Many of us who have lost a loved one dread the holiday season. This can be for many reasons. Maybe the death occurred around this time of year, or maybe the traditions that no longer take place, leave a void and a sadness in our hearts. No matter what the situation may be, everyone else appears happy and joyful, and those of us who are grieving feel empty and alone.

To help ease the pain, think about things you can do to include your loved one into the upcoming season. Consider buying a special ornament to hang on the tree in their memory. You can start a tradition where each family member makes or purchases a unique ornament, and everyone gathers to hang them on the tree together. This activity will bring family members closer together and give everyone a chance to recall their favorite memories of the one who is no longer here.

While you are decorating, you can arrange a photo of your loved one and a candle near an angel statue or something symbolic to you. Each day or night, you can light the candle to include them in this special time of year. Feel free to jot down a note for them if you get the urge. It will help you release the emotions and also make you feel closer to the one you are missing. You can put the notes in a stocking that is hung especially for your loved one.

Giving always brings about good feelings inside. You may want to make a donation to an under privileged child in memory of your loved one. There are many angel trees at local department stores and community centers that need donations of toys and clothing.

Getting through this time of year can be extremely rough, but you will get through it. Support groups are always helpful, and during the holidays, they can help give you strength when you need it. If you feel that your grief is not being understood by others around you, find a local grief support group or online forum, where you can discuss your feelings with others who understand your pain.


Lora Mercado

In 2003, Lora C Mercado lost her infant son Alex, due to a congenital heart defect. After several years of working through her own grief, she felt the urge to help others who are experiencing such great loss and sadness. In tribute to her son's passing, Lora has been on a quest to help bring peace to those who are in a state of grief with her healing and inspirational books. Her first book, "Our Angels Await, Stories of Love from Beyond", includes true stories from people across the globe, who have had connections with loved ones who have passed away. These experiences will astound you and leave you with a comforting warmth, that the ones that we love never really leave our side, and are always encouraging us along the way. “365 Days of Healing: A Daily Workbook for Overcoming the Pain of Grief” is her latest book on grief healing. It can be found at Aside from authoring fifteen books, Lora C. Mercado is also a Usui Reiki Master Practitioner and ordained minister, who has married over 100 couples.

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