This is an excerpt from Embracing Life After Loss: A Gentle Guide for Growing Through Grief by Allen Klein. Available on Amazon at https://www.amazon.com/Embracing-Life-After-Loss-Growing/dp/1642500062/ref=sr_1_1?crid=330F5I7PHDK96&keywords=embracing+life+after+loss+klein&qid=1579904828&sprefix=Embracing+lif%2Caps%2C219&sr=8-1
Life is risky; we are all acrobats tiptoeing over one bridge or another. To a tightrope walker the rope is just like home. Those who hold their bodies lightly and their minds simply may seem in danger, but they are safe. —Chinese scroll saying
Recently I received an email from a woman who lost her young husband in a car crash. She said that with his death, her “life has not been and never will be the same.”
And she is right. It never will be the same. But that does not mean that her life, or yours after your loss, cannot be fulfilling.
One of the things that death teaches us is that life is short; if you want to do something, you probably should not put it off, or you may never get to do it. Death also teaches us that life is filled with risks and that we need to take some of those risks if we are to reap life’s rewards.
After my wife died, I realized it was time to confront some of those risks and do things I had been putting off for years. I learned to drive a car for the first time at the age of forty-two. I went back to school to get my master’s degree. I gave up a business I co-owned and started a new one.
In spite of your loss and the feeling that your life may never be the same, the death of a loved one can bring a surprisingly new life. I encourage you to seek yours.
What small risk can you take today that might help you live fully again?