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Change, the Unwanted Gift

Posted on June 1, 2022 - by Bernie Siegel

My wife died 10 days before I wrote these words. What I know I have lost is her physical body, and it makes me feel emptier than I have ever been. We were married for 63 years. At the same time, I have the sense that she’s still with me. What do I mean by that? I mean that her humor, beauty, love and spirit are still beside me and will never be lost by me. As many wise authors note, love is immortal and makes all things immortal. The bridge between the land of the living and the land […]

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Finding Your Inner Grief Guide

Posted on June 1, 2022 - by Bernie Siegel

Finding My Inner Grief Guide Many years ago, I attended a workshop to enhance my ability to empower my cancer patients to recover. We were taught about imagery and asked to close our eyes and visualize what the physician described to us. He wanted us to find an inner grief guide. I had no belief in what he discussed, so sat with my eyes open looking at him on the stage. When he looked at me and could see I wasn’t following his directions, I closed my eyes to trick him. That’s when interesting things happened. I am an artist […]

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My New Girlfriends: Pets and Grieving

Posted on June 1, 2022 - by Bernie Siegel

I can’t help but reflect on how caring and wise my family’s animals are. My wife died a little over two years ago, and I have remained at home with our 4-legged children who are wonderful companions. I find that pets and grieving are a good combination. They are caring and, in my case, they try to fill in as much as possible for my wife. My wife and I shared a queen-sized bed for many decades. I have kept it just the way it was when she was lying beside me. I have had so many mystical and wonderful […]

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Memory of a Death

Posted on May 31, 2022 - by Mary-Frances O'Connor

Memory of a Death When a loved one has died, we have a memory of learning that they died. This memory of a death might be of the phone call informing you that your brother died. It’s etched in your mind with lots of detail—where you were in the dining room, what you were cooking, how hot it was in the room, the smell of onions. These are what we call episodic memories; they are detailed memories of a specific death. A Father is Dying Perhaps your memory of a death occurred because you were there when it happened. When […]

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Butterfly Represents Woman After Death

Posted on May 23, 2022 - by Bernie Siegel

The Journey to Hawaii Several years ago, one of the cancer patients I counseled told me she was going to the Hawaiian island of Kauai, where her mother lived. The patient intended to resolve her difficulties with her mother and die there. She accomplished all that she had hoped for and died there feeling loved, complete and at peace with herself. About eighteen months after my patient’s death, my wife Bobbie and I were invited to the island of Kauai to do an outdoor weekend workshop. I was thrilled to go because I love the islands and feeling close to […]

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Hey, Widowers: What’s the Hurry to Remarry?

Posted on May 23, 2022 - by Herb Knoll

Suddenly, it hits you, you’re a widower, and you don’t want to live the rest of your life alone. You always knew that most women outlive their husbands, so the chances were good that you would never be widowed, and you wouldn’t have to worry about living life as a widower. What you may not realize is that one in five men will be widowed. There are approximately 3.25 million widowers in the United States alone, and most dread having to grow old by themselves. For whatever their reasons, most widowed men remarry, and they do so in short order. […]

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There’s a New Way to Do Grief

Posted on May 20, 2022 - by Nikki Scott

A New Way to Do Grief Try to think about the ways you have been taught how to grieve the loss of someone or something. When you were a child and someone in your family died, how did others react? Did you see outward expressions of grief? Did you talk about your feelings with others? Or did you see the opposite: stuffing feelings down, not talking about emotions, and putting on a happy face to move on with life? Most of the time, it is usually the latter, which is not the healthiest way to grieve the loss of someone […]

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‘You’re SO Strong’: A Misunderstanding of Grief

Posted on May 20, 2022 - by Brooke Carlock

In the months following my 10-year-old daughter Libby’s death, there was one phrase that I heard over and over again.  “You’re SO strong.” People whispered it in my ear in the midst of teary-eyed hugs.  They muttered it as they pityingly patted my back.  They surrounded me in groups and proclaimed it like an award.  They wrote it in condolence cards and social media comments. It was a phrase that might elicit extreme pride or snarky disdain, depending on my mood. “You’re SO strong.” Is ‘You’re So Strong’ a Compliment? This phrase always baffles me – perhaps because I don’t understand […]

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‘Heaven-Faith’ is Comforting

Posted on May 6, 2022 - by Fran Buhler

Death is a friend — not something to dread and fear. In our sorrow, there is One we can trust. We may trust the Holy One. Death comes under His jurisdiction. ​I have given much thought to death because I have spent a lot of time with grieving families in funeral homes and cemeteries. I have gone there hundreds of times for graveside services and the burial of dear ones loved by family and respected in the community. Always, this is an act of faith — never an empty ritual. ​In such moments, we discover “heaven-faith” is for real, offering […]

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How My Mother’s Loss Changed Me

Posted on May 6, 2022 - by Lori Koidahl

My Mother’s Loss Changed Me My metamorphosis commenced when I suffered the intense loss of my mom. Her death unraveled all my patterns, disrupted my life, and revealed how much I had taken for granted. It affirmed what was most precious to me. A part of me died and then a rebirth occurred. My thoughts, perceptions, and how I chose to live my life with the time I had left changed. It opened me up to myself and how I truly wanted to live. A life with purpose and meaning. Focused on connections. Connections with people, nature, animals, myself and […]

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