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How to Care For Your Brain While Grieving

Posted on April 26, 2009 - by Louis LaGrand

By Dr. Lou LaGrand — Has it been weeks since the death of your loved one and you still feel sluggish with low energy levels? Are you hesitant in making decisions? Confused? Is hope draining out of you and all you think about is a bleak future? It is not unusual to suffer physical and emotional depletion when mourning. Adapting to the loss of a loved one is always a major challenge and calls for a new awareness and the development of new routines without the presence of the beloved. It will help you immensely to deal with all of […]

Without a Mooring — For Bereaved, the Waves Keep Crashing

Posted on April 24, 2009 - by Beverly Chantalle McManus

By Beverly Chantalle McManus — Those of us who have survived the death of a spouse receive ongoing reminders that life will never be the same. Just as we feel we’re finally able to be buoyant again, as we’re coming to grips with this most devastating loss and the profound changes that overtake every aspect of our lives, it often feels like yet another huge wave comes from nowhere, to crash into us, hurling us to the ocean’s rocky floor, leaving our mouths and lungs filled with sand and salt water. Sometimes these waves are of a financial nature — […]

Taking a Risk to Bloom in the Spring

Posted on April 23, 2009 - by Kirsti Dyer

Dr. Kirsti A. Dyer MD, MS, CWS — After the long winter comes the warm days of spring to melt away the enshrouding white blanket of grief. The once white landscape is altered turning into bright fields of multi-hued wildflowers, as the lands and animals awaken from their long winter’s sleep into springtime and life. Without a doubt, spring is my favorite season; it is a time of rebirth and renewal. The beauty in this time of year can be used to help those living with loss. Poets and writers have used imagery of the changing seasons to explain loss, […]

Loss of Infant Twin Inspires Mother to Share Story

Posted on April 22, 2009 - by Monica Novak

By Beth Larson – In 2001 I gave birth to my twin daughters Madelyne and Shirley. They were only 26 weeks gestation, and I had been in the hospital on bed rest because the water around Shirley broke everyday starting at 19 weeks. I was in the hospital for 7 weeks, laying there praying and watching my other two children, Alexander and Emmalynn, ages 3 and 5, come to visit me. I was terrified, my husband was anxious and the children were scared because Mommy was not at home. When I went into labor I knew that I had 50/50 […]

A Gift of Remembrance

Posted on April 22, 2009 - by Sandy Fox

by Sandy Fox Sometimes in the mist of everyday living something special happens that you know you will keep in your heart forever. For me that something special happened about six months ago. Out of nowhere I received a letter from my daughter Marcy’s first high school boyfriend from 25 years ago, a very personal letter in which he opened his heart about what Marcy meant to him. Almost 15 years is a long time to wait to write such a letter, but just the fact that it was sent at all was so very special to me. He found me because of an […]

Spring cleaning…

Posted on April 22, 2009 - by Eric Tomei

Hopefully that summer is right around the corner (yeah right) it was hailing here in Michigan today, it is the time for year for everyone to take inventory and do the dreaded spring cleaning. Mostly, spring cleaning consists of getting rid of past stuff to make room for future stuff. Basically in the end every year, it is a recycling of some stuff always. A sense of real accomplishment comes with a good spring cleaning as new hope arises that your literal house will stay that way the whole year, if not for just a week. Last […]

Multiple Losses: Start With the Pain

Posted on April 22, 2009 - by Harriet Hodgson

By Harriet Hodgson — Nobody expects multiple losses. If and when they come the pain is unbearable. ?Who should you grieve first? How long will you grieve? Will you ever be happy again? You want to escape the pain, but it is this pain – a journey through darkness – that leads to healing. Pat McNees makes this point in her book, “Dying: A Book of Comfort.” McNees includes one of her own articles in the anthology, “Grief: The Only Way Out is Through.” As she explains, “The work of grieving, and the only way to get through mourning, […]

Nature’s Remedy – Allowing the Universe to Embrace Us in Our Pain and Need

Posted on April 21, 2009 - by Beverly Chantalle McManus

Responding to How Do I Cope After the Death of My Husband?, Annalise wrote: “When does the pain ease off?? Two months today and getting worse.” Beverly Chantalle McManus, Grief Companion, responds: Annalise, first of all, please accept my deepest compassion for your loss. The death of a spouse is one of the hardest things anyone will have to go through, and only those who have experienced it can really understand the depth of pain and loss you are experiencing. We’re glad you reached out, and hope that knowing you’re not alone will help ease the pain and loneliness. I […]

‘We Must Not Insist That God Do Things Our Way’

Posted on April 21, 2009 - by Barbara Francis

By Barbara Francis — We all need to be asking God to enlarge our hearts to himself and to others and to increase our trust that he will work in his way in his time. We must not insist that God do things our way, and we can only humbly bow before the fact that we do not understand all his ways and leave the results to him. Sometimes it may be difficult to see what God is doing when it looks like he’s not doing anything especially with rebellious, sick, or sinful people, or when those we love take […]

What It’s Really Like When Your Child is Terminally Ill

Posted on April 20, 2009 - by Lisa Buell

By Lisa Buell — How could death possibly happen to a child? We all enter into an unspoken contract that our children will outlive us. It’s what gives us the courage to become parents in the first place. When that assumption is suddenly thrown into question because of a child’s illness, we find ourselves looking for reasons hidden in the unreasonable. We seek for clues to explain why this tragedy is happening to this particular set of parents, to gain understanding and to create distance as well. As parents of a dying child, we didn’t want to see ourselves as […]