22, 2013

    Nature and all that it encompasses can bear many blessings.  A glorious sunset, a gentle rain and a cool breeze can soothe us even in the most tumultuous of times and perhaps even provide valuable teachings that promote clarity on our life’s journey. Nature can also be an relentless and  destructive force as evidenced by […]

  • After Boston, is Anyone Safe?

    April 27, 2013

    When I saw my daughter’s question on facebook after the Boston Marathon Bombing last week, I knew she was expressing a universal feeling of sadness and anxiety about the world we now live in. I knew she was worrying about the safety of the world my 4-year-old grandson is growing up in. As a Bostonian, […]

  • In Solidarity with the Boston Survivors

    April 23, 2013

    None of us are exempt from potential tragedy and no matter how close a relationship we have with our loved ones, or even with God, it does not keep us from experiencing tragedy from time to time. Nothing guarantees that we’ll be protected from harm. We see that in the news every day. Whether by […]

  • a very big problem

    April 23, 2013

    hello, im 18 years old and i have a problem my girlfriend is also 18 yers old and he has just noticed that shes pregnant. im thinking about suicicde i cant do it.. what could i say to my parents, they would kill me.. please help

  • Reacting to the Boston Marathon Bombing

    April 16, 2013

    As Americans, we are again shocked and disturbed by the Boston Marathon bombing.    It is unfathomable that such violence could be planned to disturb the annual patriots event in the city that is the very cradle of liberty. My heart goes out to those who have suffered losses and injury, as a bereaved parent I […]

  • Suicide Leaves Mark on Those Left Behind

    April 15, 2013

    To the casual observer, Mindy McCready’s recent suicide death reads like a bad country song. To those of us who have lived through some of what she experienced or are witness to in our work, it reads more like a roadmap to sure death. Last fall, in an interview, McCready seemed full of hope, gaining […]

  • Recovered Email Provides Comfort to Grieving Mom

    March 20, 2013

    Throughout the years, my mother has written me many inspiring letters. I use the internet and write my children emails. Time may change the way we communicate – but it hasn’t replaced our need to connect with one another. I cherish the notes received from my son and daughter, and have managed to tuck a […]

  • Pearls in Prison: Mother Opposes Parole for Son’s Murderer

    March 11, 2013

    My sisters, Sheridan, Michele and Kristin, have passed on my mother’s pearls to me. I wear them when I feel I need extra love and energy. I wore them to the parole hearing on July 26, 2012. The parole hearing brought up a lot of feelings, thoughts and memories my family and I have not […]

  • Here We Go: Mother Prepares for Parole Hearing for Son’s Murderer

    March 10, 2013

    I was visiting with my sisters in Seattle when a certified letter arrived in our mailbox back home. I had been checking the Parole Hearing website from Seattle and nothing was showing the schedule. Getting a certified letter is always unsettling, so when my husband Gary told me about mine, I was upset. What was this […]

  • Survivors Left by Suicide Have Special Grief

    February 12, 2013

    By Father Charles Ruby As we begin a new year, the holidays are over and survivors of a completed suicide breathe a collective sigh of relief. The holidays very often are a very painful time. There are no more holiday gatherings where there is an aura of gaiety. Survivors no longer have to put on […]

  • Being Available to Others While Conserving My Strength

    February 11, 2013

    Since September, 2012, I have been writing a series of articles entitled, “A Forever Decision” based on my experience of losing my beloved dog Camilla. In October, I found that my Uncle Steve has terminal cancer. Uncle Steve is my favorite uncle and is one of the most important people in my life. I continued […]

  • Figuring Out Life and Death: Musings, Stories and Questions About Suicide

    March 24, 2014

    There are a myriad of reasons why people decide to take their own lives, although there is a preponderance of suicides due to mental illness, maybe even as high as 90%. What about the other 10%? These are people who may have found themselves depressed due to a certain event or set of circumstances; perhaps […]

  • Devastating Losses: How Parents Cope With the Death of A Child to Suicide or Drugs

    February 10, 2013

    William Feigelman’s book, Devastating Losses: How Parents Cope With the Death of A Child to Suicide or Drugs, is available at Amazon.com. The book was published in June 2012 by the Springer Publishing Company. With its 575 respondents, the study explores many important aspects of suicide and drug-related death losses: how stigma impedes survivor’s healing, […]

Open to Hope Radio

  • Diane Martin Ph.D. CT: Forgiveness

    March 13, 2014

    Diane Martin is a writer, therapist and educator who experienced the loss of her son Sandy to suicide. In her pathway to healing she sought to understand the profound experience of child loss through completing her PhD and recent work The Mother’s Journey.

  • Theresa Freitas and Todd Matthews: Missing Children

    March 6, 2014

    Theresa Freitas son Jacob Whitt was 21-years-old when he went missing in 1997. DNA tests confirmed recently that a body buried in a “John Doe” grave in Texas was Jacob. Joining us on the show to discuss missing family members is Todd Matthews forensic expert with the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System (NamUS).

  • Avril Nagel & Randy Clark: Mending Broken Hearts

    February 20, 2014

    Randie Clark and Avril Nagel are the authors of When Your Child Dies; Tools for Mending Parents’ Broken Hearts. Randie Clark, MA, CCC, is a therapist, and specializes in complicated issues of loss and grief. Avril Nagel is an author, editor and freelance writer. They are both bereaved parents.

