This is an excerpt from Your Life After Their Death: A Medium’s Guide to Healing After a Loss available on Amazon at:


After your deceased loved ones leave their bodies, the strength of their vibration increases because nothing is separating them from their connection to God and everyone else. On the other hand, when you are depressed and are grieving for them, your energy is depleted. This energy shift on both sides makes communication with them more difficult because your vibrations are no longer on par with each other. In this chapter, I’ll be discussing how you can raise your vibration so that you will better be able to connect with those in the heavenly realm.

Set the Intention

The most important thing you first need to do is to set the intention that you want to connect with them. It sounds so simple, and it really is. When you set the intention of connecting, the law of attraction will bring them to you.

Your deceased loved ones don’t want to scare you and want to make sure it’s okay to give you messages. That’s why a simple declaration of, “I’m open to receiving messages and signs” will do wonders. After setting that intention, the universe will work in ways to make that happen, many times sending you the right people, books, classes, and so much more. All of these variables will help to raise your vibration, thus beginning the whole process of connecting with the celestial realm.

Become More Aware

Your deceased loved ones may stop trying to connect with you if you are not paying attention to the messages they are sending you. Therefore, once you have set the intention of connecting with them, make sure to be on the lookout for any type of correspondence from them.

Practice Forgiveness

Forgive those who have hurt you, and ask those you may have hurt to forgive you as well. When you hold onto anger, not only are you harming the other person, but you are also hurting yourself. As the old saying goes, “It’s not the snakebite that kills you; it’s the venom that’s left behind.”

 Be Compassionate

Have more compassion for everyone who crosses your path. Really love and try to help them in any way you can. When you send out only positive, loving thoughts and energy, you will feel so much better, and so will everyone else who comes in contact with you.

Pray and Meditate Daily

Praying is talking to God and the angels. Meditating is listening to them. As in any relationship, one must listen as well as speak. Therefore, make sure to take the time to pray and meditate daily if you are really serious about connecting with the celestial realm.

 See Through the Eyes of Others

After making your transition, you will go through a “life review” where you will see how you have affected all those in your path. You will actually be able to see how your actions have impacted them, through their eyes. The good part is that you don’t have to die to go through this process. You can go through it now, before it’s too late. Try to see through the eyes of others right here and now to create peace in your life and in the lives around you.  (I discuss this in much greater detail in Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium’s Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now.)

 Purify Your Emotions

Begin to clear any negative emotions you may be carrying around with you, which may include guilt, pride, anger, fear, or jealousy. These emotions interfere with your spiritual growth and block out the special light of the celestial realm.  

Be Grateful

Be grateful for all the blessings in your life. When you focus upon all the good things in your life, even greater things will come to you. An added benefit of having an attitude of gratitude is that it will also raise your vibration immensely.

Go Outside in Nature

One of the quickest ways to raise your vibration is to go outside in nature. Bask in the glory of God’s natural environment; breathe in the fresh air and walk barefoot in the grass. You’ll be amazed how much better you will feel when you immerse yourself in our earth’s effortless beauty.

Stay Away From Sugar

Sugar also diminishes your psychic abilities.  When I first read about this in a psychic development book, I didn’t want to listen because I love chocolate and sweets so much. However, I noticed the messages I received in my readings were so much clearer after I eventually did go “sugar free.” Again, try staying away from sugar for a few days to see what happens for you.

Stay Clear of Nicotine, Caffeine, and Drugs

If you are serious about connecting with your deceased loved ones, it is best if you stay away as much as possible from nicotine, caffeine, and drugs. The good part is that you will actually begin to notice that you will no longer crave these substances after practicing everything I’ve been talking about in this chapter. That’s because you’ll already be getting a “natural high” from your elevated vibration and won’t need any outside substances to make you feel better.

Reprogram Your Way of Thinking

The types of thoughts you are thinking create a corresponding state of mind. Therefore, it makes sense that if you want to raise your vibration, it is important to reprogram your thoughts so that they are more of a positive and loving nature.

Trust in Your Ability to Connect

Just having the faith that you can connect raises your vibration. Remember, you won’t be able to attract messages and signs from your loved ones if your attention is on your inability to do so. Therefore, make sure to trust that you really are capable of communicating with them!

 Clear Your Chakras

As stated in Chapter 5, cleaning your chakras raises your vibration and opens up your psychic abilities so that you’re in a better position to connect with the higher energies of the celestial realm. (You may wish to reread the exercises on how to clear these energy centers within your body in Chapter 5).

Use Crystals and Stones

You may want to carry certain crystals or stones to amplify your vibration. When I began doing readings, I always carried a stone called a prehnite with me. This stone helps open up the third eye to enhance communication with deceased loved ones. I also used a crystal called a phenakite, which is the most powerful crystal on earth available. It is said to open the third eye and crown chakras, and it aids in clairvoyance, spiritual communication, meditation, and astral travel.

An amethyst is also an excellent stone to use because it stimulates the crown chakra, opening up communication with the heavens. And finally, one of my personal favorites is a beautiful blue gemstone called angelite. As its name suggests, it aids in communication with angels and deceased loved ones.

Experiment with different stones and crystals to see which ones feel right for you. What works well for one person may not work well for another. You will be able to find a huge selection of crystals at any Native American or New Age store. Select the ones that you are drawn to and then hold them to see if they resonate with you.

Also, make sure to cleanse your crystals when you get them home because they retain the energy from their previous environment. An easy way to cleanse your crystals is to leave them outside, either in the moonlight overnight, or in the sunlight during the daytime.


Remember, those in the celestial realm want to connect with you as much as you want to connect with them. They will be so thankful that you are taking all the steps necessary to be more on par with their frequency. After you’ve mastered the techniques included in this chapter to raise your vibration, not only will you feel better physically, spiritually, and emotionally, but you will also be enhancing your ability to hear what your precious deceased loved ones are trying to say to you.


Karen Noe

Karen Noe is a renowned New Jersey-based psychic medium, spiritual counselor, and healer with a two-year waiting list. She is the author of "The Rainbow Follows the Storm: How to Obtain Inner Peace by Connecting with Angels and Deceased Loved Ones," "Through the Eyes of Another: A Medium's Guide to Creating Heaven on Earth by Encountering Your Life Review Now," and "Your Life After Their Death: A Medium's Guide to Healing After a Loss." She is the founder of the Angel Quest Center in Ramsey NJ, where she teaches classes, gives readings, and practices alternative healing. You can listen to Karen on The Angel Quest Radio Show by tuning to on the first Saturday of every month at 1.05pm Eastern. P

More Articles Written by Karen