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Finding EMDR to help with Grief

February 15, 2019

My favorite quote is from Earl Grollman when he says, “The only cure for grief, is to grieve.”  I spent a good two years lost in the throes of loss and grief, not knowing how to overcome my grief after the loss of my son.  I felt alone, afraid, and hopeless.  I was deep in […]

Death as Teacher

February 11, 2019

  Death is thought of in many ways. As an (or the) enemy or as a sad and tragic reality. Sometimes as an essential part of the natural cycle of life—“a time to be born and a time to die”—and sometimes as a thief. Grim Reaper, mystery, transition or rebirth. In the Harry Potter books, […]

Surviving Widowhood: Check Your Track Record

February 10, 2019

There is something about widowhood that brings you to your knees. I remember feeling trapped in an alternative universe trying to make sense of the chaos that surrounded me. The most troubling part was that the one person who was capable of steadying my boat – even as the sea of life raged around me […]

Healing Through the Decades After a Child Dies

February 10, 2019

I am a bereaved parent. For so long, that title has defined me and the person I am now. My first daughter was born in 1995 and had a rare condition called Alagille Syndrome. She was cognitively okay, but had serious issues with her heart, liver and kidneys. She lived for two years and two […]

Safety in the Silence

February 10, 2019

Silence can be a very safe and sacred place when one is grieving. Recently, I spoke with a woman who had a very tragic sudden death in her life. She could barely speak as she tried to explain to me the things that people were saying to her. She was hurt and angry about the […]

The Wound Time Won’t Heal

February 10, 2019

Time heals all wounds. We’ve all heard it. Sounds incredibly hopeful for someone who’s drowning in grief. Except when time doesn’t heal your wound.  Not enough time. It’s been years since my 4-year-old daughter, Margareta, died. She died exactly 29 days after her fourth birthday. That means we had 1,489 glorious days to spend with […]

A Daughter, a Mother and an Unexpected Passing: Darkness Followed by a Bright Moment

February 6, 2019

My wife and I are owners of a company that provides what technically is known as biohazard remediation. We provide cleanup and sanitization services when people are dealing with the aftermath of challenging incidents at their homes. We work with people at some very difficult moments in their lives. Examples of how we help people […]

Dropping into Memory

February 4, 2019

Anniversaries come and go but some linger like the drops of rain hanging on the humming bird feeder outside.  They don’t want to let go and so they hang on until the weather changes and dries them up or drop from their perch with the force of the wind.  Anniversaries are important reminders of the […]

Sometimes Men Need Their Own Sandbox

February 4, 2019

  Something was wrong.  Men who followed the Facebook page, “Widowers Support Network,” just weren’t actively using it as a grief recovery tool. Then, in March of 2018, it hit me. Widowed men who sought out the services of my ministry, the Widowers Support Network wanted to express themselves and the grief they were confronted […]