One of my favorite quotes about the grief journey comes from Rumi, a 13th century theologian and poet: Grief can be the garden of compassion. If you keep your heart open through everything, your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom.

I live next to a beautiful and very large cemetery that is more like a park than a cemetery; the grounds are meant to be park-like, no large headstones and the most gorgeous trees.

People come to this cemetery for its museums, churches, gorgeous fountains, beautiful meditation gardens and statues. I walk in it often because it is so quiet and serene.

I was quite inspired one day when I saw a mother goose with all her babies walking across the cemetery. What struck me about this is when we are grieving it is very difficult to look toward the new. In fact in the beginnings stages of grief it is nearly impossible. Yet, here it was right in front of me. My heart was open and I felt God was saying, Look Nina! Life and Mother Nature have a way of helping us with our grief, because the world does not stop does it? The flowers keep blooming no matter how harsh the winter, babies continue to be born even in storms.   As Rumi reveals to us in his poem if you keep your heart open through everything your pain can become your greatest ally in your life’s search for love and wisdom…

Let’s take this just a little further. As you go through your grief journey and acceptance is perhaps starting to make a home in your heart, you begin to change. Here is the rebirth. As we accept and allow our lives to move forward we may begin to let go of things. For example, maybe you have cleaned the garage, a closet, cabinets or dressers. Maybe you have shredded all the old paperwork you didn’t need or have gone to counseling and let go of feelings that didn’t serve you anymore. This is all “movement” in that movement one makes space for new things to be born, you are creating your rebirth.  This may sound strange but I know it works because I have witnessed it time and time again.

Energy clearing is no different than taking a shower daily. Letting go of things whether it is tangible (heavy) matter or feelings of anger and sadness we create space for the new to come. Keeping your space energetically clean is just as important as physically clean. I will add here letting go of toxic people that you don’t feel at peace or happy with is a big one too. As you move through the days and years to come do a little inventory and I bet you will find as you let some things go that didn’t make you happy anymore you will find that something new may have popped in.  It could be a new friend, a job opportunity or a new way of looking at life.

Wishing you peace on the journey.


Nina Impala

NINA IMPALA is a highly intuitive multifaceted individual. This she combines with professional education in the End-of-Life Field. Certified by The American Academy of Bereavement for Spiritual Facilitation for the Terminally Ill, Nina also holds a BA in Human Services, is a graduate of Mueller College of Holistic Studies, Author of Dearly Departed What I Learned About Living From the Dying, and a Reiki Master Teacher. Currently she is the Bereavement Coordinator and Counselor for Gentiva Hospice in San Diego, California. For well over 19 years Nina has worked passionately in the hospice field using her gifts visiting the dying and educating families. In addition to working with hospice patients and their families Nina has also assisted families through tragic deaths. Nina works passionately helping them to understand that as much as we would like to have all the answer to the big questions accepting that we don't can be a big hurdle. Nina feels,finding peace in these situations is the greatest gift you can give to another human being. Nina lives in the San Diego area and can be reached at

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