If Spring makes you feel better and to feel new hope, that is a good, positive and nurturing thing. But it may not be true for everyone, and no one should feel they have to hide their true feelings. It is perfectly normal to experience new heightened grief and/or grief-related anxiety in Spring, just as it is in other seasons of the year. Although warmer, sunnier months can be nurturing and inspire new hopefulness, grief does not suddenly go away just because seasons change.
Spring generally brings a sudden flurry of change and things begin to move faster all around us. There is rebirth and renewal in nature as flowers and trees bloom and everything turns green again, and people quickly begin to flock to their favorite warm-weather activities. Try to take time to sit down make some plans that can nurture you and help you cope with your losses and grief.
A helpful way to respond to one’s anxiousness about spring and summer is to remind yourself that YOU are in control and that the warmer months offer unique opportunities for nurturing activities such as travel, planting gardens, nature walks, photography, family gatherings, star-gazing, and many other things.
And if it helps, take comfort in the belief that your precious loved ones are with you wherever you are and whatever you are doing.
Tags: grief, seasons, spring
I lost my husband 2 years ago this past March 5th. I have so much pain built up inside me, even though I have 27 great years of memories, I can’t seem to move on .Just the thought of him brings tears to my eyes sometimes crying uncontrollable I miss my best friend.
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Diane, I am truly very sorry to hear about your loss of your husband. Two years can seem like an eternity while grieving a loss (and sometimes like it’s been very recent at the very same time), but the truth is, grief can last a lifetime. That doesn’t mean you can’t move forward or experience new happiness, only that you may always feel grief for your loss.
I hope that you have strong support to help you carry and cope with your painful loss and grief. I think it is very important while grieving a loss to have others to talk to regularly about your loss and grief and the changes to your daily life. Not having adequate ways to express grief often prevents or stifles a person from being able to adjust again to the continuous forward motion of normal daily life. You grief is a part of your life now, but grief is a process not a way of life.
I would offer the advice to keep building and nurturing support in your life every day in some way, and in whatever ways you need it (family, friends, support groups, church, journaling, reading resources, meditation, yoga, hobbies, or anything else that helps you to cope). And those things will gradually help you to move to a new place beyond constant painful grief. I run the Grief Streets Peer Support Group on Facebook which is a group for daily casual conversations and mutual support for losses, grief and healing among new friends who understand loss firsthand. If you are interested please contact me or post here and I will send you the link. Kind Regards, John Pete
I lost my mom July 15 2013 my life is so so nothing is the same I still cant believe it some days
I miss her like crazy and there’s nothing and no one can take her place
I just go threw trying to find understanding of it all
I miss my MOM
Sharonda, I am very sorry for your loss of your precious mother. It’s so hard losing a parent (I lost my father to cancer in 2011). Some of the grief and sadness stays with us forever, but sharing with others and finding ways to honor and pay tribute to lost loved ones can certainly help a lot. A beautiful garden, a memory book, writing down stories & poems, a special candle to light at family gatherings to include your mother – or anything else that helps you honor and remember her in ways that gives you comfort.
Those many “little things” become big things in coping better and maintaining comforting daily bonds with loved ones who have died, and I hope they can help you, too. Kind Regards, John Pete
John,
I am the editor of The Compassionate Friends of the Pikes Peak Region and I was wondering if I might have permission to share your words with our bereaved parents? Full credit will be given as well as acknowledgement of the site Open to Hope. Your words will inspire.
Thank you.
Greetings, Please feel free to share Grief In Spring with your members at Compassionate Friends.
I also have a grief quotes Facebook page at http://www.facebook.com/dailygriefquotes your members might find helpful & supportive, if you are interested.
Kind Regards,
John Pete