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Bereaved Mother: ‘Why Can’t I Cry?

Posted on December 2, 2008 - by Neil Chethik

Sherry writes in: I’m not sure what to say, but feel compelled to write something. My 38-year-old daughter, Colleen, died May 20, 2008. I spoke to her that morning. She was feeling better than she had for two weeks. I was in another state with my younger daughter. She and her husband were to adopt a child and I was helping with the their two small boys. Less than three hours later, my husband called and said Colleen is gone. She died of an asthma attack. She had asthma all of her life and felt she could handle any situation. Her […]

What Makes Pregnancy Losses Unique

Posted on December 1, 2008 - by Irv Leon

by Irv Leon, Ph.D. –??

The Gift of a Peaceful Death

Posted on November 30, 2008 - by Francesca McCartney

By Francesca McCartney, PhD —

I Believe (poem)

Posted on November 29, 2008 - by John Pete

I believe I will see my loved ones again and it is that, among other things, which allows me to heal and gives me the courage to journey forward. I believe there is a profound reason for life and death, perhaps purposely beyond our understanding. I believe that moving forward is about creating opportunities for spiritual growth, and not just going through the motions of another day. I believe that life’s events are a classroom, and not some meaningless cosmic joke. I believe that love is profoundly connected to the meaning of life, and not just an empty phenomenon that rewards […]

“I Can’t Believe I Just Said That”: How to Say the Right Thing to Someone Who is Ill or Experienced a Death

Posted on November 29, 2008 - by Carol O'Dell

A dear friend of mine has cancer is awaiting a double mastectomy. Her family and friends have all gathered and I see the love and connection she has surrounding her. There’s hugs and laughter and even a few tears. But we’re still human, every last one of us that and all those prayers and good thoughts don’t keep us from saying something really dumb. Hey, I’m guilty too. I don’t mean it in a “I would never say something that stupid” way because trust me, I’ve been known to say a few blunders in my day. But I heard someone say something […]

‘This Day’ is All We Have

Posted on November 29, 2008 - by Luellen Hoffman

By Luellen Hoffman —

‘Reality is Always Kind;’ Moving Beyond Suffering

Posted on November 28, 2008 - by Byron Katie

By Byron Katie —

Poem: 10 Thanksgivings

Posted on November 27, 2008 - by Pamela Gabbay

A poem by Pamela Gabbay –

Surviving Holidays With The In-Laws

Posted on November 27, 2008 - by Neil Chethik

By Dr. Gloria Horsley – Getting through the holidays after a loss is always a challenge. One of the things that can make it especially difficult is finding the energy to deal with in-law issues. The problems are not new but after a loss your patience may wear thin. Here are some suggestions and thoughts to help you through troubled waters. Also remember Thanksgiving, Christmas and Hanukah are only one day. Anticipation of the event is sometimes far worse than the actual day. Common In-law issues during the holidays Family Loyalty – Pull toward the biological family “My wife feels guilty […]

Three Years After His Suicide, Her Guilt is Fading

Posted on November 26, 2008 - by Christa Scalies

By Christa Scalies —