Drs. Gloria and Heidi Horsley host episode 25 of The Open to Hope show, which features art therapist Barbara ‘Basia’ Mosinski and comedic author Carol Scibelli. These experts offer insight into using art and humor to help with the grieving process of a death of a loved one—and both women have used these techniques themselves. Losing a spouse, parent and step-son collectively meant tapping into their expertise and training to find a method of grief management that worked for them. Scibelli is the author of Poor Widow Me, which is a tool used by many to tackle the healing process with a humorous touch.
Using creativity to heal is critical, and it’s one of many techniques that can be used. Scibelli was married for 33 years to her high school sweetheart. He only lived one month after he was diagnosed with cancer. For months, all she wondered is, “How could this happen?” because they thought they were heading towards a happy ending. Writing the book is what helped the comedian get back to herself after becoming a young widow. Her friends told her immediately to start writing a blog and that’s what kick started the book.
Wired to Heal Your Way
As a comedian, Scibelli says she was always “wired to be funny” so it was a natural fit. “When do I take off my ring?” is a big question for widows and widowers. For Scibelli, it took a six year old asking why she was wearing it if she wasn’t married anymore. It was snippy, but honest, so Scibelli took it off. She began dating two years after her husband died.
Mosinski lost her stepson in a train accident in 1993, and she recently lost her mother. She immediately delved into art therapy after these losses, which was a natural fit. The episode closes with singer/songwriter Larry Stevens performing.