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Poem: 30 Years of Marriage and Loss

Posted on February 13, 2011 - by Debra Reagan

Young love Hopes and dreams First born son Joy New home Second son Joy Pets: hamsters, fish, cats, dogs, ducks, rabbit Death of grandparents Sports: practices, uniforms and games Birthday parties Friends Zoo Family vacations Videos games, computers and new electronics Death of parents Malls and shopping Graduations and Jobs Struggles Shock: the death of precious youngest son PAIN Deep Anguish Anger and regrets Weeping One day at a time New daughter-in-law Re-investment New normal and a new hope Love Debra Reagan 2011

Valentine’s Day an Opportunity to Connect With Departed Loved Ones

Posted on February 13, 2011 - by Megan Prescott

For anyone grieving the loss of someone dear to them, I humbly offer some ideas to help with the pain of separation. May this Valentine’s Day bring us a loving message from our special departed ones- somehow, some way. It is my personal belief that when a person “passes away,” his or her spirit and essence continues to be very much alive. Following the deaths of three immediate family members, I became more than a little interested in theories of the afterlife. I read and watched everything I could find on the subject of near death experiences (NDEs), after-death communication, […]

my mother’s deth

Posted on February 12, 2011 - by admin

i am 35 years old, till my childhood my only gurdain,friend & welwisher was my mother. she blindly love me & always support me in my all works., if anything going wrong with me, ma try to save me & inspire me to overcame this. she was a lovely & joyfull lady. life give her all worst sitution but she never loose her mind & always giving her best effort to me. on feb 3 2011 i lost my mother on sudden. i am now in a depressed. i wish ma call me in her place. oh god how you […]

Sharing Pain is a Gateway to Hope

Posted on February 12, 2011 - by David Roberts

After my daughter Jeannine died almost eight years ago, I examined and re-examined my existing values, beliefs and priorities. This process was made extremely challenging by the raw pain of my early grief. I am a different person, and in many ways, a better person as a result of my struggle with Jeannine’s death. I have also learned some important lessons about unconditional love, faith, and the enduring power of relationships: The more that we allow the universe to guide us, the more that our redefined purpose becomes clearer. Surrendering to the journey has allowed me to increasingly surrender my […]

On Valentine’s Day, Choose to Believe in Love

Posted on February 11, 2011 - by Kelly Buckley

Love is a symbol of eternity. It wipes out all sense of time, destroying all memory of a beginning and all fear of an end. ~Author Unknown I was reading recently about a woman who, married to her husband for 59 years, wondered how she would ever go on and celebrate days like Valentine’s in the same way as she did in her youth. Reading her story reminded me of my father after my mother died. It also reminded me of my own thoughts about the needed cancellation of every celebratory day on the calendar following the loss of Stephen. […]

Valentine’s Day Blues and Other Colors

Posted on February 11, 2011 - by Laura Slap-Shelton

Valentine’s Day, a day when love is officially celebrated in the United States, can be a day of increased pain and sadness for the bereaved. Many individuals report images of their heart being shattered or smashed as they describe the pain their loss has created. They find it hard to assemble the pieces back into the beautiful wholeness they once knew. Others feel frozen and disconnected from those they love. Their feelings no longer flow freely, and they carry a sense of emotional isolation. It is hard to keep one’s heart open when it has been hurt and traumatized by […]

Cupid’s Wayward Arrow: Break-Up Spurs Grief

Posted on February 11, 2011 - by Karen Johnson

February is nauseating. Though sweat mixed with tears can feel exhilarating, I had to stop. I sat down on the ground, exhausted; my arm simply could not toss the 49th raw egg into the cinder block wall in my backyard. Yolks were dripping down the fence; egg cartons were scattered on the lawn, and my fatigue, perspiration and waterfall of tears now sent my body to a lump of grief on the grass. I am a portrait of perspiration, agony, loneliness, disappointment and frustration. It was Valentine’s Day, my second one as formerly engaged. I always stroll down the garish […]

My children, Paul & Alexa (2/28/10)

Posted on February 11, 2011 - by admin

Valentines Day, Loss and Hope Since I was 7 years old, Valentines Day has been the anniversary for my sister Amy Beth. Amy was born on that day in 1971. She was as normal as her four older brothers and sisters, yet she cried all the time and sharing a bedroom, my living baby doll taught me how to rub someone’s back at a young age. June 9, 1971 she stopped crying. This was before the ambulances came to your home and in a time when one car to each household was commonplace. The doctors called it SIDS. My daughter […]

At Valentine’s Time, Widow Misses Even the Boredom

Posted on February 10, 2011 - by Paula Ezop

As a widow, I’ve found that ordinary things can take on a whole new meaning. For instance, today at work I turned over the page of my desk calendar. There on one side of the calendar page was a page full of hearts with a message, “Remember, next Monday is Valentine’s Day.” I found myself feeling extremely blue at the thought of another Valentine’s Day without the love of my life (my husband passed away almost 6 years ago). I remembered how he would always have flowers in a vase on the kitchen table for me when I came home from […]

Dad was Daughter’s Best Valentine

Posted on February 10, 2011 - by Michelle Gallucci

The one-year anniversary of my dad is coming up very quickly. I often think to myself: Where did the time go? It doesn’t seem like a year at all. The first holidays quickly became the past for me, trying not to think of it and how hard it was for me and my family. Valentine’s Day to my dad was just an ordinary day, just another Hallmark holiday. He was absolutely right. I never got anything for my dad for Valentine’s Day because I knew — and he also knew — how much I loved him. The chocolate wasn’t going […]