The Pain of Losing My Mother

I lost my precious Mother in April, 2007. She was 94 and had lived with me for over 20 years. She had slight dementia, but was healthy and active. I had gone to run some errands, she was sitting on her bed and had either a stroke or heart attack and I didn?t get back before she died. I miss her so much, we were always so close. I don?t think I will ever get over the pain.

Luann

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  • tammy young says:

    i just lost my mother please e…mail me,sorry for your loss,love tammy

  • Dianne says:

    Hi Luann, I’m sorry to hear about your mother, I lost my mother 10 years ago. I remember how hard it was. I didn’t think the pain would ever go away. I wish she were still here too. E-mail me if you need to talk. Dianne

    • Diana says:

      I am so sorry for the loss of your mother. I just lost both my parents. My mother passed away on July of 09 and almost four months later on November 09 my dad passed away. It has been the hardest thing to deal with but my faith and the prayers of others is surely helping me. I miss them so much. 🙁

  • Zola says:

    Luann,
    I am very sorry for your loss. My mother passed away July 15, 2007. We did almost everything together. We took care of each other. Even at 82 and using a cane, she was still very active.

    I am the youngest of six children. My mother had already buried both of her sons. I remember when her friends started to die. She would question why God was keeping her here with her arthritis, high blood pressure, diabetes and everything. She had suffered a Stroke in November of 2006 and a heart attack in December of 2006. But she was healthy and had made a comeback when she died in her sleep 2 weeks after my brother died.

    For me, my mother was a very special part of my life and it’s hard dealing with all the “first” without her. I sometimes feel all alone and that the one person that loved me unconditionally is gone. I still have moments of overwhelming sadness. But I’m learning that it’s ok for me to be sad and cry sometimes.

    I think that the elderly learn to suffer in silence and when all their friends start to die and their bodies starts to fail them, they get tired of suffering. My mother told me she was tired 2 days before she died. She said she wanted to see her sons again (remember by this time she had just loss her oldest and last living son). I tried to think about the fact that she is no longer suffering and is finally at rest.

    Be encouraged, my friend. Take care of “you”. You are not alone. I will be praying for you.

  • LuAnn says:

    LuAnn,
    I was surfing the internet for grief counseling groups and just came across this. I am so sorry for your loss and am dealing with the loss of my mother as well. My mother passed away the Friday before Christmas 2007 and was buried on Christmas Eve. She had been fighting all kinds of illnesses for years. But with no complaints except for the fact that she couldn’t do the things that she used to do (like going to the mall with me. The last 5 months of her life I was primary caregiver for her and my stepfather. My mom and I were best friends as well. I am finding myself not dealing with it very well either but I get through each day obviously because the sun comes up and sets everyday whether I am in the game or not. I don’t think that I will ever get over that pain either. I find myself not wanting to do anything that I did before she passed and it seems like the hurt will always be there. I understand how you are feeling and just wanted you to know that I appreciate finding this site and what you wrote because if only for a moment it made me feel good to know that someone else feels just like I do. Also, I think that it is very weird that I found this and that you and I have the same name – LuAnn! So just know that there is another LuAnn that feels a soulful connection with you. I will think of you and wish for encouragement to come your way.