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Can’t Think of Mom Without Crying

Posted on May 22, 2009 - by Marty Tousley

Question from a reader: I just wish for the day when I can think of my mom without crying. Why does it seem to last for so long? It’s been five months since my mom passed and I still can’t think of her without bawling. I’ve been very depressed lately and some days are better than others, but it often feels as if I’m on a roller-coaster. I just want to keep it together for my daughter; I don’t like falling apart in front of her. I wish there was an easy solution to all of this pain. I just […]

Memorial Day Reminds Us to Work for Peace

Posted on May 22, 2009 - by Pamela Prime

By Pamela Prime — This Memorial Day is once again a significant and special day to remember our soldiers who have offered their lives for our well-being and the well-being of the world. As our soldiers continue to be sent to the Middle East and elsewhere, we must continue to support them with our love and our prayers regardless of how we feel about war. I have a friend, Dr. John, who is now in Afghanistan. He is an orthopedic surgeon who has given seven months of his life to support the healing of our soldiers through surgery but also […]

From Tears to Ideas, the Healing Begins

Posted on May 21, 2009 - by Mary Bart

By Mary Bart — Words can barely describe the depth of loss I felt when my father died. I believe that I cried every day for at least a couple of years. My life felt so empty and so alone. I was 48 years old, and did not know how I was going to get on with my life. Every night, I would take my two dogs for a walk before heading to bed, and I would cry and talk with my dad. While my heart was broken with his loss, I still had the responsibility to help care for […]

Son’s 40th Birthday Would Have Been Today

Posted on May 20, 2009 - by Carol Loehr

Our son Keith died when he was almost 30 years old; that was 10 years ago. Today, May 20, 2009, he would have been 40 years old. As Keith’s birthday approached, I wondered what he would have accomplished in the last 10 years. Keith loved the outdoors, so I can still see him fishing, running, hiking, skating, skiing and scuba diving. However, I know how much Keith loved children, so if he was not married, with children of his own, he would be working with children that needed a Big Brother. I can also see Keith working with young children, […]

What Do We Do With the Treasures in Grandma’s Hope Chest?

Posted on May 19, 2009 - by Terri Saeed

By Terri Saeed — A hope chest filled with a wedding dress from 1940, countless photo albums, a high school scrapbook from 1931, a memory book with witty quotations from depression era teenagers, college transcripts, baby booties and more. The contents of the chest represented over nine decades of memories. What do we do now? How can we possibly divvy up the contents of a life? How will we keep Grandma’s legacy alive? This was the challenge we faced as we went through the most personal of my grandmother’s belongings after her death. One family member was going to become […]

Death, and Hope, in the Middle East

Posted on May 18, 2009 - by Reg Green

By Reg Green — When the doorbell rang in John Boria’s house in Broken Arrow, Oklahoma, on August 31, 2004, and he saw three National Guard Air Force colonels standing there, his first thought was that they had come to the wrong address. The second, a moment later, came with sickening force. “Has something happened to my son?” he asked. Yes, they told him, something has happened. The Boria’s elder son, Capt. John Javier ‘Javy’ Boria, a 29-year-old Air Force pilot, had been injured in an off-duty accident in an all-terrain vehicle he was driving in Qatar, where he was […]

We’ll Vote On It

Posted on May 18, 2009 - by Eric Tomei

As I was writing this post I was going to go in a completely different direction and then something changed. I burped. Yep, that’s right I burped. Now readers out there are wondering how in the hell can you be influenced in writing about one of nature’s gaseous effects? The reason is very simple. Every time I used to burp around my Dad he would say the exact same thing: “Bring it up and will vote on it.” I laughed hysterically every single time he said it, and to this day I still have no […]

10 Dating Tips for Widows and Widowers

Posted on May 17, 2009 - by Abel Keogh

By Abel Keogh — Dating again after the death of a spouse can be an awkward experience. It can bring out feelings of guilt and betrayal for the person dating again. It can also bring out feelings of confusion and concern from friends, family, and those who were close to the deceased spouse. If you’ve lost a spouse and are looking to date again, here are 10 tips to make sure you’re able to successfully navigate the dating waters. 1. When you decide to date again is up to you There’s no specific time period that one should wait before […]

How to Talk to Children About Death

Posted on May 16, 2009 - by Howard Winokuer

By Howard R. Winokuer, Ph.D., FT Death is a subject that is usually not discussed, especially with children. Dr. Elisabeth Kubler-Ross, one of the pioneers in the field of death and dying, has been quoted as saying that we live in a “death denying society.” It is believed that if death is not talked about, then maybe it won’t happen. Death is not something that can be avoided, of course. And at some point, almost all of us will face a death where a child is one of the survivors. What will we say? What will we do? First and […]

Listening to Music Soothes, Distracts, Heals

Posted on May 15, 2009 - by Tony Falzano

By Tony Falzano — This is the 2nd in a series of four articles on music and how it acts as a healing agent for those grieving a loss. Last month we discussed the health benefits of listening to music. This month, we’ll look at another way that music helps us move through the grief process. The first time I saw music work, other than as an entertainment vehicle, was my senior year of college. I took a psychology course one semester. The professor had each student commit to be of service to a specific population of the community. Being […]