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Valentine Poem From a Dad to His Beloved Girl

Posted on February 10, 2009 - by Alan Pedersen

By Alan Pederson — One day in early February of 2007, I was driving near my home in Denver, Colorado, listening to a local talk radio show. One of the hosts of the show was setting up a commercial for a flower company he represented by saying his young daughter was now at an age where he was going to send her flowers for Valentine’s Day. As he talked glowingly and lovingly of his daughter and his excitement about sending her a beautiful bouquet of all different color roses, it got me thinking about my Ashley. I began to imagine […]

Loss Of First Grandparent A Major Blow

Posted on February 10, 2009 - by Neil Chethik

Katherine writes: I lost my grandfather last month, and this was my first loss of a close loved one. I am 28 years old. I can’t seem to stop thinking about my grandfather. Granted, it has only been just about two weeks, but I am afraid this pain is going to last forever. I find my grief is worse at night and during the day I can function somewhat, but when night comes and my children have gone off to bed, I feel myself start to fall apart again. Am I doing something wrong? Neil Chethik, author of FatherLoss, responds: I’m very […]

Mother Recalls Cherished Valentine From Son

Posted on February 9, 2009 - by Carol Loehr

By Carol Loehr — It was Valentine’s Day and Keith was five years old. We talked about Valentine’s Day, but Keith forgot the day was special for his mother. I gently reminded him that I didn’t get a Valentine from my special son. Keith just smiled, with those twinkling eyes and said, “Wait just a minute Mom.” He ran up the stairs to his room and within minutes, he was back down. He had made a Valentine’s Day card for me. The card was a simple red heart and it said, “Happy Valentine’s Day, Mom!” Inside the card Keith wrote: […]

Affectionately Remembering a Valentine’s Day ‘Scrooge’

Posted on February 6, 2009 - by Michele Neff Hernandez

By Michele Neff Hernandez — My husband used to call Valentine’s Day “So What Day.’” Romantic, huh? He thought that greeting cards were a waste of trees, that buying flowers because someone told you to defeated the purpose, and that going to dinner on the big day just to eat from a limited menu and have servers anxiously awaiting your departure from the table was ridiculous. I will admit that we fought about this on a few occasions. Who wants to be the only girl in the office who didn’t get flowers? Eventually, we settled into our own brand of […]

Pregnancy After Pregnancy Loss

Posted on February 5, 2009 - by Monica Novak

By Dr Lina Kaplan – Pregnancy loss presents a formidable challenge to bereaved parents. Grieving parents often report a profound sense of isolation and alienation at the time when they most need support. Many people do not fully appreciate the attachment that already has formed between the parents and their unborn child, nor the symbolic losses associated with pregnancy loss. Grieving parents, therefore, often feel their loss is minimized and trivialized (“it is all for the best”, “you are young, you’ll be pregnant in no time”) and feel both internal and external pressure to “move on.” One way in which […]

Brother-Sister Bond Showed Itself on Valentine’s Day

Posted on February 5, 2009 - by Anne Dionne

By Anne Dionne — A couple of years after my son Michael died, I was sorting through some things which I had saved from our children’s school years. I came across a Valentine card which depicts a little girl surrounded by heart symbols. “Stuck on you Valentine!,” the card reads. On the back of the card is seven-year-old Michael’s hand-written signature. The card was to his big sister Kelly. The emotional bond between Kelly and Michael was formed very early. Almost three years older, Kelly was excited about the prospect of welcoming her new brother into the world. When I […]

Discovering the ‘Christmas Valentine’

Posted on February 4, 2009 - by Yvonne Lancaster

By Yvonne E. Lancaster On December 22, 1986, our son Brian was killed by a drunk driver. We buried him two days later on Christmas Eve. Brian was 19 years old and a sophomore in college. All of his dreams and aspirations to become a marine biologist and hopefully a husband and father someday, were dashed in a split second. Brian’s tragic accident was followed by intense grieving and mourning during the holiday season. Our world stood still, our lives flash-frozen in time. Life would forever have two phases — life before Brian and life after Brian. Brian was full […]

The Gift

Posted on February 4, 2009 - by John Pete

When we lose a loved one we are confronted with a life-changing event that forces us to accept that our lives will never be the same again. As a grief counselor, and someone who has experienced my own profound losses, I have read all the textbooks and witnessed the common stages of denial, anger and guilt, bargaining, depression, and the slow journey to true acceptance. Anyone who has lost someone knows there is no other experience in life like losing a loved one. And at a time of volatile emotions, it is easy to be hurt and angered by those […]

Super man, super son…

Posted on February 3, 2009 - by Eric Tomei

Yesterday was one of my favorite days of the year: Super Bowl Sunday. I couldn’t care less each year who is in the game although there are some teams I definitely like better than others and I was rooting for the Steelers. We witnessed arguably one of the greatest Super Bowls ever as Pittsburgh beat the Arizona Cardinals 27-23. What was super about this game was the players on both sides fighting for a common goal. Had the Cardinals won the game, nobody would have argued that Larry Fitzgerald, the Cardinals star wide receiver who caught two touchdowns […]

Poem: For Barbara, On Valentine’s Day, After the Death of Our Son

Posted on February 3, 2009 - by Mitch Carmody

By Mitch Carmody — Our son Kelly James was diagnosed with a brain tumor in February of 1986, and our world changed forever. We did everything we could do medically, holistically and spiritually to save our son. Although we experienced a healing, we learned a healing is not always a cure. He died 12-1-1987, two months later I wrote this poem to my wife on Valentine’s day. February 14th, 1988 For Barbara My darling I am not sure what to say nor even what to do to make this very special day unique and true to you. We have gone […]