My son, my bestfriend

Jonathan came into this world on Aug 20, 1990. He was born with a head full of red hair. I was a single mom and was ready for our adventure. 5 year later I married a man and we had a daughter, Heather. I was content with my life, for awhile. I had one of each-a son and a daughter. 7 years later the marriage ended and I was back to being a single parent. The 3 of us were tight until Oct 16, 2009. My son was traveling from Hilton Head, SC to Summerville, SC for work. He had already worked 10 days straight, 14 hours a day. He was going to come home after Summerville and take a few days off to rest and spend time with family and friends. He never made it to Summerville. Jonathan fell asleep behind the wheel and hit a tree. He was not speeding but failed to have on his seat belt. He passed away instantly. He never knew. I hear people saw that they fear the worse call they could ever get about their child. So I ask what that fear is. They respond that their child is in jail. Oh how I wish I can have had that call instead from the coroner. That is the worse call. We never got to say goodbye, I love you, or anything.
this will be our second holiday season without Jonathan. Last year (our first) we were in a deep fog. I did not have Thanksgiving. My daughter and I stayed home alone. Christmas was horrible. I did not want to decorate. I did not want to leave home. My best friend (and my rock) talked me into atleast decorating since Jonathan loved Christmas time. So I did, with lots and lots of tears. But I am glad I did. I could feel him all around me. My daughter and I purchased a small 3 foot tree that we decorated with all his ornaments and added a few extras. We placed it in his room by the window for everyone to see. This year we have collected some more ornaments and plan on placing the tree in the dining room. I let his friends know to look for ornaments and to come place them on the tree in his HONOR. I am sure that next year, we will need a bigger tree. We will forever miss him and love him. Rest in Peace my son and one day we will be reunited. What a glorious day that will be!


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  • Karen Pretorius says:

    Reds Mom
    I feel your pain, and I share your pain. My beautiful daughter and my best frien, Alex Mazzoni was born on the 9th of March 1992, she passed away a few weeks ago, 10/10/2010 in a motorvehicle accident. This happened after their matric fairwell. A drunk driver collided into the vehicle my daughter was in. She was sitting in the back of the vehicle. The accident happened close to our home and we got to the accident scene while the police services was cutting away the debris of the car to get her out. I stood witness to her injuries and three and a half hours later her death at the hospital. I know that God was with her and that her precious soal is now with God. Still, knowing this I cannot forgive myself that I allowed my princess child whom had so much love for her fellow human beings, for her country (South Africa) and for us, her parents. to be out on the road at that time of the night. I love her, I miss her and I am unsure of the way foreward
    Alex’s Mom

  • Karen says:

    Dear Reds Mom
    Today my message to you is one of hope and love. God sent people our way to remind us of His love and my prayer now goes out to you and your family. My you feel the warmth and love of God and Jonathan this season
    Alex’s Mom

  • sonja says:

    Dear Reds Mom
    I live in Australia but we share the same pain..
    5 years ago my husband died as a result of a fall and now 2 weeks ago my darling 18 year old son… the man of the house.. died in a car accident he also hit a tree… Mitchell was the best boy anyone could meet… my eldest daughter has just had a baby and he was driving to go and help her with the new baby… He wasnt speeding but it was pouring rain… the police are at a loss to know what happened as it he was just 10 houses away from his sisters house…
    How much pain does a mother have to endure ??
    My heart was broken after my husband died but now I feel like its been ripped out…
    I can only hold onto my faith in God and believe that there is a reason for all of this and one day we will meet again….

    Just as we as mothers carry our children for 9 months we will carry our sons with us for the rest of our lives….
    Special people are chosen as mothers and thats you and me and as mothers we must go on ….. At this moment I dont know how but with Gods strength….
    Mitch’s Mum