This is an excerpt from The Five Ways We Grieve, available at Barnes & Noble, and Amazon:
When we lose a loved one, fear is one of the strongest emotions we feel. Fear for our safety and our basic security, fear about what will happen to us and our family. Fear of not being able to manage our responsibilities on our own. Fear of being alone.
When we feel connected to others and to the universe, however, we will not feel fear because, as Borysenko tells us: “Fear cannot exist where there is connectedness because the core of fear is isolation.”
So many people think that their feelings of grief are unique, that no one can understand their agony. Whether you are hurting from decades-old memories or aching from a recent loss, I assure you that you are not alone. The death of a loved one is such a personal event.
Yet Donne’s words remind us that we are all interconnected. “Grief is to be shared with others, perhaps to lessen the burden on the mourners themselves or to remind us that grief is a universal experience. “