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From the Ashes of my Father’s Death

Posted on January 9, 2019 - by Emily Kil

(Contributing writer Emily Kil co-wrote this article with her husband based on his childhood experience.) A 9-year old boy should be playing with friends, going to school, and making lifetime memories with his parents and family. Unfortunately, as a 9-year old boy, my life took turn down a pathway that should never have to be walked by a young child. Unfortunately, tragedies of different types impact the lives of children, sometimes with devastating and lasting consequences. I share some of my experiences as a child. My hope is that others will benefit from what I share – and may be […]

Dear Dad Letters: From a Bereaved Son

Posted on January 7, 2019 - by Gary Jaworski

Panic Attack Dear Dad, Tonight I went to a play at the Shakespeare Theater with my wife and a friend. We sat in the middle of the theater. I have a severe panic attack and insist on leaving the theater. “Can’t you stay?” “The play hasn’t even started yet!” Disappointment and anger. I remember earlier episodes in movie theaters where I felt intense anxiety just sitting in the theater. They don’t understand, and neither do I … for a while. Then it occurs to me: we’re in a theater and death is right behind us! Dear Dad, A work colleague took me to the emergency room […]

When the Loss is Not a Death: Interview with Dr Darcy Harris

Posted on January 2, 2019 - by Heidi Horsley

At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Dr Darcy Harris about families and their struggles with infertility and the unacknowledged loss. Darcy originally got interested in this topic when she was doing research on couples going through infertility treatment. The language they were using was the language of grief and loss even though there wasn’t a death in the traditional sense. They were mourning the loss of baby they were hoping for but never appeared. That experience got Darcy thinking more about non-death related loss. There is still a lot of misunderstanding when it […]

Trauma Treatments During Grief

Posted on December 30, 2018 - by Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley

Dr. Gloria Horsley and her daughter, Dr. Heidi Horsley, discuss trauma treatments in their 49th Open to Hope Foundation episode. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk of the Trauma Center at Justice Resource Institute and a professor at Boston University, and Dr. David Fajgenbaum of The Bone and Joint Surgery Clinic join Drs. Horsley to discuss how treating traumas is unique. “Trauma overwhelms the human organism,” says Dr. van der Kolk. Trauma therapy is a means of treating the whole body, with the understanding that a person has been through something that is wholly overwhelming. When Dr. Gloria Horsley shared a […]

Sisters: The Last of Three

Posted on December 27, 2018 - by Judy Lipson

There is no one like a sister. Sisters are constant, champions, and competitors. Margie, Judy, Jane. I am a sister. I had those relationships. I had them for the years I had them. They are always with me. Three sisters. A trio, a triangle, a tripod, and a trilogy. Identified to be proud, secure, pointed in our corners of alterations and dissimilarities, our stories not what we dreamed but the sum of us, our genealogy, the Lipson girls. To discover after so 20 years the cards and letters from my cherished sisters in my basement felt like a most […]

Sibling Loss: Interview with Stephen Stott

Posted on December 22, 2018 - by Heidi Horsley

At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Stephen Stott about the loss of his sister and how eventually he found peace and hope with new friends and The Compassionate Friends organization. Stephen lost his sister in a car accident in 2002. His mother started going to The Compassionate Friends shortly after, but it wasn’t until a few years had passed before Stephen felt comfortable enough to go. The experience ended up being great, but it’s nervous going somewhere for the first time with no idea of what to expect. In the video below, Stephen […]

Taking Care of Yourself Through the Grief Process: Interview with Dr. Howard R. Winokuer

Posted on December 18, 2018 - by Howard Winokuer

At the annual ADEC (Association of Death Education and Counseling), I spoke with Dr. Howard R. Winokuer about burnout after the death of a loved one and how we can take care of ourselves. In the video below, Howard shares advice on how to deal with burnout following the death of a loved one. Here are some key takeaways from the video: The first thing that comes to Howard’s mind, which is from his own experience dealing with the death of his parents, is that no matter how much you know about grief it doesn’t make the process any easier. […]

Tips For Handling Grief During the Holidays

Posted on December 11, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

Grief hits at the most unexpected times. However, the holidays are a known time when grief comes back like a weight, pushing down on those who have lost children, siblings, parents, and other loved ones. It can become even more difficult when that lost loved one really loved Christmas. However, there are some tips that can help you handle the holidays and find the joy in these celebrations for yourself, your family, and even for your lost loved one. Recently, in the above video, my daughter, Heidi, and Debbie Rambis, Executive Director of The Compassionate Friends, shared our own experiences […]

The Vocabulary of Grief

Posted on December 11, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

When you’ve lost a child, it can sometimes feel like you’re speaking a different language than everyone else. People ask vague questions like “How are you doing?” or “Is there anything I can do to help?” They mean well, but people often work hard to avoid acknowledging the elephant in the room. Terms like loss and death are hard for most of us to say, and they create an awkward catch-22. Not acknowledging a deep loss a person is despairing over can appear insensitive, but mentioning it — making it real again — can introduce a melancholy tone to a […]

Lessons From One Who Has Helped Many Pass Away

Posted on December 8, 2018 - by Nina Impala

Let’s talk about the mysteries of death, because in death there always seems to be so many unanswered questions. I know with my own mom, who has been gone eight years now, the one question still remains: Why did she have to die? Breast cancer took her life. She was too young, a vibrant, good-hearted woman. It still is a mystery to me. People often ask me questions about whether their loved one is OK, whether they can see us, feel us, suffer or be scared. They want to know: How long does it take to reach heaven? Was someone there […]

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From the Ashes of my Father’s Death

Posted on January 9, 2019 - by Emily Kil

Dear Dad Letters: From a Bereaved Son

Posted on January 7, 2019 - by Gary Jaworski

When the Loss is Not a Death: Interview with Dr Darcy Harris

Posted on January 2, 2019 - by Heidi Horsley

Trauma Treatments During Grief

Posted on December 30, 2018 - by Dr. Gloria and Dr. Heidi Horsley

Sisters: The Last of Three

Posted on December 27, 2018 - by Judy Lipson

Sibling Loss: Interview with Stephen Stott

Posted on December 22, 2018 - by Heidi Horsley

Taking Care of Yourself Through the Grief Process: Interview with Dr. Howard R. Winokuer

Posted on December 18, 2018 - by Howard Winokuer

Tips For Handling Grief During the Holidays

Posted on December 11, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

The Vocabulary of Grief

Posted on December 11, 2018 - by Gloria Horsley

Lessons From One Who Has Helped Many Pass Away

Posted on December 8, 2018 - by Nina Impala

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