Once you become a bereaved parent, events that you once looked forward to, you now dread. Everything from the start of the school year right through to Memorial Day is filled with memories that now evoke as much pain as laughter. For most of us, however, it is that period of time between Thanksgiving and the New Year, the so-called “season of cheer,” with its emphasis on families, that overwhelms us. We sigh and we wonder, “How will I get through this?”
Something that is very healing is to take the emphasis off yourself and merge with others who stand in the same place. When we isolate ourselves and think in terms of “my loss,” we stand in a very lonely place. When we realize how common child-loss is, and connect with others who also address this challenge everyday of their lives, we are strengthened.
I formed The Prayer Registry in order to bring bereaved parents together for the purpose of sending prayers to all the children on the other side. Every member of “The Prayer Team” receives an announcement, informing them of who is due for prayer. In this way, each child’s “Prayer Date” is announced yearly. At “The Prayer Site”, prayers, both written and audio, are posted for the parents’ use. The Prayer Registry is located at my website: www.sheriperl.com.
I think what is so profound about this is that you begin to see that this is so much bigger than yourself, that it goes on every day of the week, and that you can support others and that they can and will support you. That’s the practical side from taking part in a group like this.
On the spiritual side is the fact that the energy from the prayers is healing to our children-in-spirit. Our children have been coming through mediums all over the globe and stating that the prayers help them. For me it is such a relief to know that we can still do something to help our children-in-spirit, that we can still gift them! How we love to give our children gifts!
I invite you to register your beloved children for prayer. To do so, send the full name as you would like it to be printed on The Prayer Registry Calendar and passing date to Sheri at: firstname.lastname@example.org and I will be honored to register your child and welcome you to The Prayer Team. This will not solve all of your challenges regarding the season of cheer, but it will give you a bit of a leg-up!
This is one club that none of us would join by choice, but since we find ourselves in this unfathomable place, we are stronger when we stand together.