Tis the season to be jolly. This verse from the Christmas song “Deck the Halls,” belies the sadness that many people feel during the winter holiday season.
Many folks are fortunate to be celebrating with family and friends. I wish you the best, if you are. But, if you are among those who have lost a loved one this year, this season may offer little comfort and joy. It may be difficult for you to participate in holiday festivities, let alone celebrate. You may wish to be alone, or spend quiet evenings with someone whom you care about – and who cares about you.
Honor your feelings.
Either way, I encourage you to look around and observe your loved ones, co-workers, friends and relatives. Be sensitive to their actions – do they seem reluctant to participate in holiday festivities? Quieter than usual? Staying to themselves or avoiding the group?
Don’t try to cheer them up! Just acknowledge their mood, and offer them an opportunity to talk if they want to. They will appreciate your sensitivity.
Susan Berger 2010