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Does Grief End? Signs From Our Son in Heaven

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Guy Dusseault

Our son Billy crossed over to heaven on June 26, 2004, four days before his 29th birthday. Billy was killed instantly while riding his ATV at night, hitting a tree. My first goal was to try to survive the next day and make sure that my wife Jo-Anne and our other son, Robert, were OK. Beyond that, my goal was to find a way to make a connection with our son, Billy, in heaven. I had tried on my own in different ways for a few months without any success. That all changed when my wife Jo-Anne asked me if I […]

The Physical Aspects of Loss

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Kirsti Dyer

People experience many losses in their lifetime. The most common loss is the death of a loved one, but people experience other losses e.g. loss of a relationship, loss of a job or loss of health. Most of these losses result in some type of a grief response. Grief is the entire body’s response to the loss–mind, body and spirit. A person grieving a loss may feel grief in many different ways–physically, emotionally, spiritually, socially and intellectually. He or she may experience a variety of body complaints that include: Fatigue Problems sleeping (insomnia) General aches and pain Backaches Stomach pains […]

Does Grief End? Hearing the ‘Voice’ of My Father

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Sheena Matos

When I was fifteen years old, my daddy passed away of a massive heart attack. I was at school and got called to the office to hear the most horrifying news of my life on the telephone. The voice on the other end was a lady co-worker of his; she told me he had dropped while at work. After falling to my knees, I broke into tears. I soon collected myself enough to call my momma and give her the news. Arriving at the hospital and seeing him on life support felt as if I were in a dream. How […]

Does Grief End? The Last Bag of Clothes

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Mary Bart

Mom died one year ago. When she died, we sorted through all of her clothes and divided them into two categories. The first category was the clothes that I wanted to keep, either because I was going to wear them or because they had a special meaning for me. The second group was the clothes that we planned to give away to people who needed them. We made three bags of these. My family members dropped off two of the bags at the second-hand clothing store. I promised that I would take the final bag and drop it off … […]

Does Grief End? Rediscovering Laughter

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Lisa Buell

I heard the sound coming from somewhere close, swelling from the deepest part of my being. I was almost startled when I felt it resonate through my body, felt the vibration, lungs rising and falling to keep up with the demand of my spirit. How long had it been since I had felt laughter? The noise was both familiar and startling. The overwhelming sense of loss that guarded the gate to my soul must have been on a lunch break. Loss and I had made an agreement after my daughter died that I could never be happy again. But now, […]

Does Grief End? Giving Up on Having it My Way

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Jenny Hander

I knew I had turned the corner on grief the moment I lost it all; the moment I let my hopes, my dreams, my world, fall apart. For six months, I refused to accept that my infant twin daughter was gone. I couldn’t see how life would be possible without my daughter. I had always envisioned a grand way of living and was convinced that living an extraordinary life was no longer an option for me after my daughter’s death. I felt I deserved something better, something more than a life of grief. So, as a woman of faith, I […]

Does Grief End? Belly Laughs and Crème Brule

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Harriet Hodgson

“Mom, we didn’t move into the pub,” my daughter laughed, “we went there to cool off and eat.” No wonder my memory was hazy. My husband and I were still recovering from the loss of our elder daughter, my father-in-law, my brother, and our former son-in-law. Four deaths in nine months were overwhelming. The pub topic came up during a family dinner at a French restaurant. We were reminiscing about a trip we and our younger daughter had taken to London and the Isle of Man. I told the story about calling the hotel desk clerk to report the lack […]

It is Love, Not Death, That Causes Pain

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by kstengel

Only in the spirit of love, not under the sign of death, do the rituals of memory reveal themselves as the beloved’s living presence. (November Rose: A Speech on Death) Two years ago, on All Soul’s-All Saints’ day, the chaplain of The Cathedral School in New York City invited me to speak about my experiences with grief, death, and survival at the Cathedral of St. John of the Divine. The chaplain instructed me that my audience would be comprised of children ranging from Kindergarten through 8th grade, as well as faculty and parents, and that my remarks should not exceed […]

Does Grief End? It Takes Grace and Guts to Forgive

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Barbara Francis

Grace & Guts: What It Takes to Forgive is a book about a topic I have gone to terrific lengths to avoid. This book is not for those ultra-pious Christians who declare that of course we must forgive those who’ve hurt us because that’s what we’re called to do, period, so do it already. It’s not for those who don’t, or won’t, acknowledge the struggles inherent in being human, even a person who, with all her or his heart, aches to do what is right. It’s not for anyone who is unwilling to admit that there are moments in life, even […]

Does Grief End? Deciding That It’s OK to Survive

Posted on August 21, 2009 - by Patrick T. Malone

My wife, Kathy, and I present a workshop for bereaved parents that we have titled, “Into the Valley and Out Again.” We conclude that presentation with some of our observations on our recovery and reinvestment. We believe that many of these observations apply to all forms of grief. So here are some excerpts from our workshop. A few years ago the Queen Mother in England died after more than 100 years of life. She was much beloved as the “Queen Mum,” and even before her death, she was planning how she would help the people of England recover from her […]