When someone we dearly love passes on, we miss their physical presence. Even when we truly believe they are in a better place and that we will see them again one day, we miss seeing them, holding them, and hearing their voice. This need for a physical connection is so strong, many of us would gladly make a huge sacrifice for just one more brief moment of contact.

I’ve reached a stage in life where I’ve had to say goodbye to loved ones who passed on. In my case, both parents, a sister, a nephew, a niece, and countless uncles and aunts. . What I realized, however, is that when I yearn for a strong physical connection — to see them, touch the, hear them — I am actually trying to connect to them on a dimension where they no longer reside.

Yes, I do know they sometimes make themselves known in our physical dimension — a smell of cologne that seems to show up from nowhere, for example. But the majority of time I think about them, they exist in a spiritual dimension. If instead of yearning for a physical connection, I reach out to them with a more spiritual approach, I can connect to them more readily–but without the concrete validation that a physical connection brings. When I think of them with love, gratitude, and a peaceful heart I am actually CLOSER to them — for that is where they reside. We rise to higher levels of consciousness whenever we come from love and gratitude. And in doing so, we meet them.

We just have to believe what our heart tells us — that they are beside us in spirit — and not rely on our physical senses to validate that truth.

Paul Coleman

Paul Coleman

Dr. Paul Coleman is a psychologist in private practice for over 25 years. He specializes in relationship issues, anxiety, trauma, and grief. He is the author of 12 books including "FINDING PEACE WHEN YOUR HEART IS IN PIECES" and has appeared nationally on shows such as OPRAH, TODAY, and GERALDO. He has been quoted in numerous magazines and has written chapters in books such as "All-in-One Marriage Prep" and the scholarly book "Exploring Forgiveness." Dr. Coleman has a special interest in metaphysics and the role of spirituality in the context of psychotherapy.. He conducts workshops on intuition and has studied mediumship with several world-renowned teachers. For fun, Paul enjoys stage-acting and has appeared in regional theater productions for the past 15 years. Favorite productions include THE SECRET GARDEN, 1776, NOISES OFF, LOST IN YONKERS, and PROOF. Paul also wrote the play THE FOOT SHOOTERS which had its off-off Broadway debut in May, 2011. Dr. Coleman is happily married for 30 years. He and his wife Jody have three grown children.

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