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What Are Our Choices? A Personal Story By Susan Whitmore, Founder and CEO, griefHaven

Posted on March 10, 2026 - by Susan Whitmore

How do we handle the road stretching before us when we are grieving? Erika, my daughter and only child, died at 32 in 2002 from a rare sinus cancer. A year later, with the love and support of many people, I started griefHaven. Before Erika died, time felt like a friend. After, it became my tormentor—each day dragging on, the months ahead looking like endless miles to endure without her. When I imagined the future, it no longer held the excitement of possibility. It felt like a long, empty road. Heartbreak hits like a sudden tsunami. It leaves us gasping, […]

How To Understand Grief Visions: They Really Are Common

Posted on March 4, 2026 - by lightdoc

Grief is part of the human experience; however, the grief of daughters whose mothers have died is particularly significant, especially for older women who were often caretakers during their mother’s end of life. The components of grief differ widely, and you are the expert on how to navigate this challenging yet sacred journey. It is important as part of this difficult and often lifelong journey to understand that grief is not limited to ordinary dimensions and that the metaphysical dimension that may often occur after a loved one has passed away may include inner knowing, visions, and dreams. Often, grievers […]

Skating for My Beloved Sisters

Posted on February 26, 2026 - by Judy Lipson

Skating is a sport I shared with my beloved sisters. When we were young girls, we proudly carried our skates in plaid bags and raced to be the first ones on the ice. Margie, my older sister, the most talented, Jane, the youngest, was athletic, and I, the middle sister, a bit of a klutz. Little did I know that skating would become the chord that would bind me, honor, and remember, and forever find peace and joy with my sisters. Throughout my life, somehow the ice called me, a pull I never quite understood, my happy place, where […]

Grief And The Trouble With Universal Stages Of Grief

Posted on February 19, 2026 - by lightdoc

Death is the eternal mystery, a mystery that fills our souls with both awe and terror. The consequences of the death of one’s mother is not like any other ordeal in life. Daughters are often faced with resurrecting a new life without a road map, catapulted upon the ruins that remain while enduring indescribable emotional pain. Based on my experience of my mother’s death, and the shared narratives with other daughters I have spoken with, this journey is both courageous and terrifying. Grief is often a taboo topic, and many women (and men) in mourning are not only distraught but […]

How Grief Becomes Your Greatest Superpower

Posted on February 17, 2026 - by Drkatiee

Loss can feel like the moment the world shifts beneath your feet. You look around and everything appears the same, yet nothing feels the same. And still, even in the deepest ache, something extraordinary begins to stir. I have spent more than four decades companioning people through loss, and I have learned: Grief is not the end of your story. It is the beginning of your transformation. Loss shakes us to our core and reveals what truly matters. It invites us gently, quietly, and at our own pace, to discover strengths, truths, and inner resources we never knew we possessed. […]

A Lighthearted Valentine Evolved Into a Lasting Commitment. A commitment in life and in death.

Posted on February 14, 2026 - by Nan Zastrow

““ Success in marriage is more than finding the right person. It’s becoming the right person.” Many of us had those “puppy love crushes” in our teenage years with no expectation of it leading to the altar. I purchased a cute Valentine’s Day card for a “guy” I was dating on-again, off-again. There was no intention in mind other than to get his attention with a bit of lighthearted humor. For all I knew, he could have promptly discarded the greeting card. On the front of the valentine was a picture of a sad, droopy hound dog and the words: […]

ANTICIPATE THE ANNIVERSARY YEAR(S)

Posted on February 9, 2026 - by Mershon Niesner

It happened in New York, April 10th, nineteen years ago. Even my hand balks at the date. I had to push to write it down, just to keep the pen moving on the paper. It used to be a perfectly ordinary day, but now it sticks up on the calendar like a rusty nail. —Donna Tartt, author of The Goldfinch There is a year nearly every daughter who has lost her mother describes as being very significant. This is the year when she becomes the age of her mother when she died. This was also true for me. When I […]

A Day in the Life . . .If You Can Still Call It That

Posted on February 1, 2026 - by Larry Carlat

You wake up in the morning and for the first few hazy seconds, you think maybe it was all a bad dream. As soon as you get out of bed, a tidal wave of grief knocks you down, bringing you to your knees, and you immediately start to cry. You can’t stop crying. This is the beginning of the end of your life as you knew it—grieving your child who is no longer alive. Whether it was a long goodbye, a short goodbye, or no goodbye, you want the pain to stop but you don’t think it ever will. […]

Dr. Bernie Siegel on Living Fully After Loss, Fear, and Life’s Uncertainty

Posted on January 27, 2026 - by Bernie Siegel

Wisdom from author Bernie Siegel, MD: Dr. Bernie Siegel often reminds us that when we believe death is approaching—or when we lose a job, a home, or someone we love—we should pause and ask ourselves a simple but powerful question: What do I feel the need to do to bring myself happiness? Then, begin doing it. He believes this choice can lead to a longer, healthier life than expected. He once shared that when he would call to check on funerals he had not been asked to attend, he often learned that the patient had not died after all. Now, […]

Terrible, Thanks for Asking: What I’ve Learned About Grief

Posted on January 24, 2026 - by Larry Carlat

I’ve never loved anyone the way I loved Rob. Six years ago, I joined the world’s worst club when my older son shot and killed himself. He was 28. Rob suffered from depression, bipolar disorder, and alcoholism. After he died, it was my turn to find out what suffering really means. After he died, it was my turn to find out what suffering really means. In the first few weeks and months, I was gutted and in shock. So were my ex-wife, Caryn and my younger son, Zach. Our family had been destroyed. The whole thing seemed surreal—time was out […]