Do Men Really Cry Less Than Women?
Posted on August 22, 2008 - by Bob Baugher
Grief therapist Bob Baugher suggests that we not judge a man’s grief by how much — or even whether — he cries.
Read MoreGrief therapist Bob Baugher suggests that we not judge a man’s grief by how much — or even whether — he cries.
Read MoreI became a widow when Steve, my husband of 20 years, died from esophageal cancer. With one daughter in college and the other finishing up high school, along with a new, highly demanding job, I felt so unequipped to deal with all the emotions, feelings, and tangible aspects of grief. When we lose someone we love, especially a spouse, whether it was expected (for example, after a long illness), or unexpected (such as after a tragic accident or sudden illness), there really doesn’t seem to be much of a roadmap we can follow to negotiate the twists and turns ahead. […]
Read More1. Grief is the last “living connection” to a loved one who has died. So when you expect someone to “get over” their grief, you are expecting them to move on from a loved one. Others should think it in terms of their own loved ones; think of it in terms and the shock of losing someone they cannot imagine living without. People who are grieving cannot move on just because others want them to. They inch forward as they are able to do so, and to some degree will always grieve their loss. 2. Since grief is a last […]
Read MoreTina H., Houston, Texas, asks: Our house burned down with everything we own in it. I feel like I’ve been orphaned. No surviving photos of our children or our parents. No LPs or CDs or cassettes. Our computers were fried. Our books burned up. Everyone says, “Praise God that no one was hurt.” But I can’t see it. How can I get over this? Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley respond: It is very tough to have a house fire that takes everything. One of our listeners’ house burned down a few years ago due to faulty Christmas lights. No one […]
Read MoreCounselor Julia Sorensen offers suggestions to men and women going through a divorce. Among other strategies, she suggests keeping a journal.
Read MoreWhen I look back on our life together, there are many memories that are told and retold, and to me it seems further evidence of healing for myself and my children. The memories are there and fondly told, with a smile and reminiscent grin, without the pain that was once associated thinking of a loved one no longer there.
Read MoreBy Ryan L Malone In an assisted living environment, caregivers are often thought of only as “hired help.” In fact, both short and long-term relationships with caregivers offer benefits far exceeding assistance with daily living. The acceptance that caregivers are play an important role in the daily happiness of both the patient and family can lead to a far more positive assisted living experience. For residents, caregivers play a number of different roles, including: A friend. Just like having a roommate, the caregiver and your loved one will spend a lot of time together. And just like a roommate, a […]
Read MoreBy Martha Paulson Today, every six seconds someone turns 62. Makes you stop and think, doesn’t it? As more and more aging adults start to retire, families at one point have to take on the responsibility of care for a loved one. When you have your own family to worry about, the added responsibility can become overwhelming. Playing the role of caregiver can have adverse changes on everyone who enlists that into their own life. Whether it is the spouse, daughter or son of the ailing parent, becoming a caregiver will have a lasting effect on a person’s life. Families […]
Read MoreHaving lost loved ones to suicide, I am deeply saddened and feel abandoned when the Christian faith I look to for support and comfort judge and condemn victims of suicides. While I certainly do not support or advocate suicide, nowhere in The Holy Bible does it exclude from Heaven our loved ones who have taken their own lives. In fact, Jesus said the only unforgivable sin was blasphemy against the Holy Spirit, so I am often mystified by seemingly-sanctimonious condemnations of suicide victims on “God’s behalf.” After all, would any loving and compassionate father forever turn away from his child for […]
Read MorePoet/writer Fran Dorf gives voice to the experience we often have when we see someone who looks like a loved one who has died. It’s a haunting, healing reminder of how grief works.
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