2.I am 41 yrs old man. From my school days I used to like a classmate of mine. Though I loved her so much it was beyond my scope to express it. I used to love her within my own mind. Ultimately she was married to another person 18 years back and I was married later to a different woman. All went well until 5 years back when her husband died. I was shocked but stayed normal and could not meet her until recently. When I saw her personally, since then a pain started hurting me all the time. This grief is disturbing me in day to day activities. I wanted to speak and meet her regularly but she is not interested . She has children and also I do have. Please advise me how to get out of this grief.