Carol O'Dell

Carol D. O'Dell's gripping memoir MOTHERING MOTHER, (April 1, 2007 by Kunati Publishing) is for the "sandwich" generation and overflows with humor, grace and much needed honesty. Written with wit and sensitivity, Mothering Mother offers insight on how to not only survive but thrive the challenges of caring for others while keeping your life, heart, and dreams intact. Carol is an inspirational speaker and instructor focusing on caregiving, spirituality and adoption issues. She has been featured on numerous television, radio and magazine and podcast programs including WEDU/PBS, Artist First Radio, "Coping with Caregiving" national radio, Women's Digest and Mature Matters Publications. Her fiction and nonfiction work has appeared in numerous publications including Atlanta Magazine, Southern Revival, MARGIN, and AIM, America's Intercultural Magazine Carol appeared on the radio show "Healing the Grieving Heart" with Dr. Gloria & Dr. Heidi Horsley to discuss "Mothering Mother: A Daughter's Humorous and Heartbreaking Memoir." To hear Carol being interviewed on this show, click on the following link: www.voiceamericapd.com/health/010157/horsley031308.mp3

Articles:

What’s Worse Than Being a Caregiver?

A friend of mine called me from her mother’s bedside.
Her mother?was dying. In-patient hospice. It wouldn’t be long.
My heart ached. I knew her mother. I could hear the sound of her voice in my head.
She was 78 years old. Not that old, but cancer doesn’t care–young, old.
Everyone had flown on to say their good byes. […]

Do You Have Restless Caregiver Syndrome?

Do you feel like running away?
You may have restless caregiver syndrome.
What?s that, you ask?
I may have made up the term, but I certainly experienced it firsthand.
Have you seen the commercials for restless leg syndrome?
They?re kind of quirky, and I?m not saying that it?s not a serious disorder, but it?s presented […]

What’s Your Caregiving Personality Type?

Different personalities handle life, death, and caregiving differently.
We all have gifts to offer the world and to offer as a caregiver.?\
Stop trying to be something you’re not.
Stop trying to be your mother.
There are things you’re good at things you aren’t.
Accept this and let go of the guilt.?
By examining your basic personality traits, you can […]

The Power of Forgiveness

One of the practices hospice?recommends is to ask your loved one’s fforgiveness–and to offer yours.
I’ve been thinking about this all day. The importance, or power of forgiveness and how it might keep us here on earth, lingering. Everything hospice does is to make passing easy, comfortable, and to give a sense of closure to everyone.
And […]

Why is Mom (or Dad or my spouse) So Grumpy? 5 Ways to Stop Negativity

Is your parent or spouse negative all or most of the time?

The Four Cycles of Caregiving: Where Are You?

Statistics show that people spend about 4.5 years caregiving.
The average person with Alzheimer’s lives 5-8 years. That means there’s some time they might not be receiivng care–the early years before they’ve been diagnosed when they’re able to cover it up, make excuses, or their family members are just?too inundated with work and children to […]

Why I Chose Against a Feeding Tube

After all the caregiving, all the hospital stays, doctor visits, baths, pills, and exhaustion, you have one more hurdle–the dying process itself. One of the toughest decisions you’ll have to make is whether or not to insert a feeding tube.
This occurs when you’re at your lowest. Beyond exhausted. Numb.
You call hospice and more decisions need […]

No Get Up and Go? 5 Caregiving Energy Zappers

One of the biggest issues I had as a caregiver was no energy!
I knew I was doing a lot, caring for my mom (She had Parkinson’s and Alzheimer’s and lived?with us) ?and raising three daughters, but I still felt like most of my work was at home, not terribly hard or fast-paced,?so why did […]

What’s Your Dirty Little Vice? Not So Great Caregiving Coping Skills

?So what’s your dirty little caregiving vice??
Everyone has them and caregivers are no exception.
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Caregivers are under enormous amounts of stress, so it’s only natural to turn to something that’s comforting.?The other danger is that caregivers spend an enormous amount of time at home and alone–a breeding ground for vices.
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I’m all for comfort, but […]