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Death of ‘Neon Man’ Inspires Friend to Help Others

Posted on March 25, 2010 - by Slash Coleman

In 2004, I got a call that my best friend died. Mark Jamison was a neon artist from Roanoke, Virginia, who was electrocuted after he was blown into a power line while hanging a neon sign. He was only 35. A month after he died, his girlfriend discovered she was pregnant. Mark and I had been friends for nearly 18 years. We met in a jazz band in college. Toured around with the band for a few years afterward and then, for the next decade, I traveled around the world looking for answers and he stayed in Roanoke, opened up a neon shop and looked […]

Poem: A Blind Eye

Posted on March 24, 2010 - by Deborah Tornillo

Can I turn a blind eye? Say to myself “It is what it is” or Turn a face of denial? I can turn it on Right or wrong. Trying to stay strong For however long. Torment, a reality Eats away at the core Continue to pray, Pray to My Lord. Can I turn a blind eye? Say to myself “Yes I can” I’m in denial. Lord, do you feel me? My broken heart It hurts. Torn, torn apart. Deborah Ann Tornillo Author, 36 Days Apart Copyright© 2010 http://www.deborahtornillo.com

Man Writes Poetry as Medicine for Grief

Posted on March 24, 2010 - by Kathryn Williams Raths

Ed Gray of Howell, Michigan, is reaching out to others by sharing his story, a bereavement story of both sadness and triumph. He lost his parents and his wife in just over one year’s time. His mother grew tired fighting a 37-year battle with breast cancer and stopped her treatment. His father died about four months later. Ed’s wife fought Lou Gehrig’s disease for nearly three years before she died. Ed described this painful period, “It was an intense time caring for all three; I focused most attention to the one closest to death at the time; first Mom, then Dad, […]

Poem: A Struggle Within

Posted on March 23, 2010 - by Deborah Tornillo

Fall of 2007 He opened the Gates of Heaven. He took them By their hand. To a Promised Land. He showed them A shining light. An Eternal Life. Spring of 2010 Still struggling and Missing them. In this distant land He promised to Hold my hand. Still struggling and Missing them. A struggle within. Deborah Ann Tornillo Author, 36 Days Apart Copyright© 2010 http://www.deborahtornillo.com

Grief Study for Those Who Lost Parent in Childhood

Posted on March 23, 2010 - by admin

If you lost a parent between the ages of 3-17 and are now over the age of 18, you are eligible for a one-time paid group interview in New York. Contact rabinow@gmail.com for more details. Jessica Rabinow, M.S. Doctoral Candidate, 2011 Long Island University Clinical Psychology 847 404 0772

Stuffing Emotions Isn’t a Good Grief Strategy

Posted on March 23, 2010 - by Steve Harris

When we’ve lost someone we love, grief is a journey we can’t avoid. But that doesn’t stop many of us (particularly men) from trying. Perhaps we’re afraid that such intense emotions will overwhelm us. Or maybe we hope that if we pretend to be okay, that fantasy will somehow come true. While mourning the loss of my wife, intense waves of sadness would often crash down upon me, threatening to wash me away. A photograph, a song on the radio, a fragrance, a random thought… the triggers were everywhere. I wanted to shelter myself from these emotional tsunamis and I […]

A Fresh Loss, New Lessons

Posted on March 22, 2010 - by Ellen Besso

“There are no random acts…We are all connected…You can no more separate one life from another than you can separate a breeze from the wind…” – Mitch Albom It’s true…I feel it, you feel it…we are all connected. As human beings, we feel each other’s pain. Because of this we are able to pull together when necessary, when someone is ill or dying, to show our caring. We can do this in many ways, by sitting with the person, checking in with them by telephone, or by doing the practical things, the small “labors of love” like cooking and laundry. […]

Self-Torture Legacy for Many Grieving Suicide

Posted on March 22, 2010 - by Alex James

Families and loved ones of those who choose to end their own lives are all faced with the unanswerable question, Why? We may assume that for those families where the deceased left a note, the answer to that question is obvious. But in my experience working with the surviving loved ones of suicide, notes usually serve to add to the feelings of failure and guilt. Survivors think they should have known, could have done something, might have prevented it. Self torture is the legacy bestowed on those left to grieve. The suicide of their loved one may be felt as a reflection on them, a sign of […]

Animal-Human Connection Lives on After Death

Posted on March 21, 2010 - by Lizzy Miles

I am a cat-lover, I will admit it. Growing up, I had cats here and there, but my dad was really intolerant of the normal pet things like fleas and “accidents” on the carpets, so I never had a cat for very long. I had one kitten for four days; then he discovered it had fleas, and took it to the vet, and I never saw it again. When I moved to my own place at 20, right away I knew I wanted to get a kitten. One day, my friend Laura called and told me there were kittens at […]

The Healing Power of Forgiveness

Posted on March 20, 2010 - by Mary Zemites

When we suffer the death of someone we love, we experience mental, emotional and physical distress. In this fragile state, it is likely that we will feel resentment, indignation or anger. Sometimes these feelings may be the result of a perceived offense or difference with someone we know. Even, perhaps, with our deceased loved one. During the final stages of my husband’s illness and after his death, I remember being surprised at the support and kindness of many people. Some, I hardly knew. I was also surprised by the absence of support and/or inappropriate remarks made by family and friends. […]