People seem to think the ache of missing our children would become more bearable over time. It doesn’t. In fact, some of my days now are more painful as the years go on, because I’m further and further since I last held my son safely in my arms. You’d think after all this time I’d be less caught off guard when I think of my son and I suddenly cannot breathe. I’m not. It doesn’t get easier to choke on air. It doesn’t get easier to live without a huge piece of your heart.
Over time I think we learn how to put grief in a backpack. Sometime it stays where we put it. And sometimes it’s impossible to put in its place, and it simply crushes us, and we let it weigh heavily on us until it eventually feels lighter again and we’re able to crawl out from underneath it. Then we take a few deep breaths and keep putting one foot in front of the other. And we hobble along (maybe sometimes we skip or run), until grief sneakily hides around a corner and trips us again when we least expect it.
This is the dance of grief.
Hello. I am one of the co-chairs of the Trauma Institute of Orange County, NY (Just a couple of counties up from NYC). I really love the work you’re doing. I was trying to find out where you lived as I was trying to determine if you were nearby enough to possibly do a training for us? If you aren’t nearby, are you aware of someone who might be interested in doing this? Of course we would pay whomever comes.
It would probably be easier to talk on the phone. Are you able to call?
Robin Gerry 845 291-2149
Co –Chair of the Trauma Institute of Orange County