You May Be Wandering, But You May Not Be Lost

In the aftermath of some great loss, we tend to move through our days as a wanderer in an unfamiliar place. Everything looks the same and yet–somehow it feels so different. How do we move on? When will life start to feel any semblance of normality? We go through the motions, placing one foot in front of the other, knowing we must trudge forward but–to where? To what life? In this phase, our close friends yearn for us to somehow re-boot our system and take life on with renewed purpose. And that seems unimaginable to us

But it is precisely in this Wandering Phase that…magic can happen. For it is in our emptiness, in our aimlessness, that we open ourselves to meaningful happenstance, to unexpected insights, to synchronicity, We have nothing to lose so we open a seemingly random door and inside a welcome surprise awaits. It might be something small at first, or insignificant. So many of the most important experiences in our lives happened without being planned. Or, perhaps we did set a goal–to graduate college, for instance–but the friends we made along the way we had no idea we would meet. Wandering makes a goal-oriented person feel uneasy. But it also forces us to experience events we might otherwise never experience, or learn important lessons we might never have learned.

Paul Coleman

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Dr. Paul Coleman is a psychologist in private practice for over 25 years. He specializes in relationship issues, anxiety, trauma, and grief. He is the author of 12 books including "FINDING PEACE WHEN YOUR HEART IS IN PIECES" and has appeared nationally on shows such as OPRAH, TODAY, and GERALDO. He has been quoted in numerous magazines and has written chapters in books such as "All-in-One Marriage Prep" and the scholarly book "Exploring Forgiveness." Dr. Coleman has a special interest in metaphysics and the role of spirituality in the context of psychotherapy.. He conducts workshops on intuition and has studied mediumship with several world-renowned teachers. For fun, Paul enjoys stage-acting and has appeared in regional theater productions for the past 15 years. Favorite productions include THE SECRET GARDEN, 1776, NOISES OFF, LOST IN YONKERS, and PROOF. Paul also wrote the play THE FOOT SHOOTERS which had its off-off Broadway debut in May, 2011. Dr. Coleman is happily married for 30 years. He and his wife Jody have three grown children. He can be reached through his website or his office at 845-297-6198.

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