  • Jan Smolinski: Missing Children

    January 30, 2014

    Jan Smolinski is the mom of missing man William “Billy” Smolinski Jr, who disappeared Aug. 24, 2004, at the age of 31. Jan has gone on to not only search for Billy but also to advocate for changes in laws and to help others who have missing family members. Joining her on the show will […]

  • Christa Scalies: Healing Grief Through Laughter

    November 28, 2013

    Christa Scalies has experienced the messy, fearful, ugly and soul-wrenching side of grief after losing two friends to suicide. In her e-book, “Suicide Sucks: Move thought the Pain of Suicide Loss and Learn to Laugh Again,”Christa provides 10 actionable steps to help people recover mentally, physically, and spiritually from loss.

  • Sharon Greenlee: Unresolved Grief

    October 3, 2013

    Sharon Greenlee is a professional counselor and author. She facilitates grief and suicide survivor support groups. Sharon has extensive experience working with children who have experienced traumatic loss. Her current book is “Grief Entanglements: Understanding Unresolved Grief and What You Can Do About It”.

  • Abel Keogh: Getting it Together After Loss

    September 26, 2013

    Abel Keogh is author of the memoir Room for Two, the story of the year of his life following his late wife’s suicide and the corresponding death of their unborn child. He is also the writer of the relationship guides Dating a Widower, Marrying a Widower, and Life with a Widower. Now remarried, he and […]

  • Franklin Cook: Dealing with Parental Suicide

    August 22, 2013

    Franklin Cook, whose father died by suicide in 1978, is a consultant, speaker, and trainer in peer grief support. After volunteering as a support group facilitator, he became an advisor to the Suicide Prevention Action Network and National Suicide Prevention Lifeline, and he is now developing suicide survivor services based on life coaching principles.

  • Kerie Boshka; Loving Your Life After Tragedy

    July 4, 2013

    After the suicide of her husband, author Kerie Boshka felt a devastation that she thought would destroy her. Desperate and needing to care for her two children, she turned to God. Today she has again found hope and happiness. Kerie dedicates her life to sharing her journey with others. She is the author of If […]

  • Rebecca Guevara: Hero’s Journey Through Grief Transformation

    April 11, 2013

    Rebecca had a business career and was tentatively starting to enjoy writing when her brother, her only sibling, took his life. In grief’s tailwind she left writing, losing the ability to be her true self. Years passed before she believed it was okay to enjoy life. Finally she returned to writing and began teaching and […]

  • Erika R. Barber: Navigating Life Stages Post Sibling Death

    March 28, 2013

    Erika R. Barber lived the first fifteen years of her life as a sibling and has since lived as a sibling survivor. Following her sister’s suicide, Erika embarked on a life-long endeavor to merge these familial roles and discover her own unique identity. Her workbook, Letters from a Friend: A Sibling’s Guide for Coping and […]

Open to Hope TV

  • Episode 26: Drug and Alcohol Deaths

    December 10, 2013

    On this show Dr. Gloria Horsley and Dr. Heidi Horsley discuss with William and Beverly Feigelman authors of  ”Devastating Losses” the death of their son and the risks of substance abuse.  Vanessa McGannon then talks about her work with The American Society of Suicidology.  Singer, songwriter Larry Stevens closes the show.

  • Episode 22: Missing Adults

    December 10, 2013

    On this show Dr. Heidi Horsley and Dr. Gloria Horsley discuss with Marc Klaas the challenges and heart break of dealing with a missing and then murdered adult child. Todd Matthews forensic expert with the National Missing and Unidentified Persons System (NamUS) discusses the difficulties of finding and identifying missing adults. The show closes with […]

  • Episode #15-Dealing With Death and Trauma

    November 10, 2013

    On this show Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi interview Liz Creel, Licensed Clinical Social Worker and Dr. Dan Rudofossi, Psychologist/Police Sergeant.  Liz and Dr. Dan share their experiences and give advice and tips for dealing with death and trauma. The show closes with singer songwriter Kate Mills preforming “Something to Say”.

  • Episode #12: Families Coping with Suicide-Grief Relief TV

    May 31, 2013

  • Episode 8: Empowering Bereaved Families After a Murder-Grief Relief TV

    April 1, 2013

    On this show Stacey Redmond whose son was killed in a stabbing at the Giants ballpark in San Francisco and Lew Cox Victims Advocate from Tacoma Washington discuss the their losses and how they have used their grief to help others.

  • Episode 6: Traumatic Loss-Grief Relief TV

    March 20, 2013

    Dr Gloria and Dr Heidi Horsley host Michelle Miller, Dr Dale Larson, Todd Evans and Radha Stern in traumatic loss on Grief Relief Television brought to you by The Open to Hope Foundation.

  • When the Law is Involved: Dr Heidi Horsley

    February 25, 2013

    What do you do when your family is involved with a court case due to the loss of a loved one?  

  • Stigma Around Suicide and Murder: Dr Heidi Horsley

    February 25, 2013

    What is the stigma around suicide and murder, listen to what Dr Horsley has to say about it.  

  • Stigma around Sudden Death: Dr Heidi Horsley

    February 25, 2013

    Dr Heidi Horsley speaks on sudden death and the stigma that surrounds suicide and homicide.